One of my favorite Asbury Park memories this year was sliding down the historic 30 foot long, brass fire pole at the firehouse. So much history around that pole and a very exclusive club of heroes has slid down it – I was honored and exhilarated to have done that in 2009.
Another amazing Asbury Park moment for me was going to my first Springsteen concert at Convention Hall. As someone said to me afterwards, I have been “baptized into the religion of Bruce Springsteen.”
In celebration of the New Year, community members generously shared their favorite times of 2009…
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Mayor Ed Johnson:
“My favorite memory would have to be my dad changing my name plate from councilman to mayor during the reorganization and inauguration meeting on July 1.”
Sonja O’Brien, Asbury Park resident:
“In September, during the Town Wide Yard Sale for the animal shelter Rescue Ridge we had tons of shoppers from surrounding towns and it was wonderful to hear them realize how wonderful the houses are and how great the residents are in Asbury Park. Seeing them excited about our great town was an unexpected byproduct of a worthwhile fundraiser.”
Marj Conn, Ocean Grove writer and performer:
“Every amazing program that Frank D’Alessandro provides at the Stephen Crane House – an important asset to the community – as well as generously letting other people present their programs is a wonderful memory of mine.”
Pasqualina Delucia, Madison Marquette:
“I remember standing on the beach watching everyone around the bonfire…young, old, single, couples, families…that great Asbury mix. There were children running around all bundled up, laughing and I remember thinking at that moment that we were creating new memories – that this is their Mr. Peanut, this is their Carousel brass ring. This is one of those moments that they will look back on fondly years from now. I get choked up even thinking about it.”
State Senator Sean Kean:
“Over the summer, it was exciting to see the beaches in Asbury Park packed with visitors and the boardwalk shops bustling with business. The increase in tourism revenue surpassed $500,000 this year, up from less than $50,000 six years ago. Asbury Park has definitely reclaimed its name as the destination of the Jersey Shore.”
Our votes and donations to their campaigns are first-class however it is apparent that many New Jersey politicos believe our lives and loves are second-class – they won’t be spreading holiday cheer this year by endorsing the Gay Marriage Bill.
“I believe marriage should be between a man and a woman,” said Senator Sean Kean in an exclusive interview with The Coaster and TheBPlot earlier this week. “After giving it serious thought, careful consideration, having met with numerous folks from both sides of the aisle, I don’t plan on supporting the bill.”
Asbury Park resident Amy Quinn suggests New Jersey residents should continue lobbying their representatives.
“Urge your friends in towns throughout New Jersey to put pressure on their senators to support marriage equality,” said Amy. ”We need everyone to play a role in this struggle – not just gay people. “
Below is where the Bill stands now:
The gay marriage bill was approved by the Senate Judiciary Committee, (Senator Sean Kean is not on this committee so he was not a part of this vote).
The bill was then posted for a vote in the Senate, but it was shortly after removed from the list by the sponsors.
The Senate would like the Assembly to vote on the bill first.
The next steps would be for the Assembly Judiciary Committee to vote on the bill on January 4th and if passed there, then the bill could be voted on by the Assembly and the Senate on January 7th or 11th.
However, at this time, the bill has not been scheduled for a vote.
Five senators issued a statement Friday (Dec. 18) expressing their suport for “strengthening New Jersey’s civil union law.”
“A civil union is a legal contract, and the terms must be respected,” Senator Andrew Ciesla said. “No one can ignore the law.”
“It should be just as easy for civil union couples to split assets or to go through probate as it is for married couples,” said Senator Christopher “Kip” Bateman, who urged reform of the civil union laws while hearing testimony on the issue before the Senate Judiciary Committee. “I would support any reasonable legislation that ensures this happens in every case.”
“If medical coverage is offered to spouses and other dependents, then it also should be offered to civil union partners,” Senator Sean Kean said. “We will do everything possible to ensure that no partner in a civil union is denied medical care.”
A New Jersey lobbyist, who has been fighting tirelessly for gay marriage for years, sees differently.
“The statement by the five republicans reflected absolutely nothing new,” said Steve Goldstein of Garden State Equality. ”We look forward to winning marriage equality in the next few weeks.”
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TheBPlot.com presents an extended exclusive Q & A, in which photographer Joe Oppedisano reveals the new gay “look,” tips for making your own racy home movie and more…
Bears, Otters, Wolves, Cubs – it will be an adult version of Animal Planet, Saturday (Nov. 28) at RIDE, a party produced by Brad Hurtado, for the bear and leather communities the evening of the Santa Saturday benefit.
“Thanks to the thousands of men who pour into town for a daytime benefit, the weekend has become a really great time to play in our city” said Brad. “This year, all those randy men will be at the Stone Pony after the benefit for a night of sweaty fun.”
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I spoke with Joe Oppedisano, photographer – known for his iconic hyper-masculine images – who will shoot a performance art piece with super-sexy models for his next project in the middle of RIDE.
TBP: I need to get this out of the way – you worked with one of my all-time favorite people, the gorgeous Amy Sedaris (“Sex in the City,” “Strangers With Candy”) [photo right] whose brother wrote about her hating to look glam in photos. The photos you took are both glam and awkward. Tell me everything.
Joe: Amy and I have been friends and neighbors for 15 years. She needed press shots to promote her book “I Like You…” so I begged her to let me make her glam. She came out of the dressing room with an amazing dress and fake flies all over her face.
She has a great sense of herself and knows what she wants. That’s why she has the gay boys wrapped around her finger.
TBP: Levi Johnston (the bane of Sarah Palin’s existence) just…err… famously did his photo shoot for Playgirl. How would you have photographed him?
Joe: (Laughing) I think he is heaven. He came out of nowhere and now is everywhere. I would like to photograph him on a set like the White House lawn surrounded by political powerhouses in farm-type clothes holding pitchforks and shovels – very American Gothic.
TBP: Who is a bigger inspiration to you, James Dean, Joan Crawford or Brad Hurtado?
Joe: Brad and Joan are neck and neck…they are both such big b&%$#@!.
TBP: Ha. So, what can we expect with your performance art show during RIDE?
Joe: Expect a lot honey…and I am going to give you more than that. It’s going to be hot. I am bringing at least four models.
One model, a Hothouse exclusive, Junior Stellano, grew up in Asbury Park. He is the epitome of the Latin-Italian super hunk. Naturally ripped. Gorgeous as can be.
Another model who is coming is Chris Raucci [photo right]. He is 25 years old and the 2010 version of a twink and he loves bears.
TBP: What actually is a bear in the gay world? Is Brad Pitt with that new shaggy beard a bear?
Joe: I think a bear is a gay man, over 40 years old, who is hyper-masculine and can’t be bothered spending 15 hours grooming or eating salads. Brad Pitt is just annoying.
TBP: After this weekend, I am betting everyone will have had a lesson in “bear.”
TBP: You are also a videographer. Any advice for guys planning on sexting or making an adult film of their own later on in the evening?
Joe: (laughs) It’s all about lighting. It’s all about angles…good close ups. Just have fun…and go for it. I have done two adult films.
TBP: Out community has gone through muscle guys, twinks, smooth guys and more. What is the up-and-coming new “gay look”?
Joe: I am sooo into the next generation right now…guys who are 25 and under. There are so many beautiful boys. The kid Chris I spoke about earlier has the new look – not a twink, green eyes, skinny ripped body – shredded with a great attitude.
Friendly reminder: Saturday (Nov. 28), from 7 to 10 pm, TheBPlot and The Coaster readers are invited to the launch party for the 2010 Asbury Park Firefighters calendar in the Third Avenue Pavilion. Click here for your invitation. Which month will your favorite firefighter represent?
Only at the TheBPlot and in The Coaster will you find an exclusive interview with Madison Marquette’s Pasqualina Delucia.
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The fab Pasque took the time to reveal the company’s new focus after the recession, plans for Summer 2010, recent staff changes, with a point of assuaging fan’s concerns about potentially stalled progress on their beloved boardwalk.
TBP: With a smaller team (Courtney and Megan most recently gone) working towards Madison Marquette and the beachfront’s goals, boardwalk fans are concerned about the area’s future progress and next summer. What will change? What is going on?
Pasqualina: It’s true that we are leaner at the moment. We are shifting our focus from construction to programming, marketing and retail operations – making the boardwalk an even more vibrant and exciting shopping and entertainment experience. To that goal, we will be bringing in additional key members to our staff, such as a Retail Manager and Marketing Coordinator.
In the interim, we have an amazing extended team stepping in to assist with events, marketing and programming. This includes, but is not limited to Jonathan Badaracco, manager of The Beach Bar, Teresa Minnick, manager of Wesley Grove and also strong support for our Washingon, DC group.
Also, we can’t forget Boardwalk tenants and Asbury Park community members who have lent – and hopefully will continue to lend – their support and involvement. We are thankful for everyone’s efforts.
We will definitely continue to program great events in 2010 - even more than in 2009. We are committed to doing more with less.
Not to worry, Madison Marquette is dedicated to ensuring waterfront projects will continue to grow exponentially in years to come.
Read The Coaster every week for the most current news about the waterfront, boardwalk and surrounding cities.
Mayor Ed Johnson, City Manager Terry Reidy, terrestrial beings and other-worldly spirits celebrated the launch of Paranormal Books & Curiosities’ new Paranormal Museum, Friday (Nov 13, appropriately) and its first exhibition – “The Jersey Devil: Expedition of 1812.”
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“The museum is the culmination of years of work and research,” said Kathy Kelly, curator and owner. “Everyone is invited to come, explore and decide for themselves.”
The museum – great for all ages – reveals many little-known and never-before-known facts about the Leeds Devil (aka the Jersey Devil) and every confirmed sighting across the state. It seems the Devil gets around more than an Asbury Park hooker, my friends – it doesn’t limit itself to the Pine Barrens.
Hottie Josh Gates of SyFy Channel’s “Destination Truth” just spent a day at the museum researching the Jersey Devil and taped an episode to air in March, according to the show’s website.
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TheBPlot was the first to bring you the scoop on the making of the Asbury Park Firefighter Calendar and the only outlet to take you behind the scenes of the photo shoot (click here). Today, The Coaster and TheBPlot are the only media with the full-story.
The first Asbury Park Firefighter calendar will be unveiled next Saturday (Nov. 28) at the Third Avenue Pavilion, revealing an another wonderful side of some of the city’s biggest heroes.
I had the honor of bearing witness to the photo shoot, spending time with our beyond-amazing firefighters and I could not wait to tell you about it – here and in The Coaster – before any other publications.
“We have joked about doing a calendar for years at the firehouse,” said Chief Kevin Keddy, leader of the busiest fire department, per capita, in New Jersey. “I thought it was a great idea when ArtsCAP approached me after the Fall golf outing.”
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The 2010 calendar, proceeds benefitting the Fire Department Building Fund and ArtsCAP, was photographed over two days in late October with fourteen ladder men (one for each month and the front and back covers).
As award-winning photographer Alan Barnett’s camera began to click, the new models quickly became competitive; attempting to ensure their photo was the best by grabbing cool props including gear, saws, hoses and even the Jaws of Life.
“Their enthusiasm was contagious,” said Alan. “When Jason Fazio appeared for his shoot, he had already applied mineral oil to his arms and he good-naturedly tried to outdo his friend Gavino by choosing a larger axe as a prop. When I asked if he would scale a ladder to the second story of the firehouse, he was up there before I could focus my camera.”
Wives, fiancé and even one mother-in-law stopped by to check out the making of the calendar, encouraging the guys further and energizing the interviews I conducted to develop a backgrounder to accompany calendar photo.
“These guys are beautiful inside and out and we hope everyone sees that more now,” commented Michele Conklin, Firefighter Conklin’s wife, via TheBPlot.com.
Purchase the calendar for $15 and learn who considers himself shy and is looking for an extraverted lady, who wanted to “chase fires, not money,” who has “too many tattoos to mention” and who enjoys classic Russian literature.
One hysterical firefighter asked me to describe his “marital status as complicated” however I thought he might not find it as funny in 2010, so I left that comment out.
Every one of the firefighters I had the pleasure of meeting during the 16 hour shoot – many more than the 14 who are part of the calendar – was a kind, selfless, dedicated and fearless gentleman. All honest-to-goodness life-saving heroes in the flesh.
Buy one of them lunch or a cup of coffee the next time you see him.
“Bringing together two very important institutions was great,” said Dennis Carroll, president, ArtsCAP. “I was most delighted with the hospitality – we all felt like were members of the department when we left.”
The fourteen firefighters (twelve months plus one cover guy and one back-cover guy) – their names revealed here for the first time – who generously participated in the making of the calendar and deserve our thanks: Marcus Blackmon, Patrick Castellano, Carney Conklin, Rick Dawson, Rich Dreyer, Jason Fazio, Jon Hart, Courtland Heyniger, Mike Mautner, Gavino Siciliano, Ronald Slinger, Andre Spann, Jamar Stephens and Christian Stevens.
Aaaaaand on top of everything, I had once-in-a-lifetime Asbury Park moment; I slid down the gorgeous, original, brass, 30 foot long, finial topped fire pole…twice!
So which of the equally fab firefighters will be the 2010 cover guy? Which month will your favorite firefighter represent? All will be revealed on Nov. 28th. Launch party is 7 pm to 10 pm at the Third Avenue Pavilion. TheBPlot reader’s invitation, click here.
The calendar will be available through ArtsCAP.org and local businesses, including: Bodega, Heaven, Mike’s Beach House and Shelter Home. Supplies are limited.
The Found Footage Festival guys, Nick Prueher and Joe Pickett, reveal the best thrift store in America and more in this web exclusive. For TheBPlot’s interview last week, also published in The Coaster, click here.
Nick and Joe’s brilliant show is this Saturday (Nov. 14) at Asbury Lanes, 10 pm. Doors open way earlier.
TPB: How do you two decide whether a clip makes it in show? Do you guys wrestle if you disagree?
Nick Prueher (Co-Curator, Found Footage Festival): For us, the litmus test on whether a video makes the show is whether it is unintentionally funny. Whatever the video was trying to do, it has to fail colossally, but in an entertaining way.
We came to heads recently over how much of this “Rich Little VCR Charades” video to include in our VCR Games montage. Rich Little keeps breaking out into these terrible impressions for no reason at all. It’s painful, so the debate was how much could people handle. I lobbied for less, but Joe wanted more. We settled on something in between.
TBP: Does the clip have to be old school and on VHS to be considered? Are YouTube and EBay part of your research or solely brick and mortar thrift stores and audience members?
Nick: We are decidedly old-school when it comes to video procurement, so we don’t take anything off the internet. All of our videos are turned up by digging through video bins at thrift stores, browsing garage sales and even searching in garbage cans. To us, the story of how we found a video is just as important as what’s on it, so taking footage off YouTube seems like cheating.
If anyone has found a video in or around Asbury Park, we highly encourage them to bring it to the show. We love meeting people and hearing the stories of how they found particular tapes – it’s how we keep the show going.
TPB: What’s a clip that has not made it in the show but is memorable?
Nick: There is one video that I’ll never forget, no matter how hard I try. It was this tape that a fan sent in to guitarist Steve Vai to win his affection. In it, this young woman performs various odd sexual stunts that I can’t really describe in mixed company. It’s pretty goofy, but the woman clearly has a few screws loose, so it’s a little more disturbing than funny.
TBP: Do you see current-day clips that would be in the show 15 years from now? Ever think, “I wish I could put that in the show now” – like a clip with Paula Abdul?
Nick: Oh yeah, sometimes you don’t need any time or distance to appreciate something ironically. The one DVD I bought as soon as it came out was R. Kelly’s “Trapped In a Closet” opus. And just a couple of years ago, we found a DVD in a thrift store that was a training video for Elvis impersonators.
TBP: In the Found Footage Festival, you use clips featuring Rue McClanahan, Goldie Hawn and other celebs. Do you ever hear from the celebs or other subjects in your show?
Nick: We haven’t heard from any of the celebs in our show, but we love tracking down the subjects of our videos. Hearing from Julia Roberts really wouldn’t do much for me, but meeting the stunt man in an insurance safety video was a dream come true.
TBP: The Asbury Park area has some great thrift stores. What are some of the best thrift stores across the country?
Nick: We’re really looking forward to hitting the Asbury Park thrift stores when we get to town. One of our favorite thrift stores of all time is this place called Bishop’s Attic in Anchorage, Alaska. It was this untapped goldmine of awesome VHS tapes.
TBP: If you found a Michael Jackson clip would you use it?
Nick: Most definitely…I wonder is “Captain EO” ever turned up on VHS.
TBP: Finally…Nick, you worked at The Colbert Report which is the absolutely most consistently brilliant show on TV. How did you get the politicians to sit down with the show’s corespondents and answer those fab questions?
Nick: I don’t know exactly how it works, but people love being on TV, even if it means they may come off as jackasses. That basic principle has fueled “The Daily Show” and “Colbert” for many years.
Last week, my mom, read a short story that she wrote, at a workshop at the Crain House. Her writing was about her life in Poland prior to coming to America at 10 years old. A lot of the difficult memories she shares at her own pace, in her own way, in her own time with me still pain her greatly.
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I am so proud of my shy-ish mom for summoning the strength to tell one compelling story publicly. She has never, ever, shared any of her writing with anyone else before now. It has been 50 years in the making.
With her approval, I wanted to share her true story with you. It does not have a title. I don’t think it needs one right now:
It was early evening. Zosia (my cousin) and my Aunt Katherine were both trying to tie on the wings of my costume. I was an angel in the school’s Christmas Nativity Scene. We were sitting on the bed of what served as the kitchen / bedroom / living room of our small three-room home, located on a farm in Godowa, Poland.
The Germans had invaded and occupied Poland a few years before.
I was happy and giggling with pride over my costume. To a five year old, to be an angel – with a speaking part in an upper class man’s play – was a great honor.
Zosia and my Aunt shared my joy. Zosia, a few years older than me, was a skilled seamstress. She sewed the gown and made the fragile wings. My costume was beautiful.
As we fussed with the wings, we were startled by the loud bang of the kitchen door being thrown open. A man came in. He was a stranger. In a small farming town not too many strangers come to visit – especially after dark.
The stranger was in a Nazi uniform – a uniform that I, by now, had learned to recognize.
The stranger seemed angry and agitated and was shouting at us. I could barely understand what he was saying; as he was shouting he was pointing to a round object in his hand.
I realized it was a hand grenade.
“One of your neighbors reported that you are hiding a Jewish family in your stajnia (cellar),” he said. “Show me where they are or I will kill you.”
Again, pointing at the grenade.
My Aunt pleaded with him saying that we are not hiding anyone.
“Please take all the food you want,” she said. “Please don’t hurt the child.”
The man kept on shouting not hearing her pleas. He threw down the grenade into the center of the room.
We sat there – very still, silent – not daring to breathe.
The grenade was a dud. The grenade was a dud.
The stranger left as suddenly as he came.
Zosia, Aunt Katherine and I went to the Christmas Pageant. I was the best angel – I did not forget my lines.
By Sophie Stach Virgilio
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Which month will your favorite firefighter represent?
Saturday, November 28. 7 pm to 10 pm
Third Avenue Pavillion, Asbury Park
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Light refreshments. Live music.
Calendars will be sold and firefighting heroes will be in attendance.
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Proceeds from the sale of the calendar benefit
the Fire Department Building Fund and ArtsCAP.
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Answers to the most common questions asked about “You Say Who” – the area’s only gossip column…
Q: Where does your information come from?
A: From you – from readers, from friends, from strangers, from people who work in the area or own businesses here, from local decision makers and influencers, from publicists.
At the recent Zombie Walk, someone stopped me at the Brick Wall while I was on my way to the bathroom to give me a tip. The column would not exist if it were not for sources - I am grateful for every one.
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I guesstimate that 75 percent of the information I receive doesn’t have the substance behind it to publish is beyond mean or is inappropriate for TheBPlot. Also, there are some stories I have in my pocket that I believe will turn into something down the road however timing-wise or fact-wise, I can’t publish it right now.
Q: How do you know that a source is telling the truth?
A: I don’t. I check out every piece of information independently – by working the phone, email, internet and other sources. My name is behind everything on TheBPlot.com so I take a lot of time ensuring, as best I can, what’s on the site is solid. I also have a coterie of dear attorney friends who believe in this site and guide me as needed.
Working for Howard Stern and Maury Povich – pre-interviewing and screening hundreds of people every week – and briefly with the “National Enquirer”, I’ve developed a reflexive sense about who simply doesn’t have the whole story, who has a grudge and who is completely lying. Then there are also the sources who “pop” – these are the highly cherished sources who time and again come through with concrete info, quickly and succinctly.
Q: Will you reveal a source?
A: Never.
Q: Where did you get the idea for the column?
A: Lord knows I love pop culture and gossip. I read the autobiographies of some of the first – and best – gossip columnists Louella Parsons and Hedda Hopper (1930’s to 1960’s) and translated some of their ideas for Asbury Park. Hedda was the first to develop “blind items” – brief stories that dont mention the subjects name.
Today, I read the New York papers every day, flipping past the pressing news of the day first to my friend Richard Johnson’s “Page Six” and Cindy Adams’ column.
Q: Are the people you write about pissed?
A: Sometimes, probably and no. FYI, I have sources who give tips about themselves and their business partners and family, too. My goal is not to make people miserable – it’s to make readers laugh, think and talk. The soul of the column is meant to be fun.
The people who present themselves as believing gossip is beneath them or it “tarnishes” the site, are the same people who stop me at Wegman’s asking me who I wrote about last week in “You Say Who”.
Q: Who designed the photo in “You Say Who”?
A: The talented Billy Mecca, publisher of BeachBlog.me and SALT.
Q: Why have gosspy “You Say Who” on the site?
A: A growing city as great as Asbury Park – with a huge spectrum of personalities and projects – needed an outlet for the stuff thats going that most people want to know about but can’t be discussed in general conversations.
No matter what, most people love dish about their neighbors. The feedback has been positive and the numbers don’t lie - traffic for the site is up more than 1,000 percent since ”You Say Who” launched. It might be the Asbury Park area’s naughty little secret about secrets.
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One of the shows I produced at Maury Povich featured people who came across valuable objects in unusual ways.
A guest on “Found Money” was a gentleman who told an amazing story of going to a Salvation Army in Florida and finding nine dirty fabric panels that turned out to be one of the first real and complete flat maps of the Earth. It was priceless.
Nick Prueher and Joe Pickett have taken their pot-of-gold of video clips found at thrift stores around the country and created the Found Footage Festival – a brilliant and original comedy show, founded in 2004, combining the most iconic, hysterical and sometimes cringe-worthy 1980’s video clips with on-the-spot, live commentary.
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I spoke with the award-winning hosts, Nick, formerly of the David Letterman Show and The Colbert Report and Joe of The Onion, in anticipation of their show next Saturday (Nov. 14) at Asbury Lanes.
TPB: Every clip in your show is unbelievably great. What’s the recipe for a fab Found Footage clip?
Nick: Certainly, the nostalgia factor helps make certain videos great, but more than anything, we’ve found one common thread is that they involve people with a lot of ambition and very little talent. Luckily for us, there are plenty of people out there like that with access to video equipment.
TBP: Cartoon Chuck Norris with a lisp; men in wrestling singlets and thongs; Florence Henderson doing some odd neck movements with another girl – were the Reagan 80’s gayer than everyone realized?
Nick: Yes, the proliferation of mustaches should have been our first clue.
TBP: You guys are celebrating the show’s five-year anniversary. What are each of your favorite all-time clips?
Nick: It changes from time-to-time, but I’d have to say “Kirk’s 40th Birthday” is up there for me. It’s a home movie of a guy named Kirk and his biker friends celebrating his big day by eating a cake in the shape of naked woman, smoking an odd cigarette and watching ZZ Top videos.
Joe: I’m really enamored right now with an Austin (Texas) public access show called “At Home with English,” starring this adorable little man teaching English words to non-English speakers – it’s featured in our show.
TBP: You are premiering a brand new crop of clips at Asbury Lanes.
NP: Yes – expect overacting pirates, furniture salesman, blowgun enthusiasts, an anthropomorphic Rubik’s Cube, drunk guys without shirts and dozens of bachelors in bad sweaters (video dating)…and that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
TBP: You guys have been friends since childhood. I have to ask, if you were boyfriends who would do the cooking and who would drive the car?
NP: I don’t like driving, so Joe would definitely be behind the wheel. By default, I would do the cooking, although I’m sure Joe would tire of my weird vegan recipes. Luckily, this nightmare scenario will never happen.
TBP: Thankfully, there is a ton of beyond funny 1980’s nightmares caught on video, though. Congrats on the show.
Web exclusive next Thursday: Nick reveals the best thrift store in America, the most memorable video and more.
TheBPlot is the only place for a first look at - and a little scoop about - the making of the Asbury Park Firefighter 2010 Calendar (on sale Saturday, Nov. 28).
Last Saturday and Sunday, 14 firemen came together for two good causes – raising funds for a new firehouse and ArtsCAP. The guys were so fun, kind and modest and completely great sports. I can not say enough about how wonderful these guys are. We are incredibly lucky to have such amazing men – from Chief Kevin Keddy, down to the new recruits – protecting our City. Buy ‘em a cup of coffee or lunch the next time you see one of them.
Some of the firefighter’s wives and girlfriends stopped by to watch the photo shoot, even one mother-in-law.
The guys got so into the shoot they became competitive to make their individual photo session the best and most visual, debating who would use the Jaws of Life as a prop or hose with water shooting out onto Asbury Avenue. It was super-fun to be a part of…I even got to slide down the beautiful, vintage finial-topped brass 30 foot long firepole – twice!
Which of the 14 firefighters will be the 2010 cover-guy? Save the evening of Saturday, Nov. 28 – NEW DATE – for the big reveal.
The calendar was photographed and designed by award-winning photographer, Alan Barnett and produced by ArtsCAP with the assistance of Dennis Carroll and Ginny Otley. TheBPlot’s Richard Virgilio is writing the copy.
Special thanks to Chief Kevin Keddy for assisting in the coordination of the photo shoot and the fourteen fearless, kind and generous firefighters – ultimate gentleman – who donated their time.
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Whether or not you believe in them, psychics are a part of Asbury Park’s rich history and personality.
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One of the psychics whose tarot cards and crystals get the most workout is Bill Blount. A longtime area resident, living in Asbury Park for the past 10 years, with his dog Gigi, Bill is relied upon by many to demystify elements of the past, present and future. Currently, he is the resident psychic at Paranormal Books.
I thought I would get a checkup at the Psychic’s office, so I met with Bill to get the scoop on what the cards say about who will win this season’s Dancing with the Stars; if I should let my hair grow longer; if Ryan Reynolds will dump Scarlett Johansson for me; when Prince William and Kate Middleton will walk down the aisle?
Is that hottie royal getting married or not?
Bill – looking as confused as a vampire without fangs – politely explained that he couldn’t answer any of my pressing pop culture questions.
So, I dove into his well-worn deck of tarot cards with some other, more suitable, questions: is my deceased brother around me; is my ex who died suddenly after hitting a tree with a snowmobile okay and happy; will my dear friend get pregnant soon; is a baby I hold close healthy; will my friend find employment in the next six months?
Bill answered my questions as I flipped over the “Tower,” “5 of Swords” “2 of Wands” and “King of Cups” cards, among others. The answers: unclear; yes; yes, most likely during a full moon; yes, stop worrying; yes, however will take longer to come together.
He gave me a bonus answer, too, that two new people are headed into my life within the next six weeks (Bill described them physically, too). One is naughty and one is nice.
More to come on that.
Bill tells me he has felt the psychic ability his entire life – he remembers having premonitions of events when he was as young as two and using his “gift” since he was 23 years old.
“Since I was very young I could see people and events and situations – I thought it was a common thing for everyone,” said Bill. “Early on, I did not know how to express it or control what I was feeling.”
Bill’s long list of area clients – including some of the area’s politicos – include a few who requested their local homes be “cleared” of unwelcome energies.
“There are new homeowners in the grand old houses here that couldn’t get comfortable,” said Bill.
Bill’s tarot reading style is a bit different than others, which he believes helps him help his clients.
“I never touch the (tarot) cards or put them into formation,” said Bill, who also does psychic parties. “I want the energy of my clients in the cards, to be as clear as possible with my answers. I have strong faith in everything I say to people.”
“The Bloodlust Ball will be New Orleans voo-doo style entertainment at its best,” said Kathy Kelly, Paranormal Books. “Carnival and sideshow performers all night long, combined with a vampire costume contest and the amazing Asbury Lanes location will will ensure a freakishly good time will be had by all. All the children of the night are invited to come embrace the sexy darkness.”
Asbury Park people are turning it out for Halloween – tons of inspired ideas and time spent making costumes perfect. TheBPlot reveals a few of the top, fun or over-the-top pop culture-inspired costumes planned for Saturday…
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Vampires (tons of ‘em in various iterations “True Blood” and “Twilight” especially)
It seems like there are more Halloween events around town than there are mini pumpkins and gourds in a gay man’s Autumn exteriorscape. Pet parades, séances and a huge Ball are all in the works to make the holiday terrifyingly fabulous.
Event planner extraordinaire, Aaron Coleman, Pyramid Productions, has created “The Shining at the Berkeley Hotel” Halloween Ball – which is anticipated to be an all-out, totally showy, fun party.
“This is going to be the biggest and best Halloween party the area has ever seen,” said Aaron, who in 2008 helped produce the Halloween Block Party attended by 800 of the most fun and spectacularly costumed revelers around. “If you love Halloween, this is the party to be at.”
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Aaron is taking the Berkeley Hotel’s Kingsley Ballroom and increasing the terror voltage with a custom-designed interior and exterior lighting display. The light show will include shocking “lightening” in the Ballroom’s two story foyer, huge perilously hanging flickering chandeliers and red and black lights illuminating countless of cobweb encrusted “The Shining” inspired decorations.
“As guests enter, they will walk, or run, through a five-scene custom-built haunted passageway with live actors, including possessed twins, an ‘out-of-control’ chef and Jack Nicholson look-alike,” said Aaron, who has been planning this party since July.
Cash and prizes totaling $5,000 will be awarded in for “Best Celebrity Look-Alike,” “Scariest Costume,” “Best Drag” and “Best Overall” costumes (first, second and third place).
The visual intoxication continues, prior to guests hitting the 50 foot cash bar, with a 10-screen super-slick video installation from M Studio inspired by “The Shining”.
Two fancy-pants New York DJs will reign over the many expected “Vampires,” “Oprah / Whitney Houstons,” “John & Kates,” “Michelle Obamas” and the most popular costume of 2009, “Michael Jackson.”
“I can’t wait to see the over the top costumes,” said Aaron. “This is a party for everyone. I know of one group coming here instead of going to Salem (Mass.)”
Langosta Lounge is providing the buffet for the anticipated 900 guests. Candyteria takes care of guest’s sweet teeth with a candy bar and Il Pavone will be serving its luscious store-made gelato. Spirit Halloween store (next to Target) is offering a 20% discount to anyone mentioning “Shining.” The Berkeley Hotel also has a special $89 room rate.
“The Shining at the Berkley Hotel” will continue the reputation momentum Aaron has build over the past three years as one of the top producers in our area of quality, exciting and original events that bring people to town.
His contacts, admirers and most of all, his creativity ensure a horrifically great time will be had by all.
“The Shining at the Berkeley Hotel”: 8.30 pm to 2 am, Saturday (Oct. 31). Ticket price of $40 includes everything but liquor. That’s the best Halloween bargain around. $50 day-of. Advance tickets available at PyramidProductions.info, Mike’s Beach House and Il Pavone (Cookman Avenue). The event benefits ReVision Theatre in Asbury Park.
Briefly: Hugs and Happy Birthday to my mom! Love you.
“Grey Gardens” historian and thirty-year friend of Little Edie, Walter Newkirk talked everything Edie and more to an enthusiastic crowd at The Showroom in Asbury Park, Sunday.
The Showroom- the best morphing of cushy living room, high-tech media room and fancy-pants big-screen cinema -also screened HBO’s Emmy-winning film, “Grey Gardens.”
Newkirk with Edie (1976)
After the event, Walter took a moment to speak dish further with TheBPlot. Click here for TheBPlot’s interview with Walter, published in The Coaster and online two weeks ago.
TBP: PAINT US A PICTURE OF WHAT IT WAS LIKE WALKING IN TO GREY GARDENS FOR THE FIRST TIME.
Walter: I went with two other guys from the newspaper. None of us were ready for the smell in the house which was overwhelming. It was like a barn with kitty litter, animal urine and feces.
We sat and did the interview at a very small table in the hallway at the top of the stairs – down the hall from her mother’s bedroom. She was charming, eloquent, intelligent and very sweet. I discovered I liked Edie very much and a thirty-year friendship was born.
It was a chilly April day and when we got back into my car to depart for Rutgers, I turned on the heat and when the hot air hit our clothes, the stench in the car was like ammonia – all three of us simultaneously threw open the car doors and jumped out of the car because we could not breathe. It was hilarious but also horrific.
TBP: HOW DID YOU GAIN HER TRUST?
Walter: Believe it or not, I think a lot of it had to do with the fact that I was a college student and that I was going on into the world…I dunno how I gained her “trust”…I think trust is part of a friendship/relationship and I guess she liked me or she would’nt have kept giving me her new phone #s after she moved to NYC.
She would change her phone number periodically when she got tired of certain people calling her. She would then write me a letter with her new phone number and write “don’t give this number to ANYONE!”
TBP: SPECIFICALLY, WHAT DID SHE SAY ABOUT THE KENNEDYS AND JACKIE?
Walter: She wrote to me more about Lee Radziwill than Jackie Kennedy and didn’t have much to say about any of the Kennedy family. She mentioned Jackie about the original filming of the documentary. There was no real dirt or mug slinging or anything negative in any of her letters to me about Jackie or the Kennedy family. When I interviewed Edie she said she had met Jack Kennedy…”but he dated models and showgirls…”
TBP: JACKIE SENT LITTLE EDIE CLOTHES, YES?
Walter: That is what I have been told or read…I never asked her that.
TBP: WHAT WAS YOUR IMPRESSION OF HOW SHE FELT ABOUT BIG EDIE? MEANING, AT THE TIME SHE WAS LIVING WITH HER MOM AND THEN AS SHE REFLECTED BACK ON HER LIFE IN HER LATER YEARS, HOW DID HER VIEW OF GREY GARDENS AND HER MOM CHANGE?
Walter: She had no regrets she wrote in a letter…she always loved her mother and the life she had with her.
TBP: WHAT DID SHE LEARN FROM LIVING AT GREY GARDENS?
Walter: She spoke to me about RESPONSBILITY during the 1976 interview…and I think she felt that it was a daughter’s responsbility to take care of her mother if she was alone and or sick. There’s an interesting section she discusses on the CD I sell about “responsibility.”
TBP: WE SAW A BIRTHDAY IN THE DOCUMENTARY. WHAT WERE THE HOLIDAYS LIKE FOR LITTLE EDIE AT GREYGARDENS?
Walter: Edie and I exchanged Christmas cards. I think she may have spent holidays with her mother’s sisters when she lived in NYC but I am not sure.
TBP: HOW DID LITTLE EDIE MAKE MONEY AND SURVIVE FINANCIALLY DURING HER LATER YEARS? I LOVE THE LETTER SHE WROTE EXPECTING HER PER DIEM FROM MONTCLAIR MUSEUM, FROM YOUR FIRST BOOK.
Walter: I believe her brother(s) invested her money after she sold Grey Gardens and had more to do with her money management than any of us might know.
TBP: WHAT IS THE BIGGEST MISCONCEPTION ABOUT LITTLE EDIE? AND / OR GREY GARDENS IN GENERAL?
Walter: The biggest misconception about Little Edie is that she was nuts…a looney tune.
Her behavior in GG was not like her behavior with me in real time…she fought with her mother a lot, the camera caught it and she definitely performed a lot on screen because she thought she was in a “movie.” She never quite understood the concept of a “documentary.”
TBP: YOU ALSO KNOW OR KNEW A NUMBER OF THE ANCILLARY CHARACTERS OF GREYGARDENS. COULD YOU TALK A LITTLE BIT ABOUT THEM? WHAT WAS LIFE LIKE FOR THEM AFTER GREYGARDENS?
Walter: Lois Wright is still alive and well – and has written a book My Life At Grey Gardens 13 Months and Beyond – she creates and sells Grey Gardens inspired art now. She also has a television show called The Lois Wright Show which has aired in East Hampton for over 20 years.
I love the men who created the Broadway musical - very talented and very nice guys. I was thrilled that Michael Sucsy gave me a credit at the end of the HBO movie and that he mentioned me during his director’s commentary on the DVD. I gave him copies of some of Edie’s letters to me and also a copy of the interview on a tape back in 2005.
TBP: YOU HAVE A NEW BOOK. WHAT CAN GREY GARDENS FANS EXPECT?
Walter: Edie loved Clinton and seemed disgusted that his “little affair with that ushetette (intern) ” should be punished so severely within the public eye. Edie wrote out of NOWHERE to me during the last year of her life that the “incident” at the Maidstone Club never happened – she never lost her bathing suit while swimming and got out of the pool naked and someone rushed her a towel. That was written in THE BOUVIERS a book by her cousin Jack Davis and also used in the musical.
Walter’s new book “Letters from Little Edie Beale of Grey Gardens” is available online. GreyGardensBook.com has more info about his previous books and CD. Click here for TheBPlot’s exclusive first-look at the new book, August 2009.
For TheBPlot’s exclusive four-part interview with Bouvier Beale – Little Edie’s nephew, click below. NEW: “Grey Gardens” column category. Scroll to the bottom on the homepage.
Last Saturday more than 1500 Zombies – plus hundreds more unregistered “walking dead” – took over Asbury Park’s boardwalk and Cookman Avenue to the delight of thousands of witnesses along the Zombie Walk’s route.
“We are very proud of this year’s Zombie Walk and the turnout - especially as this is only our third event,” said Jason Meehan, New Jersey Zombie Walk organizer. “As we begin planning for the next New Jersey Zombie Walk we set our sights on breaking the world record.”
Last week, the editor of Beachcruiser Magazine and BeachBlog.me, Billy Mecca, added another publication to his growing media portfolio. Salt – a newsletter focusing on Asbury Park - ups the ante for the area’s stogy and excessively opinionated weeklies as a quick must-read for anyone interested in what the hell is now and going on in our city…or anyone who just likes pretty pictures.
Speaking with Asbury Park’s King of Print Media, Billy gave TheBPlot an exclusive hint of what’s brewing, newsletter-wise, in Asbury Park’s salty ocean air.
TBP: What is Salt, what will it be and will it increase my blood-pressure?
Billy: Salt’s a weekly newsletter-style publication that lists Beachcruiser’s daily picks for the week from what’s happening in and nearby Asbury Park. Salt is meant to be a one-stop source – one go-to sheet that anyone can grab to fill them in on what’s going on.
TBP: It sounds very entertainment and event-centric. How did you come up with the name? I looooove the name.
Billy: I came across the word “salty” one day and it seemed to describe Asbury perfectly – a beach town with a bite. Yes, there’s an obvious reference to the ocean too, but think of Salt as an additive…a flavor enhancer to the Asbury Park experience. That was right on target for me.
TBP: It’s the slickest, most visual, modern, city-style publication, with content to match, in the greater area. Seriously. Who are you and where did you come from to launch a mag like this?
Billy: I have a digital graphics, effects and video background and studied at Pratt, as well as having many years experience in fashion design and retail…some film and interior stuff too. Though Jersey born, I lived in New York for much of my life until heading back to New Jersey some years ago.
TBP: You keep me current with BeachBlog.me – I wouldn’t know what to say to a surfer without getting arrested if it weren’t for you. What will Salt cover and keep us up-to-the-week on?
Billy: For sure surfing, or more specifically, surf culture and the surf mentality. Salt pretty much will cover anything related to the beach lifestyle and diverse scene here. One thing I always keep in mind with development is to present content not really covered anywhere else – not to be exclusive, but rather to give a voice to the up-and-coming and activities and events you might not otherwise hear about – art, music, film, design, community, style, causes, history, wildlife and people…all as it relates to events going on.
TBP: Do you want readers to send you photos and stuff?
Billy: No doubt Yes! The goal for Beachcruiser, and now Salt, to be a real interactive experience with its readers. Salt and Beachcruiser have submission areas, where anyone can send just about anything – articles, ideas, photos, event listings, and video…mobile photos and texts too! (Submit to Salt right now, click here. Beachcruiser, click here.)
TBP: How can I get Salted each week?
Billy: Salt’s free and sent out Wednesdays to email subscribers only…it’s not published on our websites or social sites. Print copies, also free, are distributed throughout the downtown and Boardwalk areas of Asbury Park (full listing of locations on the Salt site).
TBP: Meeting you three years ago while we were volunteering at the ReStore has been a great gift, Billy. I am so excited for you and wish you tons of success. You are smart and kind and deserve every salty, spicy ounce of it. Cheers.
A new season of Gay Bowling at Asbury Lanes (Fourth Avenue at Kingsley) kicks off next month. In anticipation of more great fun at the Lanes, I spoke with Asbury Park-resident Michael Delia – Gay Bowling’s organizer.
TheBPlot: For those new to the party, what is “gay bowling”?
Michael: Gay Bowling is monthy event in we get togther as a community and enjoy a night of non-competive fun at Asbury Lanes - a very retro place that brings back memories of the bowling alleys of childhood.
In it’s tenth season, Gay Bowling is not a league, but a community bowling night in which all are welcome.
Ten dollars includes bowling ball and shoe rental (of course you can bring your own), unlimited bowling from 7 pm to 10 pm, all the pizza you can eat, great retro music from DJ Jack the Ripper, door prizes and – best of all – great people. All you need to purchase in addition is drinks.
TBP: You have been coordinating gay bowling for years. Any memorable moments?
Michael: When a young door prize winner got a set of Liza Minelli CD’s and didn’t know who she was.
TBP: Last year, you began having the night benefit a worthy organization in the area.
Michael: Yes, we raised an average of $500 for each organization sponsored.
TBP: Fab Michael. Looking forward to breaking my record score of 130 on the lanes.
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PHOTO COURTESY DANNY CLINCH "BE TRUE" EXHIBIT OPEN UNTIL SUNDAY ON THE BOARDWALK
When I saw Bruce Springsteen in concert at Convention Hall, earlier this year – a super-fun moment in my life (thanks to Carolyn Curtin) – I did not sense Bruce as almost sixty years old.
His rocking body – testing the limits of the heroic seams of his black jeans and shirt – didn’t give a hint of a jiggle or bounce in anything but the right places. No one would have guessed he was a member of AARP (he’s on the cover of the org.’s magazine this month) and about to turn 60 years old, as he did last Wednesday.
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Yes, some will write me about Madonna or a few other rockers, and say there are other iconic AARP card-carrying concert performers. Madonna’s a scary cougar now and there is just no comparison to Bruce. Sorry gays…but I digress.
Tim Donnelly, curator of the Springsteen photo exhibit “Be True” on the Boardwalk until Sunday, equates Bruce to a higher power.
“Springsteen concerts are like Rock and Roll revivals,” said Tim. “Going to a concert was like getting baptized.”
I have met countless in our area who have lip-synched with Bruce, laughed with Bruce, cried with Bruce, cheered and celebrated with Bruce throughout his performing years however there’s one local who genuinely put his passion for anything and everything Bruce to paper – in every sense.
Ocean Grove resident, Stan Goldstein, author of “Rock and Roll Tour of the Jersey Shore” [photo right] – now in its third expanded edition – has been a fan of Birthday Boy Bruce and his band for more than 30 years, religiously following the tour around the U.S. and Europe.
“I was twelve when ‘Greetings from Asbury Park’ came out,” said Stan. “I was at Two Guys (store) looking for a Partridge Family album and Bruce’s album caught my eye because of the local connection. I first saw him perform at the Monmouth Arts Center (now the Count Basie Theatre), in August of 1976.”
Stan’s history with Bruce also includes serving as an official Rock and Roll tour guide for visitors to Monmouth and Ocean Counties. He told me – as a new fan of the Birthday Boy - I did not know that his band was named after E Street in Belmar, at the corner of 10th Avenue. But you probably knew that.
A lesser known fact Stan shared provided more insight into Bruce’s early years.
“There’s an old surfboard factory off of Sunset Avenue in Ocean Township, after Wegmans,” said Stan, who also manages the website NJRockMap.com. “When he was with the band ‘Steel Mill’ he lived in the factory building, circa 1971 – few people realize he was right here for a time.”
Almost 40 years later and with a different band family, Bruce at 60 years-old proves that age is just a silly number.
“I still think of him as a 30 year old,” said Stan. “Even today he jumps on pianos, slides and runs around all over the stage – no one puts on a better show. He is still relevant at sixty.”
So, Stan, how has Bruce changed through the decades?
“It’s not Bruce who has changed – the main thing is that the internet lets his fans literally follow the tour from their homes,” said Stan. “There are sites dedicated to what Bruce played at what exact time in which city during the tour. Fans Twitter while at the concerts. Every show is something special and the internet lets more fans get involved than ever before.”
What a difference a few years make.
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Thirty-nine primarily never-before-seen photographs of Bruce Springsteen at locations around New Jersey are the focus of “Be True”, the rock and roll photography exhibit extended until next Sunday (10/4), that celebrates the music icon.
(PHOTO COURTESY DANNY CLINCH)
Curated by Tim Donnelly, the intoxicatingly beautiful, seemingly alive images, deep and engaging – most in black and white – were taken by Bruce’s photographer of the past 10 years and friend, Danny Clinch.
“We got a call from a London-based gallery asking us to put together an exhibit of Springsteen images,” said Tim, who is also a music journalist, speaking with TheBPlot and The Coaster. “We looked at each other and said ‘London? ‘This needs to be done in Asbury Park for Bruce’s birthday’.”
Danny, a photo-journalist who has also worked with Pearl Jam and many others, shot the cover for Bruce’s “The Rising,” and “Working on a Dream” and directed Bruce’s “Devils and Dust” music video.
“The Garden State locations that serve as the inspiration for ‘Be True’ range from Springsteen’s home studio in New Jersey horse country, Fort Monmouth, the soon to be demolished Giants Stadium and such iconic Asbury Park locations such as the Stone Pony, Paramount Theater, Convention Hall and the revitalized boardwalk,” said Tim. “We asked Bruce how he felt if we did this and his response was ‘Go for it’.”
Bruce’s fans are happy to celebrate his birthday with this exhibit in Asbury Park.
“As a fan who sang ‘Happy Birthday’ to him on his thirtieth at Madison Square Garden during the ‘No Nukes’ concert, I love the exhibit for its geography and simplicity,” said Janet Manni, Wanamassa resident and broker at Century 21 Coastal Realtors. “The exhibit sums him up perfectly as a local, down-to-Earth guy and a worldwide legend.”
Just like Bruce, the exhibit is for the people.
“We wanted to be absolutely inclusive – never charging a penny – even when we feature New Jersey performers, as we will this weekend,” said Tim.
“Be True” at the Third Avenue Pavillion on the Boardwalk until next Sunday (10/4). Friday (9/28) at 8.30 pm, The Roebucks perform. Saturday (9/29) at 5 pm, Steve Reily, Ocean Grove resident via Dublin, Ireland. Admission is free.
“You live where? Wana-who? Wanamassa? Oh, yeah, that’s a cute area…what’s the story with it?”
Something to that effect is how the conversation usually goes when I tell someone where I live.
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I wanted to learn more of the beautiful area’s history and story, so I went right to the experts at the Ocean Township Historical Museum on Deal Road and discovered a ton of fun and interesting trivia…
1. In 1687, Gavin Drummond, a Scottish surveyor, purchased the land which is known today as Wanamassa from Lenape Indian Chief Wanamassa for one gun and kettle, five coats and two pounds of “weight” powder.
Chief Wanamassa believed land was for everyone to use and share and had no idea of Drummond’s plan to populate it. Eventually, the Lenape Tribe was pushed west.
2. Ross-Fenton Farm – located across from the Locust Drive area of Asbury Park, in what was the Wanamassa Woods – was owned by former vaudeville performers Charles Ross and Mabel Fenton.
Because of their entertainment background and the celebrities they attracted, Charles and Mabel created what was
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considered a “rocking nightclub” for the time. Beginning at the club’s opening in the summer of 1889, a motor boat picked guests up at the end of Deal Lake, by the Boardwalk and took the glamorously dressed women and men to the Farm for an evening of fine dining, live music and dancing on an outdoor stage.
The cover charge for the club was $25. An original menu at the museum revealed a filet mignon dinner was $2.50; cold lobster was $2; shrimp cocktail was $1 and something called “Crab Flake Ross-Fenton” was $1.50.
Wanamassa locals were known to sit on Sunset Bridge or in canoes on Deal Lake and listen to the first-class entertainment.
3. In 1890, John and Rob Drummond (descendants of Gavin) built a half-mile racetrack in the area now known as Colonial Terrace. The Monmouth County Fair was held at the track for years.
4. Until the 1920’s, the custom of dressing young boys in dresses – because it was easier to change their diapers – was common. A few of the outfits are on display at the museum.
5. From approximately 1900 to 1930, the YMCA owned what is known as Wanamassa Point (peninsula in Deal Lake, off of Sunset Avenue), and used it as a camp meeting and revival location. The “Point” was also home to the YMCA Auditorium, used as a community club for balls and Fireman’s Fairs.
6. No commercial district was allowed in Wanamassa until 1920 because residents thought it would hurt the character of the area.
7. The Wanamassa building boom surged after World War II, when veterans came looking for affordable housing. Brower Homes was one of the largest builders of Cape Cod-style homes.
8. During the mid-1900’s, the end of Logan Road, a dirt road at the time, was considered “Lovers Lane”.
9. The soda fountain at Kuskan Pharmacy, on Wickapecko Drive, was the meeting place of-choice for local youth.
“Every kid in town would ride their bikes to Kuskan’s and stay for hours,” said Barbara Metcalf, Museum volunteer and former Asbury Park Baby Parade Princess. “That sense of community still remains here today.”
Many thanks and hugs to all the wonderful volunteers at the Ocean Township Historical Museum, most especially Howard Richmond and Barbara Metcalf.
ArtsCAP held its first charity golf outing fundraiser on the boardwalk at the Asbury Eighteen miniature golf course Sunday afternoon.
“This was the first time I played golf all summer,” said Joe Guidetti, Asbury Park resident. “It’s also the most fun I have had all summer.”
Awards and winners of the tournament were “Lowest Score,” Asbury Park Press; “Highest Score,” Asbury Park Housing Authority; “Hole in One,” Fire Chief Kevin Keddy; “Best Cheering Section,” Housing Authority.
Next Saturday (Sept. 26), Asbury Park will host its first city-wide yard sale benefitting Rescue Ridge animal shelter – an “eleventh hour” shelter taking in many dogs and cats scheduled to be euthanized by other shelters. TheBPlot has your exclusive first look at the listing of homes participating in the sale.
“The host sites listed below have signed up to hold a yard sale and have pledged to give at least ten-percent of their gross sales to a unique local animal shelter, Rescue Ridge,” said Sonja O’Brien, tireless organizer of the sale and Asbury Park resident. “I invite everyone to spend a fun day, shopping at the yard sales and to pick up some treasures for a great cause.”
Rarely is there feel-goodness, pure joy and wonderful frivolity set to song the way six guys from New York City – one with a home in Asbury Park – did here Sunday of Labor Day weekend.
New Yorkers Adam MacLean, Chris Bush, Chris Lucia, Jeffrey Kummer, Brian Matthew Maloney and John Barbato (Asbury Park homeowner) produced a fun, dancey, sexy, bubblegum-pop and energetically choreographed three-minute summer homage music video with Whitney Houston’s new song “Million Dollar Bill” and are now an unqualified internet sensation – taking Asbury Park with them on their internet whirlwind.
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“We saw it was going to be a wet and lazy day so we wanted to create a fun memento in the spirit of the last weekend of the summer in the city that we all think is amazing,” said Adam MacLean.
Their video, “Million Dollar Bill Asbury Park” was inspired by another gaggle of gays in the Fire Island Pines who produced a summer homage video (“Party in the F.I.P.”) a few weeks ago using Miley Cyrus’ “Party in the USA” which now boasts more than one-million views and counting.
The energy of friendship (most have been friends since high school) and playfulness combined with a hot song and the visual background of Asbury Park’s Fifth Avenue, John’s lakefront porch, the Paradise pool, the boardwalk and the Casino leap through your computer screen while the video plays on.
It’s the force of Asbury Park at its most festive.
“Each of us took turns choreographing, directing and holding the camera,” said Adam, who, with Brian, is part of a New York City dance company called “From the Desk of Sarah Seely”. “We were a bunch of producing divas bossing each other around and it came together organically. We especially love the kite flying in the background when we are on the Boardwalk and the ‘Casino Walk’ we did.”
The guys – each one with a smoking bod – saunter in skimpy box-cut bathing suits and multi-color Wayfarer sunglasses through most of the video. In a nod to Whitney’s film “The Bodyguard” Adam also wears a white scarf around his head.
“Whitney’s new song was our choice because she is having a comeback (the CD debuted at Number 1 on Monday) and so is Asbury Park,” said Adam, who edited the video for seven hours prior to its debut last Tuesday. “The boardwalk is the most iconic place in town to us – so we combined two icons: Whitney Houston and Asbury Park and can not believe the response.”
The video – posted last Tuesday - had sixty thousand views on YouTube (as of 6 pm yesterday) and growing.
Views and comments are from all over the U.S. and internationally, including Spain and England – creating fab grass-roots publicity for Asbury Park.
“The emails from strangers are hysterical,” said Adam. “Some people want to date us. Some comment on my freakishly tall height. Some praise the City and beach – I think the other guys are just too short. A producer from Wendy Williams Show said they were reviewing it. A lot say that Jeff is the best dancer and of course, there are some haters out there too.”
Forget the haters and enjoy life. Oh, and…err…sorry everybody– all the guys are spoken for.
Watch the music video over and over – it will make you smile. For great stills from the video click here.
Whitney’s just-released (2 pm yesterday) beautiful “Million Dollar Bill” video below. It’s beyond wonderful to see her back so strong and looking like a billion dollars.
As I settled into the area almost five years ago, I noticed some homes proudly touted fun, dramatic and creative monikers.
No one I spoke with knows how the trend began, however it’s a swell idea and adds another layer of charm to our city.
I spoke with a few Asbury Park homeowners regarding the genesis of their home’s name. Click here for the exclusive photos.
Kelshore:
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“Many of the places I was fond of in Tulsa, Oklahoma growing up, had names, some derived from the owners names or the land,” said Kevin Kelly, Kelshore’s owner. “In following the history of the Jersey Shore, I learned that property naming in past generations, was not uncommon, so I welcomed the idea to name this huge financial gamble, make it mine, make it last.
“One of the most spectacular named properties in my youth, is a 27,000 square foot Italian Renaissance Mansion in Tulsa, Philbrook – which, my grandmother served as one of the interior decorators (currently an Art Museum). Philbrook was owned by the Phillips family – of Phillips 66 Petroleum – and built in the roaring 20’s.
“The mansion is on a spectacular plot, on a meandering brook, thus named Philbrook. My home, Kelly on the shore – Kelshore. Not as euphonious as Philbrook nor grand however a place I hope the family and others enjoy now and after I am gone, with a name that conjures happy memories.”
Casa Blanca:“It is named Casablanca for two reasons,” said Les Phillips, who with his partner Julion St. Croix purchased their home in 2004. “One was that we planned for the exterior of the home, outside furnishings and flower beds would be white – Casa Blanca (White House). Also, the Casablanca Lilly is our favorite flower.”
Joya del Mar:
“We named the place ‘Joya del Mar’ (Jewel of the Sea) as a paean to Asbury Park’s moniker ‘Jewel of the Atlantic’ two years ago,” said Robert Calabrese who owns the property with his partner Scott, his business partner Jan and his sister Patti.
Buttercup Manor:
“We heard, six years ago, when we purchased our house, that residents were naming their homes,” said Charlie Maffei, husband of Gary Maffei. “Since my nickname was ‘Buttercup’, we decided to name our home Buttercup Manor. The house is now yellow and we usually don’t even have to tell someone our address. We just tell them Buttercup Manor and they know it’s the yellow house on the corner.”
Nowanden Manor
“We named our house ‘Nowanden Manor’ because we bought it as a vacation and eventual retirement home, meaning that at this point we are there only now-and-then,” said Brian Kaufman.
Briefly: Major yard sale alert – Sonja O’Brien is organizing a city-wide yard sale Saturday, Sept. 26, with a portion of the proceeds benefitting Rescue Ridge animal shelter (click here for TheBPlot article).
Sellers who sign-up will be included in the map of sales, permit acquisition and more. And if you can’t sell…shop!
Last Saturday, despite Hurricane Danny’s wet efforts, the Barefoot Wine Beach Rescue Concert – a “thank you” concert for the Surfrider volunteers who spent the soggy day cleaning our beautiful beachfront – blew everyone away with performances by Grammy nominees Joss Stone and Gavin DeGraw (“I Don’t Want to Be”).
Before taking the stage at Convention Hall (my absolute favorite place to see a concert), singer and activist, the beautiful and soulful Joss, took a moment to answer some of my pressing questions.
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TBP: It’s so fab to have you in Asbury Park honoring the wonderful volunteers who tidied up our beach on this muggy, rainy day. Do you have any great beach memories to share?
Joss: Going to Putsborough (beach in the UK on the coast of North Devon) when I was young with my siblings and good friend Bonnie. I loved going to the beach then and still do.
TBP: How have you seen the loss of Michael Jackson effect the music industry?
Joss: It’s affected the music industry as much as when we lost James Brown. It is very sad but his music still lives on.
TBP: What was your fave Michael Jackson Song?
Joss: All of Michael’s songs are great.
TBP: I wrote recently that a friend was at Whitney Houston’s listening party for her new CD (see “Whitney’s Back Baby”), where Whitney announced to the audience that if she was not singing again she would “be selling fruit from a stand somewhere in the Caribbean” with her daughter. Seriously. If you were not a musician and singer, what would you be doing?
Joss: I’d be a carpenter, midwife, potter or baker.
TBP: Interesting. You are a vegetarian – its one of the things I admire most about you. Every vegetarian I have met has stunning skin, shiny hair and sparkling eyes, as do you. Any advice for people considering the vegetarian lifestyle?
Joss: I would say just stop eating meat…it’s really not that hard. It’s just food.
TBP: You don’t seem like the rock-star Jaegermeister-swilling type of gal. I envision you delicately holding a glass of sparkling wine. What type of wine is in your cellar?
Joss: It depends on what kind of moment it is. I lean more towards Barefoot Wine’s white wine but then sometimes I like red. Sometimes, with my friends, we mix the two together and have a rose.
TBP: What’s the funniest item in your contract rider?
Joss: My foot spa – so I can clean my feet after I get off stage. (Joss is known to perform barefoot…very beachy).
TBP: My friend Emily Manni just loves you in Showtime’s “The Tudors”, playing the role of Anne of Cleves. Any scoop? Jonathan Rhys Meyers is so painfully hot.
Joss: I’ll be back in “The Tudors” soon.
TBP: Busy lady…you have a CD on deck to release, too.
Joss: Yes, maybe in October is the word I hear, but this could change.
TBP: You have a huge following in the GLBTI community. Would you like to say anything to your gays in Asbury Park?
Joss: Thanks for your support. Be you – regardless of anyone else. Just be you.
TBP: So well put. Actually, I think you should put that to song. Thanks Joss.
The small house at 7 1/2 West End Court in Long Branch where one-time renter Bruce Springsteen wrote “Born to Run,” “Thunder Road” and other songs on the “Born to Run” album is up for sale for $299,000.
The house came on the market this past weekend, said Susan McLaughlin, an agent with Keller Williams Realty.
The one-level home, built in the traditional southern shotgun-style, is 928 square feet, has high ceilings, two bedrooms, living room, galley kitchen and one bathroom. “It has a sweet front porch, a dear little front porch behind a hedge,” McLaughlin said. There’s also a small private backyard with a patio.
“It has a newer bathroom and it is in essentially the same condition that it was when Bruce lived there in 1974, 1975,” McLaughlin said.
According to “Rock & Roll Tour of the Jersey Shore” by Jean Mikle, a reporter at the Asbury Park Press, and Stan Goldstein, an editor at the Star Ledger, Springsteen wrote “Born to Run,” “Thunder Road,” “Backstreets” and many other songs on the iconic album at 7 1/2 West End Court.
“During the “Tunnel of Love’ tour (in 1988), Bruce would talk about how he was sitting on the edge of his bed and wrote “Born to Run’ while living here,” the two wrote.
McLaughlin’s phone has been ringing off the hook since it became known that a home with a Springsteen connection was up for sale. “The locals have always known about it,” she said of the home’s lore.
The home’s provenance is important in marketing the house, she said. “As locals and old friends of Bruce, we don’t want to capitalize on that,” McLaughlin said. “We have to make sure it doesn’t turn into a free for all.”
She has received interest from potential buyers and is requiring buyer prequalification before showing it.
“I am going to be very busy over the next couple of days showing it,” McLaughlin said.
Each year, over 25,000 beaches in the United States are closed or posted as unhealthy . To remedy this, Barefoot Wine and Surfrider Foundation encourage local residents to volunteer at cleanup and restoration events across the country to help make these beaches “barefoot-friendly.”
The Barefoot Wine Beach Rescue Project is back for its third straight year, and this time it’s bigger than ever! In celebration of Surfrider Foundation’s 25th Anniversary, Barefoot Wine and the Surfrider Foundation are rescuing, renewing and restoring 25 beaches this summer.
The Barefoot Wine Beach Rescue Project will rap up in Asbury Park, NJ with a multi site beach clean up and after party on August 29th sponsored by Barefoot Wine and Surfrider Foundation. Musical guests will include Mason Jennings and others to be announced.
Cleanup: 2 p.m. – 4 p.m.
Meeting points:
South end of Boardwalk near the end of Asbury Avenue
Middle of the Boardwalk near end of 5th Avenue
North End of the Boardwalk near the end of 8th Avenue and Deal Lake Drive
VIP reception for all cleanup attendees: 5-6 p.m.
The Stone Pony
913 Ocean Ave
Asbury Park, NJ 07712
Directions PDF | Google Maps
Concert (at The Stone Pony): 6 p.m. – 10 p.m.
With special musical guests Joss Stone, Gavin DeGraw, Cold War Kids & Mason Jennings! More Info: http://www.beachrescueconcert.com
Note: To attend this event, you must RSVP. VIP is reserved for those who attend the cleanup only. Entry is on a first come, first serve basis. You must stay the complete time for the cleanup to be granted admission to the VIP.
LAST month, Howard Roche and Luke Magliaro [photo left], owners of the iconic Moonstruck restaurant, quietly celebrated two decades of palate pleasing. In an exclusive Coaster and TheBPlot interview, they discussed the evolution of their business, partnership and passion for putting the customer first…
“Twenty years ago we cracked our first egg, diced our first onion,” said Howard, referring to their first restaurant in Ocean Grove, The Raspberry Cafe. “This is our passion and our pleasure.”
Before everything new in Asbury Park, there was Moonstruck on Lake Avenue, which Luke and Howard opened in 2000, after a three year search for the ideal spot.
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“We always knew Asbury Park had a pulse and was alive – it was a natural fit for us, living and working in the area since the early 1980’s,” said Luke, who worked at the Adriatic and Cypress Inn earlier in his career. “Howard and I would ride our bikes around the City scouting out locations until we saw the ‘For Sale’ sign on this beat-up building that used to be a bar and restaurant – which in the 20’s was a guest house, the 40’s was reported to be a ‘house of ill repute’ and from the 60’s on was some form of bar, restaurant or dance club.”
The guys jumped through fiery hoops to purchase the building [photo below left] and worked even harder, with local architect Jim Watt, to gut it to “almost nothing,” then adding everything it takes to run a first-class restaurant, the exterior porches you see today, a warm, welcoming interior, luxe restrooms and pristine landscaping.
“In the beginning it was Mr. Fashion and us in town,” said Howard, who recently introduced valet parking for guests.
After twenty years of unwavering dedication, Luke and Howard have earned effusive praise and hugs. Moonstruck, to me, is absolutely the number one, best and most consistently indulgent and welcoming restaurant around – from original entrees to detailed service to luscious drinks to the relaxing and elegant atmosphere.
“I defy anyone to find a finer, top-notch restaurant from front to back of the house than Moonstruck…anywhere,” said Carolyn Curtin, Asbury Park resident. “Luke and Howard are first-class men. Congratulations to them for twenty years of excellence.”
Every customer I spoke with echoed Carolyn’s sentiments, however Luke and Howard don’t rest on praise, working with an ever-evolving menu.
“We serve what we would like to eat and what reflects the personality of our customers – the menu has no ‘sleepers’,” said Howard who has prepared meals at Moonstruck for James Gandolfini, Katie Couric, Ben Affleck, Frankie Avalon, and Mr. Springsteen among other top-secret fancy names. “Our seasonal menu is focused around what’s fresh and what we can be proud of. Many of our customers don’t want to feel stuffed, eating heavy food during the summer, so we make sure we have amazing salads and fish, like our Wild Alaskan Halibut.”
Moonstruck is the place I take any first-time Asbury Park visitor because it’s a guaranteed great evening, minus the chaos of the boardwalk.
“Luke and Howard are gentlemen who care about their customers, employees and the community,” said Janet Manni, Century 21 Coastal Realtors, who has known Luke and Howard for decades.
In a town where chefs send out press releases announcing a new chicken breast recipe and expect a parade when they give back to the community, Luke and Howard enjoy the subtlety of their restaurant rock star-dom, calling themselves the “Wayne Newton” of dining.
“We are not the hippest or coolest but we have a great audience who keeps coming back and who appreciate the quality we insist on – just like Wayne,” said Howard. “Every award we’ve received over the years is because we earned it. We’ve never lobbied our customers to vote for us. There is a attractiveness to learning about a special place instead of being told.”
Finally, after twenty years, what was their biggest mistake?
“I should have gone to refrigeration school,” said Howard, laughing, during one the last week’s 95 degree days in town. “I wish I could fix everything myself to make sure everyone is always, always comfortable.”
Read TheBPlot’s additional coverage of Moonstruck through the years, including how the restaurant got its name by searching “Moonstruck” or clicking HERE.
THE smart and sensible article below from the “pet” section of MarthaStewart’s web site, is fabulous - shedding light on how companion animals wind up in shelters and why no one should be afraid of adopting from a shelter.
While we are on the subject of animal shelters, Asbury Park resident and pet lover, Sonja O’Brien is organizing a city-wide yard sale on September 26 - with a portion of the proceeds to benefit the Rescue Ridge animal shelter - and needs your help. (Sonja’s also the brains behind Asbury Park’s Lamppost Banner Program).
“Rescue Ridge is a unique animal shelter that takes in cats and dogs mostly deemed unadoptable and close to being euthanized,” said Sonja. “They work tirelessly with these animals to rehabilitate them and place them in a loving home. I personally took a tour of their operations and witnessed a team of dedicated volunteers.
“To turn unwanted items into a good cause, kindly pledge to have a yard sale and then donate at least ten percent of the proceeds directly to Rescue Ridge. All participants of the yard sales will receive their address listed in the advertising, all fliers posted around the area and will also fall under the town-wide permit that is required.
“And if you don’t want to have a sale, no worries…every sale needs buyers.”
You sell your extra stuff (we all have it). Or buy someone else’s (you’ve got room). Innocent animals benefit (there’s no better cause). And Sonja does the tough lifting (figuratively) and coordinating. It couldn’t be easier to do something positive and helpful.
I’m happy to report that overall, people seem to be getting better-educated about the amazing animals that exist in our country’s shelters and rescue groups. However, myths about shelter animals still exist. And the fears elicited by these myths only deter otherwise well-meaning people from finding their new best friend through adoption.
So I’m calling on all of you animal lovers out there to help me dispel these destructive myths! Are you in?
First of all, it may be helpful for people to understand that most animals wind up at shelters through no fault of their own. According to the National Council on Pet Population Study and Policy, moving is the primary reason family pets are relinquished.
And landlords that don’t allow pets are one of the biggest obstacles for renters with companion animals. (Big kudos to any landlords out there who accommodate our furry family members: Research actually shows that this makes good business sense, too — but that’s a topic for another post!) Similarly, shelter personnel report that many companion animals are relinquished because an owner has died or is relocating to a senior facility that prohibits pets.
Other reasons topping the list include the cost of regular pet care, a lack of time, and allergies. Additionally, animals given as gifts (bad idea!) often end up at the shelter either because recipients are unable to keep them or the animals grew up and no one planned for them getting bigger. And it is a sad fact that litters born to unaltered animals often wind up in shelters en masse — all the more reason to adopt from the shelter, as they typically come already altered!
Finally, one of the most avoidable reasons that loyal family pets find themselves at the shelter is because they got lost and did not have a micro-chip or tag to facilitate a reunion with their family. I cannot overstate the importance of having both a tag and a micro-chip! So many well-meaning people proudly declare that their companion animals don’t need to have identification because they never leave their side. But unforeseen events can happen. You get the point.
Needless to say, these perfectly adoptable animals are ending up at shelters through no fault of their own! So it’s up to us to help them get into loving homes and to take the necessary steps to keep them from entering the shelter in the first place.
So I’ll ask you once again… are you in?
In Kinship,
Dr. Pia Salk, MarthaStewart.com, (8/23/09)
Lately, I have been so amazed at the gorgeous, fun products created for our companion animals.
From $2,000 hypo-allergenic dog beds made of 18 karat gold fabric to simply elegant leashes created from sailboat rope or “green” leases made of recycled billboard paper to ceramic Burberry water bowls featuring the famous nova check plaid.
I read – I believe in Forbes Magazine – consumers, despite the recession, are choosing to spoil their dogs and cats because they believe the return on investment far outweighs the expense or sacrifice associated with the purchase. I can totally agree with that.
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Artist, Natalie Timm, formerly of Spring Lake, has created a wonderful and original product that benefits both pets and their owners – turning ugly into art.
Natalie paints beyond beautiful custom pet placemats – featuring an original portrait of your companion animal – taking a unsightly and generic feeding area and making it special and one-of-a-kind.
“The floor is the last frontier of art and the placemats are another layer of art for one’s home,” said Natalie, founder of NatsPetMats. “Original art in everyday surroundings is my joy to make. I wanted to provide people with long-term great experience every time they look at the placemat.”
After completing the questionnaire on Natalie’s website I answered more of her specific questions about my preferences and Truman. Afterwards, I sent specific photos of the “model”.
“I interview the client and offer choices to get people thinking however I want a feeling of exactly what the customer is dreaming of and what he or she likes,” said Natalie who paints with her dog Zoe by her side. “The more custom it is the more people and their guests will love it.”
Natalie also requested photos of the area of my kitchen where Truman’s bowl sits and descriptions of colors I prefer. I am color blind so that was tricky, however patient Natalie took the time to make sure the placemat flowed with the rest of the house – both in color and design.
“I study the individuality of each pet’s features – their eyelashes, whiskers, fur patterns, muscle tone,” said Natalie. “I paint a few ‘tests’ in watercolor until I feel I have captured the energy and individuality of the pet. Then I paint the placemat.”
The entire process takes Natalie more than ten hours and it shows. I wanted to frame Truman’s mat (made from recycled or repurposed vinyl flooring). Natalie captured his energy, excitement and curiosity – even getting his spots correctly positioned in the portrait. I smile every time I see the placemat.
“Right now, I am working on a placemat for a newly married couple in Sea Girt who adopted two dachshund puppies,” said Natalie. “They want the mat to be a benchmark as they grow up so they can always have a memory of their dogs as puppies.”
We live in an art infused town. There’s no reason for our companion animals not to enjoy their own custom masterpieces.
The snoring sound you are hearing is not coming from a vacationer sleeping on our glorious beach…its from the editors at the New York Post asleep at the keyboard again. For the second time this month TheBPlot has beaten the big guys to a story.
Saturday’s edition of New York’s best tabloid newspaper touted on Page 3, “Dylan’s a Complete Unknown” and detailed rock legend Bob Dylan was stopped by a Long Branch policewoman who believed he was a vagrant and loitering at the Ocean Place Resort.
YOU already knew the deal, and more detail, if you read TheBPlot’s “You Say Who” page on August 8 – a week before The Post picked up the story, using this site as one of its fact-checking sources.
As always, thanks always to the great sources who help TheBPlot bring you fun, local dish first.
Purchasing a dog or cat is like eating veal – gross and unnecessary. Commoditizing any life is appalling. It’s almost as horrific as selling someone else’s kidney.
No matter how great the breeder is, purchasing a companion animal lubes the wheels of puppy mill commerce. Have you seen the “Oprah” and National Geographic Channel programs about puppy mills?
Recently, I was introduced to a local animal shelter that is devoted to rehabilitating and finding good homes for dogs and cats in our area.
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“At the Rescue Ridge shelter, we take the most unadoptable animals and invest the time in making them very adoptable,” said Brian Watkins, volunteer dog handler and three-year Asbury Park resident. “Sometimes it takes months, sometimes weeks and sometimes a day or two but we are dedicated to working as hard and as long as it takes to rehab and find a good home for these dogs and cats.”
Brian lives by, err…with what he says. He and his girlfriend, Marilyn McGarvin, adopted their companion animal, Gunnar (an adorable pitt bull) from the shelter.
“Gunnar was an ‘eleventh hour’ dog – slated to be euthanized by the SPCA after being housed there for one year – until Rescue Ridge stepped in,” said Brian, who with his girlfriend Marilyn has been volunteering at the shelter for three years. “Today, he is a super part of our family.”
Gunnar is also paying it forward by serving as a “dog therapy dog” at Rescue Ridge, headquartered on a farm in Howell.
“What Gunner does with the other dogs makes my jaw drop,” said Brian. “Having a balanced dog around the other dogs speeds up training considerably. It’s something you have to see to believe.”
GUNNAR SMILING
Rescue Ridge was founded in 2001 by Terri Willis. Terri worked tirelessly – some would say gave her life – for stray animals.
“At fifty-one years old, Terri needed and had the opportunity to receive a heart and lung transplant,” said Brian. “The physicians stressed that she could not be around anything that could compromise her health – including stray animals. Terri told the doctors to find someone else for the transplant because more than anything she wanted to continue taking care of animals.”
Today, Terri’s passion for helping companion animals – including horses and, one time, a chicken – lives on thanks to her friends Marybeth Tkach, president; Maureen Bedard, assistant director of Rescue Ridge.
Brian, like me, is passionate about the fact that many people are missing out on the love pitt bull dogs from Rescue Ridge give because they suffer from pitt bull ignorance.
“The American Kennel Club rates pitt bulls better in temperament for families than Cocker Spaniels, Collies and many other dogs,” said Brian. “There are just a handful of breeds that rate better, like the Golden Retriever. It is all about how any dog is raised.”
It really is how the individual dog is raised. Anyone who has met my Truman, found on the street by Carolyn Curtain three years ago, will tell you he has so much love to give.
Additional locals who volunteer their valuable time at Rescue Ridge: Doreen Babo, Tinton Falls; Katie Elko, Tinton Falls; Chris McCarthy, Asbury Park and Joni Wuchter, Wall.
Cheers to everyone taking the time to take care of innocent four-legged friends.
Rescue Ridge is not rated by Charity Navigator. Executives at Rescue Ridge did not respond to repeated requests (under direction of Charity Navigator) for information, during a two week time-period, regarding the disbursement and allocation of donations. While, in my opinion and others, this creates more questions than answers, the lack of response has no reflection on the documented success and dedication of the volunteers and the many, many, many companion animals the non-profit has helped.
The curtain rises next Thursday (August 12) on ReVision Theatre’s newest production – “The Full Monty”. Yes, once again, ReVision has put together an amazing cast which, for the first time, includes Bob Angelini.
Bob, who also serves as the Drama Coach for Ocean Township High School’s West Park Players, and his wife, State Assemblywoman Mary Pat Angelini, spoke with me exclusively while they were vacationing in Spain last week to discuss the production…and the exposure it’s famous for. (EXTENDED ONLINE INTERVIEW).
TBP: “The Full Monty” is a musical about six unemployed Buffalo Steelworkers who recognize and prepare for a new income opportunity – all the while facing universal fears and demons and recognizing the value of friendship. What role will you be playing in the musical and what attracted you to it?
WHICH character will a runner-up from Israeli “American Idol” play…WHICH straight twentysomething area resident…WHICH Asbury Park restaurant and caterer…Bob Dylan, Solomon Dwek and WHO has more meat passed through than the Carnegie Deli…
Bob: I’ll be playing Reg Willoughby, a mill worker and union leader. I wasn’t attracted to it. I begged for a part and the ReVision guys felt sorry for me.
TBP: I am so sure casting you was simple. How are you preparing for the role?
Bob: Mostly in front of the mirror. It’s not a big part…but remember there are no small roles, only small actors.
TBP: You have been on ReVision Theatre’s Board of Directors since its inception, serving as a wonderful ambassador and fundraiser. What are you feeling in anticipation of taking the stage for the first time next week?
Bob: It’s next week? Now I’m nervous…thanks a lot.
TBP: Your performance will bring new meaning to Roosevelt’s quote, “Speak softly and carry a big stick.” Would it be more appropriate to say you will be wielding a yardstick or a simple ruler on stage?
Bob: It’s a bit part but I am growing into it.
TBP: OMG how fab are you. Will there be manscaping involved in your costuming, my metrosexual friend?
Bob: I’m thinking maybe a nice topiary…
TPB: Theatre people love topiaries! There literally is not one person who I have met who does not think the world of you and Pat. Does this role have either of you concerned about over-exposure?
Bob: Her name is “Mary Pat”. She’s so nice they named her twice. Mary Pat is extremely supportive of what I do and a great fan of the arts.
Don’t tell her I am doing this. I’ll be using the stage name “Mike Easter” so as not to draw so much attention. (laughs)
Mary Pat: Not in the least! For 23 years I have had the pleasure of seeing Bob in many wonderful productions.
TBP: Sorry about the mistake with your name, Mary Pat. Pleeeease don’t have me audited. Bob, can you give us a preview of what’s in store for us at the Carousel Building when the show opens Thursday?
Bob: ReVision is bringing Broadway to the beach. All the talent is top-notch – directed by (Asbury Park resident) David Liedholdt, the cast includes many Equity actors. The show is hilarious and we can’t wait to share it with everyone. “The Full Monty” will not disappoint.
TBP: What was your fave ReVision production so far?
Mary Pat: “Hair”.
Bob: “Hair” (named “Best of NJ” by NJ Monthly, August 2008) was my personal favorite and “Kingdom” was amazing. I never thought I would like a hip hop musical but “Kingdom” was an operetta of the present. I often said, “What do kids see in hip hop or rap?” After “Kingdom” it was apparent – this music is a true art form and when coupled with the story of two kids trying to find themselves in their lives, I was hooked.
TBP: Why is ReVision important to our community at large and vice-versa?
Mary Pat: The arts are an integral part of any economic development plan. The ripple effect the productions have on our businesses is invaluable.
Bob: ReVision brought more than 5,000 people into Asbury Park last year during the run of “Hair”. Arts patrons spend an average of $50 in town before or after a performance. Multiply that by thousands.
Mary Pat: As I talk with people, they clearly are feeling the crunch of the bad economy, are fed up with crooked elected officials and experiencing a general feeling of malaise. More than ever, it’s important to enjoy an evening of fun and escapism. “The Full Monty” is just such an opportunity.
REVISION TEAM
TBP: Bob, as a ReVision Theatre Board member, you are involved in choosing the shows to produce each year. How does the vetting process work?
Bob: The Board, subscribers and others suggest shows and our artistic directors painstakingly review scripts with a goal of presenting fresh, new works or past works with a fresh new persepective. We owe our success to founders David Liedholdt, Stephen Bishop-Seeley and Tom Morrissey – together they have 700 years in the theatre, at least it seems that long, given their talent. We are lucky to have them in Asbury Park.
AUG. 12 to SEPT. 6
TBP: Lucky to have you both, too. Bob, your fans can’t wait to see what type of topiary you choose. Break a leg.
TheBPlot is thrilled to be a emphatic supporter of ReVision Theatre and its ongoing, creative and innovative productions. Look for TheBPlot’s new ad in “The Full Monty” program.
Sunday, Page Six tried to break the news that Whitney Houston [left] will not be performing live on Good Morning America (Whitney Houston Hates the Morning) in September to promote her new album – rather taping the show the day prior. YOU already knew that – and more detail - if you read last Thursday’s edition of TheBPlot, three days earlier than the New York Post’s world famous must-read.
I bow to the King of Gossip, Mr. Richard Johnson [right], editor of Page Six, my friend since I was with “The Howard Stern Show” however score one for the Asbury Park team and keep reading TheBPlot for more huge national celebrity and local name news and gossip.
As Whitney Houston continues her strategically choreographed “listening tour” – stops have included Beverly Hills and London - to begin the drum beat for the release of her new album “I Look to You” on September 1, I spoke with two friends of Asbury Park and attendees of last Tuesday’s party in New York’s Time-Warner building. Over cocktails on Watermark’s new and gorgeous 2500 sq. foot cedar deck, our friends gave me the exciting first-hand scoop:
“So we are in this amazing space overlooking Central Park. The tone of the event was very formal – everyone sat and listened to the nine tracks and Clive Davis talk a bit in between each track. Normally, at album listening parties the guest are all milling around and talking. Not this one.
“Clive talked about the four year journey to produce this album in front of an amazing group of guests, including: Martha Stewart, Diane Sawyer, Alicia Keys (who wrote one of the tracks), Gayle King, Vivica Fox and tons of the most powerful music and radio industry executives.
“The album will be a huge hit. Whitney is totally, completely back. It’s great to see. There is one pop track that everyone will love and dance to – ‘Million Dollar Bill’ (by Alicia). The track will be another ‘It’s Not Right, But it’s Okay’ remixed a million times. There are a few ballads were you hear her voice has matured and is still smooth and powerful. It will give you goosebumps.
“After about nine tracks were played completely, Whitney came out looking absolutely amazing – glowing, to a loooong standing ovation. It was obvious everyone was rooting for her. She smiled her gorgeous smile. She seemed nervous but really, really happy. Her mom Cissy and her daughter Bobbi were in the room too.
“Whitney took the microphone from Clive, then shared that she was torn as to whether to make this album. She said she seriously considered going south to some tropical island with her daughter and living there selling fruit from a roadside stand and be happy for the rest of her life. She said her mom told her that God gave her the gift of her voice and she needed to share it with everyone again.”
“THOSE TWO DIVAS FOUGHT LIKE DRAG QUEENS FOR AN UMBRELLA ON A RAINY ASBURY DAY…”
Amen.
My friends, I told you Whitney was back and looking great in my January 8 column, after bumping into her in Neiman-Marcus at the Short Hills Mall. It’s thrilling to know that she is reaaaaaally back and in the game again. I can’t love her enough.
I understand Whitney will be sitting down with Diane Sawyer in a few weeks - when, I am sure ABC will become the Whitney Houston Network for a week. It will be curious to see if Whitney performs on GMA and if its live or taped. Last time, she taped her “live” performance in front of Lincoln Center on Sunday afternoon for a Monday airing because “her voice is better later in the day.” But, that’s also when she was allegedly higher than the Condors.
You’ll remember when Diane and Whitney spoke previously, Whitney, with that disgusting human being Bobby Brown by her side, said to Diane, “crack is cheap…only poor people smoke crack.” Ug.
And…Oprah Winfrey may own the world but don’t expect to see Whitney on the Oprah Show. Unless the diva barrier has been broken recently - if it was, I would have expected Oprah to be at the listening party BTW - I heard those two fought like drag queens for an umbrella on a rainy Asbury day during their last interview, more than a decade ago, when I was working at Maury Povich and we had our moles in Chicago.
Asbury Park’s brand new Mayor, Edward Johnson, graciously answers more of my softball questions.
TBP: What’s your fave Asbury Park moment?
Mayor: I guess I have two. The July 4th Parade, when the community is out and about enjoying themselves. It seems like the one day we can all forget our troubles and just be one city celebrating. Second would be watching football at a local pub with friends and neighbors – it can get brutal.
TBP: Who do you remember as the teacher who impressed you the most the most?
SOLOMON DWECK, REESE WITHERSPOON, JAKE GYLLENHALL, REVISION THEATRE’S SURPRISE STAR IS “FULL MONTY” and WHY THE GRANDE ARCADE’S DIABLO ROYALE WILL NEVER HAPPEN…ALL IN “YOU SAY WHO” RIGHT NOW
Mayor: Mrs. Shea in third grade. She would always give you a wink and had a confident and patient “you can do it” attitude. What I admired most about her was her insistence (against the objections of school administrators) that we study a new subject at the end of the 60’s – “Negro History”.
TBP: Go Mrs. Shea and every teacher working hard to do right by our kids. Do you have a poem you love?
Mayor: “The Raven” by Edgar Allen Poe.
TBP: Loooove that poem. What is a pet peeve in people you have?
TBP: We are too easy to believe the worst in others or to disrespect each other, to prove our point or just because we can. There seems to be a breach of civility in society today.
TBP: Asbury Park has many challenges now and ahead to manage. How do you continue to move forward when faced with obstacles?
Mayor: I stay focused and remember that there is more than one avenue to accomplishing a goal.
TBP: Your sexuality was pretty much a non-issue during each of your campaigns. As Asbury Park’s first openly gay mayor, do you have a message you would like to convey to teens or adults living in “the closet”?
Mayor: My message to everyone is very simple – be who you are. I really never concentrate on the fact that I am Black or Native American or gay or a man or an educator. All of these things are the parts that make up the much larger person that I am.
I understand what the significance of my presence in the office of Mayor means to many people. I want everyone to believe that if I can do it, so can they.
I also want them to know that my number one goal is to be the best Mayor for Asbury Park and to build a great city for all who live, work or visit here.
TBP: There is an army of people here – myself included – who have an unwavering passion for this city. What do you want to say to your constituency?
Mayor: What I hope will become a clear message is that this is the time for all of us to put aside our differences and focus on what is best for One Asbury.
I am confident and have great hope for our future. Even with the global economic climate, I believe that this is a time of great possibility for our city. Challenges will present themselves but so will many opportunities. If we join together we will achieve our common goal of rebuilding a great community like Asbury Park. This is a rare opportunity.
TBP: Thank you, Mayor, for taking the time to help us understand what makes you tick.
BRIEFLY: Wednesday’s regular fireworks on the beach (@ 9.10 pm or so) have been moved to First Avenue. “This is so the wealth can be shared on both ends (of the Boardwalk),” said Garrett Giberson. “All spots on the Boardwalk are good viewing spots. Just keep in mind the direction of the wind because tht is where the smoke will blow.”
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I received a press release about a really fab event August 8 at the brand new Silverball Pinball Museum on Cookman Avenue. Produced by the super-talented Aaron Coleman (Halloween Block Party, Road Trip Boardwalk Fashion Show, and tons more) - its sure to be an over the top, fab, original evening of fun.
If you have a pinball fetish, and I know a ton of you do, read on for more…and see you there.
“REPLAY SILVERBALL NIGHT” SILVERBALL PINBALL MUSEUM HALL OF FAME in ASBURY PARK
Pyramid Productions and the Silverball Pinball Museum Hall of Fame has teamed up to throw a one of a kind “balls and tails” party (pinballs and cocktails), which includes three hours of unlimited pinball play, one hour open bar and great music by DJ Rico.
“The classic nostalgia is sure to bring back childhood memories,” said Aaron Coleman, Pyramid Productions. “Replay will be one of the area’s most unique parties to-date.”
Silverball houses what many consider to be the Top 100 pinball games (out of 6,000) of all time – all vintage and impeccably restored, built between 1933 and 1979 – it’s another Asbury Park original.
The museum is located in the 5,000-square-foot basement of Holdfast, a clothing and vinyl records store at 639 Cookman Ave.
The Pinball Fun begins on August 8th, 2009, 9pm until Midnight. Entrance to party is at 639 Cookman Avenue. $35 tickets get one-hour open bar from 9pm to 10pm & unlimited play for 3 hours. 21 and up welcome.
The Harrison Restaurant & Lounge located on Cookman Avenue in Asbury Park will be serving up drinks at this retro museum with a full bar in addition to DJ Rico spinning his beats.
Be sure to buy tickets, as they are sure to sell out fast. Space is limited only 150 tickets available. For more information and tickets go to www.PyramidProductions.info
First-time visitors from Atlanta, Los Angeles and internationally, Israel and Brazil were among the more than estimated 7,500 guests Asbury Park welcomed last weekend during Asbury Park Marketing Fund’s, Road Trip 8.
“What a few of us endeavored to do eight years ago when we planted this event’s ‘seeds’ was to simply share and celebrate Asbury Park with our friends and family in the gay community – collectively reach out to others in a grass roots way,” said Brad Hurtado, one of the weekend’s producers. “Today, Road Trip has become a destination weekend from all over the country and beyond. People come, fall in love with the city and make it their own.”
Road Trip 8 began Thursday evening – thanks to Jill Potter – with a performance by comic Suzanne Westenhoefer at the Stone Pony (attended by 300 people) and ended with an over-the-top circus themed beachfront fashion show, waves crashing dramatically in the background, “Cirque du Asbury” by Aaron Coleman.
“Road Trip makes a great day at the beach more interesting,” said Edward O’Donnell, Philadelphia resident. “Good music and spending time with friends and my extended gay family here is something I look forward to every summer.”
WHICH style icon – who’s been used more than water…AT which Beach Bar bar were “Queer Eye’s” Carson Cressley and…WHICH multiple NAMMY Awardwinner…SPEAKING of closeted guys…WHICH fortysomething local creative type…(All the dish in “You Say Who”)
In between seaside lounging breaks during the lightly breezy 85 degree days, local house parties, cocktails, shopping and dining around town, guests also enjoyed Friday evening’s Kick-Off Party; SandBlast – Saturday’s main event dance party on the beach and Sunday’s Gay History Trolley Tour.
BEACH BEAUTIFUL AT RT 8
SandBlast welcomed 1300 guests – more than double last year’s attendees, including “Queer Eye’s” Carson Cressley and James Dale (whose landmark lawsuit against the Boy Scouts of America made headlines almost a decade ago).
“We loved the fireworks on Saturday choreographed to dance music,” said first-time visitor Carmine Clemente, who, with his partner Chuck White stayed the weekend in Ocean Grove’s Manchester Inn. “Langosta Lounge was great. Watermark was really good. We ate at Market in the Middle twice. Every minute of the weekend was a fun spectacle.”
Area resident Billy Mecca agreed, watching the great circus themed fashion show.
“Cirque du Asbury was a blast – one of the best and memorable events on the boardwalk so far this summer,” said Billy, of BeachBlog.me. “Everyone in the crowd loved every minute of it. The show was an all-age crowd pleaser.”
PHOTO COURTESY BEACHBLOG.ME
Guests also noted the positive change the area is experiencing.
“It’s obvious the city is moving forward,” said Mike Barber visiting with his partner from Philadelphia. “This was the best year yet. We love all the new shops and restaurants on the boardwalk and around town.”
HOTTIES DANCED 'TILL DARK
I heard Mike’s sentiment expressed a number of times and Jill Potter summed it up best about our city.
“Asbury is contagious, once you’re here, you ‘get’ it and you need more of it,” said Jill. “Sometimes its something that you really cant define, and then, there are times you can. Generally, its a feeling of acceptance, it’s a feeling of being part of something, a growth. I think, for the residents, Road Trip is a very proud moment and one which they feel they own.”
Beyond showing off the City, Road Trip has proven to be a valuable weekend for area businesses.
85 DEGREE, VIBRANT BLUE SKY DAY
“The weekend welcomes many to Asbury Park who, in turn, spend significant dollars to support our shops, hotels, clubs and restaurants,” said Tom Gilmore, director of commerce. “Road Trip is one of the city’s premier events and is the type of event that defines our great city as a place for everyone to come have fun.”
For the first time, the Asbury Park Marketing Fund licensed Road Trip to local event producers in order to focus on its mission of promoting the City.
Unless you have been living under a rock, you know Asbury Park named a new leader earlier this month.
Mayor Ed Johnson generously took the time out of his busy calendar to answer some “off messaging” questions about the interesting, energetic and layered Ed we wouldn’t be familiar with from council meetings and dry politico events.
TBP: As a Jersey Boy born and bred, what did you learn while living in New Mexico while attending college?
Mayor: New Mexico was one of the greatest experiences of my life. The people, the culture and my education (book and real life) are with me to this very day.
Ever heard the phrase “The west is a place where a young man or women goes to prove themselves” – that was my experience. It gave me an understanding of the importance of valuing people, saying what you mean, looking someone in the eye and being an active member of a small community. At the edge of town there was nothing but desert so you had to get along.
TBP: Working at Brookdale, what do the students teach you?
Mayor: Brookdale is all about individuals who are looking for something better – to improve. It is amazing to me to see some of these individuals work hard to overcome challenges and eventually walk across the stage to get a diploma and begin a new life.
TBP: What do you do to relax?
Mayor: My favorite activity is laying out at the beach or pool. I find it most relaxing. In high school and college I was a lifeguard / WSI.
TBP: What are your hobbies?
Mayor: Swimming, biking, watching the NFL – I am a rabid Washington Redskins Fan. I picked up golf about two years ago because of my brothers’-in-law and nephew.
TBP: I understand you enjoy cooking, too. What’s your specialty?
Mayor: I make a mean macaroni-n-cheese and during the summer Thai BBQ ribs. I like to try different recipes. I have learned that homemade bread (which mostly resembles a rock) is not my strong point.
TBP: Yum. Is there a talent you wish you had?
Mayor: I wish I could sing. I can’t carry a note to save my life.
TBP: Me either. If you could have only one: wealth, blinding beauty or live to be 125, what would you choose?
TBP: That’s a hard one. Probably live to be 125, in good health. I had a great aunt who was born in 1898 and lived into her 80’s. The things that she saw invented and the advances she saw in society were amazing. I would like to experience a similar life span – although, I seem to be well on my way, being born way last century.
TBP: What was a mistake you have made in life and what did you learn from it?
Mayor: Trying to hide from myself. For a long time I tried hard to live a lie to keep other people happy. It cost me very dearly. I hurt the people I cared most about and myself. I learned how to be comfortable with myself and proud of whom I am.
TBP: That’s a mistake a lot of people make. And brave of you to discuss.
Part Two next week, our Mayor how he manages challenges and his greatest weakness.
Right now I just created a new summer playlist which I mostly listen to at 5:00am in the gym. It includes a collection of everyone from: John Prine, Parliament, Mocedes, KC & The Sunshine Band, India, Van Halen… I like a wide variety of music, mostly “back in the day” stuff!
WHAT PIECE OF TECHNOLOGY COULD YOU NEVER LIVE WITHOUT?
My watch! Time is an important commodity to me. I force myself to leave my watch at home when I go on vacation. It’s hard, but worth it – not to care what time it is – at least for a while.
WHAT PIECE OF TECHNOLOGY COULD YOU ABSOLUTELY LIVE WITHOUT AND WISH WAS NEVER INVENTED? WHY?
The cell telephone! While it is convenient and I use it, our entire world has turned into a phone booth (work, the movies, plane, train, sidewalk, restaurants). People don’t seem to have manners with regard to disturbing the peace with their cell telephone. There are no rules..you can talk as loud as you want, wherever you want, about whatever you want.
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE MEAL?
My grandmother’s smothered chicken & rice and all the fixins. Followed by her homemade Coconut/Pineapple Cake! Mmmmmm! A close second is Maryland Crabs! On vacation, I can sit for a 3 hour crab pickin’ & beer session with no problem!
CHARCOAL OR GAS GRILL FOR BACKYARD BBQS?
Charcoal. I know it’s not too green of me, but charcoal just adds something to the flavor. I do understand the attraction of a good gas grill – ready to BBQ instantly!
WHAT IS THE FIRST WEBSITE YOU LOOK AT IN THE MORNING?
Usually MSNBC.com to catch up on the overnight news. I can be a news junky, flipping between Morning Joe, CNN & several local channels in the morning.
WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE WEBSITES, IN GENERAL?
I spend a lot of time on Redskins.com during football season. I am also a definite internet shopper – Overstock.com, Amazon.com & Vermont Country Store.com are some of my favorite websites.
WHAT IS YOUR FAVE MOVIE OF ALL TIME?
Well my partner Jeff will argue (he puts up with me since I make him watch several silly movies). But I would have to say my all time favorite is Imitation of Life with Lana Turner…It’s all about Lana!.. get with it or get out!
FAVORITE ALL-TIME SONG?
Rock Me Gently by Andy Kim. It’s the song that introduced me to my partner…but that’s another story….
WHAT ENTERTAINMENT SHOWS (NON NEWS) DO YOU WATCH ON TV?
My favorite over this past year was Friday Night Lights…very addicting! When I can, I watch Sordid Lives or Star Trek Original & Next Generation (yes, I am a trekie)
WHAT WAS THE FIRST MUSIC CONCERT YOU EVER WENT TO AS A TEEN?
That was last century! I went to see Meatloaf in the original Bat Out of Hell Tour. Funny, I just saw him again this past year at Paramount Theater. Talk about your life being circular.
“DANCING WITH THE STARS” OR “AMERICAN IDOL”?
Neither!
DO YOU HAVE A CRUSH ON A CELEBRITY OR DO YOU FIND A CELEBRITY INTRIGUING RIGHT NOW? WHO?
Crush? I would say Pam Oliver of Fox Sports. She is hard as nails! You gotta be tough to hold your own against NFL Players. Intrigued by? French President Nikolas Sarkozy. His charm and intelligence, I find him to be a very intriguing leader.
WHAT IS SOMETHING ABOUT YOU THAT WE WOULD BE SURPRISED TO LEARN?
I started my career working at McDonalds in high school…now I’m Mayor…coincidence? You be the judge!
WHAT TANGIBLE OBJECTS DO YOU LOVE AND WHY?
My beach chair which has every Asbury Park Beach Tag for the past 14 summers on it. I can look at each tag and chuckle over each summer’s “shenanigans”. Unfortunately (or fortunately) they seem to get less and less as time goes by. I guess that’s means I’m growing up (or is that growing old?)
WHAT ARE YOUR CATS NAMES AND HOW DID YOU CHOOSE THE NAMES?
Jeff and I have 2 farm tabby cats from my high school in South Jersey. They are 14 years old and have never been separated since birth. Both are very unique in personality, at times they act like they have never seen each other before. Jane – The name just came to me. She is quick with the claws & not to be messed with. Elmira – Named after the Looney Tunes Character that just loves you to death. She’s gonna love you whether you want it or not.
After months of planning, Road Trip 8 – the best and most famous weekend of the summer – is finally here. Naturally, TheBPlot and Coaster - with the official four-page hard-copy pull-out guide to the weekend - have an exclusive look at what’s in store for you.
I spoke with Amanda Lepore, the world’s “most famous transsexual”; Aaron Coleman, Asbury Park event producer extraordinaire and Corey Craig, New York City DJ – three of the hot stars of Road Trip 8, which begins tonight (July 16) with the “Welcome Party” featuring the brilliant comic Suzanne Westenhoefer compliments of AwwMama Productions. (Click here for my exclusive interview with Suzanne last week).
More interviews with the stars of Road Trip 8 at BeachBlog.me. All weekend long, the blog will have photo coverage of events, live Twitter pics and a news feed.
Okay, so…
TBP: Amanda, you are famed photographer David LaChapelle’s muse, had a number one single in Switzerland and are a style icon to many. It’s so fun you are coming to see us for Road Trip this year.
Amanda: I love Asbury Park. Growing up in New Jersey, I have always loved the beach. I think I got lost on the Asbury Park boardwalk as a kid.
The album I have worked on for five years drops next month and I am previewing it live for all my friends in Asbury Park at the Kick-Off Party Friday (July 17).
I’ll perform a smashup of all my songs. Afterwards, there’s a fierce Mundo Unico underwear and bathing suit show. Even later, fireworks (on the beach, 10.45 pm) to a soundtrack by DJ David Marc.
TBP: So much is going on, Amanda. Brad Hurtado has a ton planned. Immediately after the fireworks, The Tides Hotel on Seventh Avenue (hug and kiss away from the boardwalk) – a must-see, completely luxe renovated and hot hangout – is hosting a post-party party with drink specials and Marty’s famous White Cosmo.
The Tides is also throwing no cover charge pool parties Saturday and Sunday afternoon. I love that place to relax with a cocktail on their original Frank Gehry-designed outdoor furniture, surrounded by lush foliage, art, people and architecture. It’s a vacation in our backyard.
Aaron, your Pyramid Productions is producing a one of a kind fashion show on the boardwalk at the Third Avenue Pavillion on Sunday evening (July 19).
Aaron: The show, “Cirque de Asbury” will be no-holds-barred with circus-like performances, along with great style from local Asbury Park boutiques. Models will don their get-ups and strut the boards. Fire breathers and jugglers, stilt walkers and a plethora of other circus-like performers will spice up this over the big-top scene.
TBP: You put a fresh spin on everything you do, Aaron. So talented you are.
Speaking of spin, Corey Craig, my talented friend and favorite DJ – who I must say, also makes amazing macaroni and cheese – I am thrilled you will be spinning at SandBlast Saturday (July 18). Your music is fun, happy, light and energetic – the perfect tone.
Friends from Pennsylvania, New York and everywhere in between still talk about how much fun they had at the beach dance party last year.
What are your picks for a great list of songs people can download to have their own fab summer party?
Corey: Easy – here’s a fierce list for everyone: “When Love Takes Over”, “Heartbreak”, “Sing”, “Now that I’m a Chick”, “Goodbye”, “Some Kinda Rush”, “Paparazzi”, “Hold On”, “Epiphany” and “Release Me”.
Cheers to all the volunteers and their tireless efforts to make Road Trip 8 happen.
This legendary performer deserves an iconic venue, one which matches her unique and unabashed style–Suzanne meet The Stone Pony. Don’t miss this one night only event where the Pony is gay for a day. Fearless, bold, unapologetic, and freaking hilarious best describes Comedian Suzanne Westenhoefer. She’s made a career out of telling the truth. And, the truth is, life is funny and no one is off limits. From her mom’s Last Will and Testament to her dog’s embarrassing discovery, Suzanne shares stories that leave audiences in stitches. Suzanne works mostly unscripted, so when she hits the stage it’s an unpredictable, original night of comedy magic
FRIDAY, JULY 17
Grande Arcade. LOST AT SEA: The Road Trip Oceanside Kickoff Party featuring a live performance by Amanda Lapore. 7:00 PM –11:00 PM. Music by DJ David Marc
Join your friends and two thousand guests in the Grand Arcade for Road Trip’s most popular event. Entry is free, although there’s a suggested donation of $10 which guarantees you a copy of DJ Corey Craig’s fantastic Official Road Trip 8 Mix. Well worth it and your donation helps support these types of events in Asbury Park. Our 42Below Vodka Open Bar is from 7-9PM for $15 and after 9PM your vodka cocktails are just $5 a drink. Enjoy drinks & dinner in the fresh air on Convention Hall’s newly opened north, east and south balconies.
The restored Grand Arcade is where you can have dinner as well with eight participating boardwalk restaurants which will be serving festival style.
Road Trip Runway hosted by Amanda Lapore. 9:00PM
International transexual fashion icon Amanda Lepore performs a smashup of her hit songs on the runway followed by our sexy ROAD TRIP RUNWAY: Mundo Unico Underwear & Swimsuit Show. It all takes place at 9PM in the middle of the party so you’ll have a great view!
Road Trip Fireworks - Soundtrack by DJ David Marc. 10:45 PM – 11:00 PM
Cap off the Road Trip Oceanside Kickoff Party with a spectacular fireworks display over the ocean. Our partygoers will have a front row seat from Convention Hall’s balconies and the boardwalk just outside the Kickoff Party. Fireworks sound track mixed by DJ David Marc, who will be spinning live during the kickoff party.
Erotic Art ExhibitOne Night Only. 11:00 PM – 2AM. TIDES HOTEL: 408 Seventh Avenue. Free
IRONBALL GAMES presents Asbury Park’s 1st Annual GAY BEACH DODGEBALL on 4th Ave Beach! Come Play ($10/player) or watch the hotties dodge! duck! dip! dive! To play in the game, click on the link: http://ironballgames.com/SIGN_UP_TO_PLAY.html.
SandBlast: Dance Party on the Beach. 2:00 PM- SUNSET. Fifth Avenue Beach & Convention Hall’s Beach Bar. $55 At Door. Under 25? Pay Your Age Online
Advocate magazine calls Road Trip “a high-octane weekend of beach parties, splashy art fairs, sports events, dinner galas and customized real estate tours.” Now with SAND BLAST, a daytime dance right in the middle of Asbury Park’s hot gay beach, Road Trip kicks into high gear. DJ Corey Craig starts spinning at 2PM and the hot, sweaty and sexy fun goes til sunset. Enjoy cocktails in the sunshine, beautiful bodies and the most stunning beach in a hundred miles. With a spectacular location facing the Atlantic ocean, the glorious architecture of Convention Hall as a backdrop, a 50′x70′ dance floor on the sand and the perfect music for a beach dance, SAND BLAST will be the highlight of your summer. Supporting The Center in Asbury Park & The Center NYC.
Peek-A-Boo Revue and the Striptease Orchestra – adults only. Asbury Lanes – 209 Fourth Avenue. Doors at 8 PM. Show at 10 PM. $15
Over the past 10 years, in Philadelphia PA, one troupe has kept he spirit of cabaret, burlesque and all-round “showbizzy-ness” alive, by presenting a brand new show each month – The Peek-A-Boo Revue! An adults-only pastiche of Singing, Dancing and Comedy all wrapped up in a Burlesque Show!
All of Asbury Park’s renovated downtown shops and restaurants will be open and welcoming Road Trip guests. Check the art galleries, antique shops, fab clothing stores, pampered pet shop, coffee shops, bookstores, tarot card readings, and more. The cruising happens up and down Cookman and Mattison Avenues from Main Street towards the beach three and four blocks.
SUNDAY, JULY 19
REHAB: Recovery On The Beach. 12:00 AM- 5PM. Fifth Avenue Beach & Convention Hall’s Beach Bar. $5 Beach Badge.
Spend the day on Asbury Park’s Fifth Avenue Beach with hotties from Jersey, Philly and New York City. Food and drink provided by The Beach Bar. All guests will need to stop by one of the kiosks on the boardwalk and purchase a $5 daily beach badge to get on the sand or swim.
Gay History of Asbury Park Trolley Tour. Departure times: 12:00, 1:30, 3:00, 4:30 PM. Guided Tours Depart on the Hour from Convention Hall. $10. These tours always sell out.
Throughout the many ‘phases’ of Asbury Parks history, the one piece that has remained consistent from the 1940’s, thru the dark days of the late 60’s, 70’s and 80’s, to the re-development of today, has been the presence of a Gay community. This tour will bring alive the oft forgotten, yet vibrant, thriving, and sometimes wacky stores of those times.
Hear about Tiny Tim’s Tearoom of the 1930’s, discover where gay British soldiers who were billeted at the Berkeley Carteret and The New Monterey Hotel went to have a drink and find men of a ‘similar type’. Learn about the Blue Note jazz club, Chez Elle (and the role it played in a landmark NJ Supreme Court ruling, that overturned the State Alcohol Beverage Commissions ability to revoke or deny a liquor license to any establishment that served “apparent homosexuals”.) to Dannys,The M&K, Archies, The Loading Dock, Bond on Bond St., the El Moroccan Room, the very first women’s only bar The Owl and the Pussycat, as well as the gay hotels like The Albion The Hudson, and TheAtlantis. Learn not only about The Colony Baths, but the ‘other’ Bath House that existed as well. Hear how the colorful mix of drag queens, rough trade, transvestites, New York City regulars, average ‘Joes’ as well as the more intellectual gay crowd all ate at the 24 hour, Asbury Diner after the bars closed. And finally, hear just a few of the outlandish stores; such as the night the largest dance club in town caught fire and burned – to such the delight of a neighboring bar owner that she uncorked and served champagne to the Asbury Park Firefighters in the streets of Cookman Avenue, as they worked to put out the flames.
Narrated by Asbury Park Realtor, Mark McDonald, the tour is a result of a combination of research by Asbury Park historian, Helen-Chantal Pike, as well as the personal stories of several life long gay and lesbian residents and business owners who were an integral part of those times.
“Cirque Du Asbury Fashion” 6:00 pm. Third Ave Pavilion. $10.
This circus theme fashion show will have edgy performers and unthinkable acts with fashion shown by Style Rocket, B-unique, Lightly Salted, Hold Fast, Bodega Shoppe, Bird, etc and All eyes on you. Langosta Lounge will be serving up drinks outside. Forget Bryant Park come to the AP boardwalk with the Atlantic Ocean behind you and watch a cutting edge fashion show with wild circus performers. Benefiting Revision Theatre. Tickets in advance via PayPal or at the event.
Madonna has “four minutes to save the world.” Next weekend, during Road Trip 7, you’ll have three days to have all the fun in the world.
The amazing Jill Potter, chairperson of the Asbury Park Marketing Fund, producer of Road Trip, and her dedicated troop have an incredible weekend planned for this year’s Road Trip, beginning Friday, July 18. Here’s the first and exclusive scoop – so you actually have time to plan accordingly.
Friday:
The kick-off party is always my favorite event. It’s a must-do. I have heard the words “legendary,” “outrageously impressive” and “best by far” used to describe the party, produced by David Norris and Brad Hurtado. Many more effusive adjectives would be appropriate to describe this party.
This year, you and a predicted two thousand of your neighbors and their road tripping friends will play in the renovated Grande Arcade, including the newly opened north, east and south balconies. Step back and revel in our one-of-a-kind City spirit.
“The theme for the evening is ‘Life is a Party’,” stated Michael Stary, interior designer and event volunteer. “Asbury Park is the jewel of the shore. Fittingly, we will have gem-toned beach balls and beach umbrellas decorating the Arcade.”
Recover quickly from the stunning 9.30 underwear show because at 10.45 pm, a spectacular – and I mean spectacular – twenty-minute fireworks display begins.
“The energy you feel on Friday is so special,” stated Jill. “Special City, special people. I just love this City.”
Is that a firecracker in your pocket or are you just glad to be at Road Trip 7?
Saturday:
Along with all-day frolicking in the sand on one of the top ranked beaches in New Jersey and fun events downtown, Brad Hurtado is producing the first-ever gay dance party on the Asbury Park beach – Sand Blast. We are talking a custom built 50 by 70 foot orange and yellow dance floor on the beach; nonstop music by DJ Eddie Baez and more.
Extra details about Sand Blast, the “dance party of the summer,” next Thursday.
If working your body sunning and dancing on the beach is not your thing, then work your brain by taking the Asbury Park Gay History & Trolley Tour. The dynamic Mark McDonald will host the four, forty minute tours and discuss our city’s history and rich architecture.
I missed out on the sell-out tour last year and can’t wait to be regaled with the juicy history of our beach wonderland this year. FYI, this is a realtor and developer sponsored event. There will be cocktails.
And there’s more – a downtown showcase. Businesses are planning an all day and night event with a “First Night feel – performers, art, fashion, food and more,” Jill stated. “The downtown is an important part of Road Trip excitement.”
Saturday night is free for you to introduce your guests to our City’s great backyard parties and our many super restaurants and lounges. All of them – from Munch to Taka to Mattison Park to McCloone’s, have great Road Trip menus planned.
Sunday:
Organizers have leveraged a ton of the most creative and talented people in town to create a Fifth Avenue beach day for your “mind, body and inner child.”
A ton of fun and different activities are planned beginning at 8.30 am and going on all day. Jump in anytime. From Yoga and meditation with uber-talented Arthur Fama to flag football to volleyball. It sounds like a great, ways to enjoy our beach.
This definitely is lucky seven. We are so fortunate to be part of Road Trip 7.
Road Trip 7 Official Schedule:
Friday: Road Trip Oceanside Kick-Off Party, 7 pm to 11 pm, Grande Arcade at Convention Hall.
Saturday: Sand Blast, Noon to 6 pm, Fifth Avenue Beach. Discounted tickets at SandBlastonline.com.
Asbury Park Gay History & Trolley Tour, 3 pm to 7 pm. Begins at Convention Hall and Fifth Avenue. Reserve a seat at the sign-up table on Friday night or Saturday morning. Arrive at least 15 minutes before your tour begins.
Downtown Showcase, all day and night, all over downtown, stores and restaurants.
Sunday: Beach Day, all day play, Fifth Avenue Beach. Check out specific event times at the web site: RoadTripAsburyPark.com.
Suzanne Westenhoefer – the very first openly gay comic, in the early 1990’s – rules the stage of the Stone Pony next Thursday (July 16) kicking off the best weekend of the summer, Road Trip 8.
Yes, Thursday. Thanks to Jill Potter’s AwwMama Productions and a new regime in place for the Asbury Park Marketing Fund (the producer of Road Trip) – headed by Wanamassa resident Joe Zarro – Road Trip weekend has expanded for the first time to begin Thursday night.
“We were able to expand the weekend this year because of Jill’s efforts,” said Joe Zarro, co-chair, APMF. “And are so grateful the Marketing Fund can get back to our roots of promoting Asbury Park.”
Suzanne is a fearless, quick-witted party pleaser for everyone. I had so much fun speaking with her in anticipation of her show.
TBP: Your barrier-breaking career also includes being the first openly gay comic on The David Letterman Show. Asbury Park just named its first openly gay mayor. Any advice from one trailblazer to another?
Suzanne: Do what you feel is right. Be strong and don’t let your personal fetishes interfere with your job. Private lives should remain private.
TBP: Are lesbians or gay guys easier to make fun of?
Suzanne: Straight people.
TBP: Will you be doing Michael Jackson jokes?
Suzanne: Can you bury that much plastic without a permit?
Seriously, I think Michael’s father, Joe Jackson, is painfully funny. At the BET Awards, two days after Michael died, Joe stood on stage and told the audience his family was doing okay and in his next breath said, “I want to take a minute to introduce you to my record label.” Watch it on YouTube and your jaw will drop like a PEZ dispenser.
Funny is not always funny and Michael Jackson jokes are just not my thing.
I do think that Michael was one of the most brilliant talents and he was just going to get weirder. Now, we can remember all the amazing dancing and music and forget the baby dangling and nose crumbling.
TBP: Do you and your wife, Jennifer, have celebrity “deal breakers” in your relationship?
Suzanne: Jennifer has a laminated list of at least five celebrities she has to be allowed to sleep with. She needs to get a board that says something like “today it’s Jennifer Aniston.”
My list has been the same for years. I like power lezzies or straight women who are powerful and wear suits – Glenn Close, Martina Navratilova, Martha Stewart, Candice Bergen. Hillary Clinton is totally hot to me, too.
TBP: So what could Hillary expect on a date?
Suzanne: I say things like “You don’t realize it yet but we need to be together.” I know in the first 18 seconds. There is no taking it slow with me. I am always married – no dating. Once I pick you, you are mine until you tell me “no” and then I weep and wail.
I can’t wait to do this Road Trip show. There is nothing better than a loud Jersey crowd. Tell all the girls and boys I can’t wait to see them.
TBP: If you could have one gay man stereotype what would it be?
Suzanne: Gay men always look better. How is it that you can take a pair of jeans and a t-shirt and always look unbelievably great and I just look like a dyke with make-up and jeans and a t-shirt on trying to be put together?
TBP: What will I learn if you show me your Tweets on Twitter?
Suzanne: My real personality. My activism and my shallowness. One minute I am like, “Fight for change.” The next I am all “I want a burger.” It’s me – “Fight for people” then “OMG I need a damn Peppermint Patty.”
I want to rant about expensive dark chocolate. It’s shit. It smells horrible and no one will eat it. I am a Hershey’s gal. Eighty-five percent Cocoa? F**k that. I want a peanut butter cup. Bring back milk chocolate.
TBP: Bruce or Bon Jovi?
Suzanne: Neither. I was not cool growing up. I was a Top 40 girl…Barry Manilow and Elton John.
TBP: How devastated are you about the “John and Kate Plus 8” marriage crumble?
Suzanne: Naturally, I am as f**king shocked as everyone else is. How two people can have eight babies and not be a happy Mormon is a goddamn shock to me.
My girlfriend and I, Jennifer, watched a marathon of the show a few weeks ago. When the camera pans to John as Kate talks about telling John she is having sextuplets, his expression is f**king priceless. That’s the moment it all went wrong and he should have walked out then.
TBP: Who is better matched Rosie O’Donnell and Kelly or Ellen DeGeneres and Portia?
Suzanne: Rosie and Kelly. They are well matched and comfortable – there’s no two people trying to be the stars, which is very difficult.
TBP: Living in New Jersey for 10 years do the “Housewives of New Jersey” bring you fond memories?
Suzanne: I bartended at the Houlihan’s in Secaucus. I knew a lot of gay Italians and there is not one on that show. How can you do a show like that in New Jersey and have nobody that’s gay? Caroline is my favorite on the show, though.
TBP: If you could have only one – wealth, clout, unbelievable beauty or live to be 125 years old, which would you choose?
Covering the circus that was the Liza Minnelli – David Gest wedding in 2002 for Howard Stern, I watched a number of celebrities pass through the side “VIP Entrance” of the stunning Marble Collegiate Church.
Ashford and Simpson drove up in a Rolls Royce and realized there was not as much press at the side entrance, myself and about forty other reporters were at, as there was in the front and got back in their car and drove around the block to the front.
Carol Channing – the most fabulously, wonderfully real celebrity at that wedding - arrived in a taxi (the only attendee I saw to do so), ran across the street in the highest high heels to shake fans’ hands and then spoke so patiently with every reporter. She looked amazing and was so spunky and fun. I never loved her more.
Then, there was a pause two minutes before we were told the wedding was scheduled to begin.
The police scurried to close the entire street to cars and passers by, just stumbling their way from one St. Patrick’s Day festivity to the next, that March 16.
All that was heard was just a quiet hum for a minute or so.
“What’s going on?” Many murmured.
Something was happening. Guards started scrambling. Two police officers looked at the press cluster and said with the fiercest look in their eyes “do not leave this area.”
To the paparazzi and camera men that translated to “stand at attention with your elbows strategically placed.”
Did Liza come to her senses? Did she toss the 3.5 carat Tiffany diamond she flashed at us earlier in the day? Was this joke of a wedding – this spectacle – coming to a halt faster than Rosie O’Donnell’s Chevy Suburban in front of the “Entertainment Tonight” tent set up outside?
Finally, a big, honking, black, shiny Cadillac limousine drove up to our entrance. It stood there for a minute or four without a door opening.
The stringy tired-looking non-Liza fan New York Post reporter standing next to me was getting increasingly annoyed it was taking so long – she wanted to meet her boyfriend at a bar uptown.
We waited. Was someone coming in or was someone running out?
Finally, a security guard got the nod to open the passenger side back door.
Immediately, the fans across the street had a better view than the press people did. They began cheering as Liz Taylor exited the stretch.
She flashed her celebrity smile and waved standing about four feet away from the car – which was odd. Why was she not walking the press line?
What was also odd was that she had on silk slippers. We just thought they were “lady of a certain age” comfortable.
The door to the limo didn’t close.
After Liz had her moment a huge, deafening, throbbing screech overtook the cavernous New York street we were standing on, rattling our bones.
There he was. Mr. Michael Jackson, live – in person stepping out of the limousine. Fans of all shapes, sizes and backgrounds pretty much lost their minds.
No matter what anyone thought about his personal life, this man epitomized the phrase “living icon.”
It was apparent he was not in his right mind. My notes at the time say “his soul had a fog about it. dynamic. huge presence and energy”
He did a huge royal wave to his beyond blown away fans across the street and grabbed Liz’s hand. Despite whatever he was feeling he knew he was making a moment of a lifetime for the fans.
He stood their patiently, shifting every few seconds so everyone got a good photo. There was no doubt he had done this before.
What struck me was his hair. It was so shiny and looked so soft. I wanted to touch it. It was as dark, shiny and flowy as a yard of silk. He wore a white collared shirt, black jacket accessorized with a blinding diamond broach and black tuxedo pants.
His hair primarily covered his pale, almost gaunt face. He rarely lifted his head up completely. He towered above Liz in height.
Oh, and then Diana Ross got out of the limo with whom I later learned was her son, Evan. Her huge, huge, huge unmanageable hair with a personality of its own flying all over.
What was most surprising there was that she let Michael upstage her by getting out of the limo last.
The three icons stood for photos, however didn’t answer one question.
Finally they shuffled, literally, the twelve feet to the door of the church and my Michael Moment – the media money shot of the day – became “HiStory”.
Cheers to fireworks and a fun look at city surfing style this holiday weekend, with the help of long-time wave rider Chris D’Antuono of Long Branch.
“The trend in boardshorts this summer is ultra-lightweight and quad-stretch fabrics in vibrant patterns,” said Vince Troniec, surf department manager at Spellbinders and surf instructor. “It’s a pleasure to wear and nice in the water even if you are not an avid surfer. Oakley’s got great suits and quality.”
Chris wears Oakley’s Micronauts, Tilt and Interlock boardshorts, respectively.
Oakley boardshorts, shirts, sweatshirts and footwear available at Spellbinders and Oakley.com. Create your own sunglasses at Oakley.com. Beach accessories available at Cabana, Swell, Lightly Salted and Style Rocket on the Boardwalk.
Briefly: Five years ago, the Fourth of July fireworks and all the amazing positive and exciting energy surrounding the weekend was the deciding factor for me to move here. It’s been an honor to see the city – including the fireworks – grow even more spectacular each year.
A very special memory for me in 2006 was watching the fireworks from the Berkley’s roof, thanks to my dear friends Ann and Somer Stephenson. After a great party in Ann’s room (she is one of the best party throwers hands down), a few friends and I snuck up the utility staircase to the roof.
I can not even tell you how spectacular the view was both of the fireworks, the stars in the sky and the crowd below. We stood there in silence – no sounds but the ka-booms and crackles of the show. We could see south for miles and the sea breeze was perfection.
Surrounded only by people we cared about. All of us on the roof knew we were having a exceptional, spontaneous Asbury Park moment never to be duplicated. It’s one of my favorite private Asbury Park memories and I will be always grateful to Ann for that moment. I still see the fireworks when I close my eyes and am so thankful.
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DOGS INVITED TO JOIN ASBURY PARK’S JULY FOURTH PARADE
Dogs and their owners have been invited for the second year to participate in Asbury Park’s Fourth of July Parade.
“Last year we had about 15 dogs of all sizes that walked the entire route and a few more that joined in along the way,” said Amy Quinn, owner of dogs Baily and Lance with her partner Heather Jensen. “It was such a hit that parade organizers decided to do it again this year.”
Leashed dogs and their owners should meet at the corner of Sewall and Grand Avenues between 12.15 pm and 12.30 pm on Saturday. The parade will travel west on Cookman Avenue to Main Street. Then walk Main Street north turning east on Fifth Avenue, ending at Kingsley Avenue.
“It’s a slow stroll and a really fun way to see your neighbors and enjoy the parade,” said Amy. “The weather should be great so don’t forget to bring some water for your dog.”
Brian Watkins, Asbury Park resident and dedicated founder of Rescue Ridge animal shelter – a “last chance” shelter for dogs will be on-hand during the festivities with a few wonderful, loving dogs in need of a great home like yours. Rescue Ridge and its unwaivering team of animal lovers is an amazing organization. More to come about the shelter in future columns.
“How great would it be if someone adopted a dog on the Fourth of July,” said Amy.
READY TO SPARKLE FOR ROAD TRIP?
As the city and its homes prepare for Road Trip 8, I wanted to make a shout-out to one of Asbury Park’s best kept secrets – Sparkle Window Cleaner.
You think you clean your windows well, but you don’t. Leave it to a pro once and you’ll never waste your time again. The difference is clear – ha.
Owned and operated by Asbury Park-er Ed Feger Sparkle does the best, most detailed job (inside and out, up and down) around – at the best price. Ed is offering special pricing for Road Trip. Sparkle up. 609.672.1304.
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A vacation or your mouth is within reach with the new hand-crafted chocolate and caramel extravagances made fresh in Asbury Park by Jack Petronella, owner, Manhattan Jack Confections.
“I wanted to make something special and totally original, just like this city,” said Jack, a five-year Asbury Park resident and graduate of the fancy-pants Culinary Institute of America in Hyde Park. “After working for a bit at a country club, I travelled to observe some of the best chocolatiers in Italy, France and Mexico. Creating chocolate is a science – I came home and experimented in my kitchen laboratory for two years until I created Chocolate Sushi and Caramel Sushi.”
The treats do look like sushi – a one inch diameter piece of the finest quality chocolate or caramel, rolled in select ingredients to resemble the Japanese staple.
“I use only the absolutely the finest ingredients,” said Jack, who sells more than 100 pounds of his desserts each week which take approximately three days to make, using exacting standards, from start to finish. “Pecans from Louisiana, chocolate from Oregon, peanuts from West Virginia, Macadamia nuts from Hawaii – quality is what counts.”
From the richness of the chocolate to the precisely-sized chopped nuts to the perfectly sweet and succulent caramel, you can sense Jack’s passion.
Each bite is worth the extra time on the treadmill.
“True flavors make the best chocolate and caramels,” said Jack. “Caramel should melt in your mouth in three bites – you should taste Bourbon, vanilla, brown sugar and butter. Fine caramel should never stick to your teeth.”
One of the other most popular items in Jack’s repertoire is his chocolate covered pretzels. I understand the top seller is the White chocolate pistachio drizzled with toffee.
“These are fantastic,” said Donna Arroyo visiting from northern New Jersey, enjoying a pretzel on the boardwalk she just purchased from the Baker Boys shop in the Grand Arcade. “You can taste that these are good and different.”
Jack’s confections are so popular the QVC network has an open invitation for Jack to come on the network to sell his pretzels. QVC expects to sell 30,000 pretzels and hour and, right now, Jack does not have the workspace to guarantee quality control for that type of volume. More to come with that.
Manhattan Jack Confections are available in our area at The Baker Boys, Belmonte’s, Watermark, Il Pavone, Langosta Lounge and Windmill (Ocean Grove, pretzels only).
Manhattan Jack Confections, 732.768.6561.
Briefly: Three fireworks displays in seven days here this year – Wednesday (7/1 and 7/8) Madison Marquette is sponsoring fireworks – as they are all summer long. Saturday, the Fourth of July, the City is sponsoring the show.
“There will be two groupings of fireworks a few hundred feet away from each other on the beach set off simultaneously,” revealed Garret Giberson, regarding the City’s show. “It’s going to be incredible.”
All fireworks begin at 9 pm.
And – on the completely opposite side of chocolate and caramel – imagine being a dentist with decades of experience walking in to see a patient crying because he is about to get his first crown – and I am not talking about a headdress from a beauty pageant. The patient was me recently and I must give cheers to Dr. Sebastian D’Amico of Sunset Dental on Sunset Avenue and his team cheers for their experience, patience, dedication, follow-up and overall ability to make a new situation comfortable for a fearful guy. Major kudos from this difficult patient.
On the Fifth Avenue boardwalk, it was overcast the Sunday morning of May 17. Inside the Supper Club, it was brilliant and vibrant with emotion as Asbury Park residents John Grant and Danny Weiss exchanged vows of commitment, devotion and affection in front of 110 family and friends.
“The love from both our families was wonderful, incredible and genuine,” said Danny. “The guests were blown away by so many things, including the location, our families uniting and the ceremony itself.”
The Honorable Teresa Kondrup Coyle, a New Jersey State Judge, officiated the ceremony which morphed both Irish-Catholic and modern Jewish traditions seamlessly – everything outlined in a program with a dreamy cover photograph taken by John of a brilliant deep yellow, orange and gold sun rising over crashing grey-blue waves on the Fifth Avenue Beach.
“We entered to ‘Shir HaShirim’ (Song of Songs) and ‘An Irish Blessing’ was sung later in the ceremony,” said John. “It was important for us to incorporate both traditional Jewish music and an Irish blessing.”
Asbury Park’s Brett Colby sang both dynamic songs.
“All four of our parents participated in the modern version of the seven Jewish blessings,” said Danny, born in Neptune. “There was not a dry eye in the house.”
The theme for the wedding was “beach chic.” It looked like the wedding everyone wished they could go to – joyful and in a genuine environment.
“It was very important to us to have a socially-conscious, substantive celebration,” said John. “We respectfully requested no gifts. There were no flowers or a band.”
The underlying and unspoken theme of this fete is the fact that these two gentlemen are in love with our city, their family and friends and, naturally, each other. When you see something like that, it’s makes you smile.
Danny wore a blue-grey seersucker suit with orange scarf. John dressed in a putty colored jacket, grey pants and flip flops.
A lunch reception immediately followed the ceremony at the Supper Club, which included a chocolate-hazelnut cake driven from Houston to Asbury Park by a cherished friend of Danny’s family.
John, comptroller for the Michael J. Fox Foundation for Parkinson’s Research and Danny, a local immigration attorney appointed May 27 to the Board of Education, met October 2007 online while they were both living in New York City and spoke “for hours” via phone prior to a face-to-face meeting.
Their first date consisted of more conversation over the finest wine.
“I knew John was the one I was going to marry the minute I met him,” said Danny. “I have a very good read of people and I could tell right away he was genuinely kind, ethical and easygoing. I have been waiting my entire life for him.”
Danny knew first, however John was the one who proposed November 2008, in one of the most heartfelt and original manners I have heard.
“I made him a card of a collection of photos of events and times in our life together that were important to us,” said John. “I put the card in his bed and the card contained my proposal. I want to grow old with him.”
I just love, love. All the best wishes to them both.
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Whether you are a dad to a child, adult or puppy (like me), cheers to every dad everywhere.
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Whenever Michael Jackson’s sister, LaToya, would make an appearance on Howard Stern’s show, her husband at the time Jack Gordon, insisted her green room be “soft and comfortable for the morning” and filled with fragrant flowers and comfortable pillows.
Arriving at 6 am in full makeup when the interview was just for radio, she was a very sweet, almost fragile woman who I found to be totally caught up with a horrible man – now deceased – who thrived on creating conflict with LaToya and her family to isolate her and cash in on her family name.
LaToya would have loved the new and original line of Pattern on Pattern pillows from Shelter Home on Cookman Avenue.
“The first step in silk-screen printing of fabric yardage is to ‘open up’ the screen, making the first impression on a blank piece of fabric,” said Gene Mignola, co-owner of Shelter Home. “Eventually the fabric outlives its usefulness but in the process becomes a one-of-a-kind piece of art: Pattern on Pattern.”
Gene selects dynamic patterns on wonderful fabrics – made of cotton and linen – washes them and creates some of the most beautiful and original home accessories available.
“We have re-imagined these unique textile pieces as pillows which are sewn with love right here in New Jersey,” said Gene, who began creating the pillows a few months ago.
Gene – in addition to serving as co-owner of Shelter Home, has been a textile artisan for more than 35 years for theatre television and film. His clients include Walt Disney Theatrical, Calvin Klein and Donna Karen and work which can be seen in the Tony award-winning productions “The Lion King,” “Little Mermaid,” “Billy Elliot” and “Wicked”.
“I like the playfulness in the design of these pillows,” said Scott Hamm, co-owner and Gene’s partner. “With a few pillows you can change the mood in a room very inexpensively.”
The pillows, exclusive to Shelter Home, are completely “green” – made of 100% recycled products (the stuffing is recycled soda bottles) – feature a minimum of four different “patterns on patterns” and come in three sizes in a variety of luscious color themes such as blue and grey and rust and natural and dark red and deep green.
“Everything in Shelter Home, including the pillows just has an amazing style and energy,” stated Lois White of Ocean Grove. “It’s wonderful that many items are recycled and fair trade. The store gives flare with a heart and soul – substance and style.”
Beyond pillows the store feature original home accessories – from lamps to plates to glassware to rugs to handbags. Each item is unique and has a great modern style. This is one of a handful of stores that I would pretty much purchase the entire inventory, if I could.
“It’s awesome in here,” said a very young and adorable Brielle White, also of Ocean Grove.
Next Friday (June 19), in conjunction with ArtsCAP’s June Collide-a-Scope program, Gene will be giving a live demonstration of his work on digital printers at Shelter Home, beginning at 7 pm.
Briefly: As we become beach bound this summer, consider that America’s demand for bottled water requires more than 1.5 million barrels of oil annually – enough fuel for 100,000 cars for one year. Using a PUR water filtration system (named Consumer’s Choice Household Product of the Year) with a reusable thermos such as SIGG can replace 2,000 plastic bottles and save you more than $600 annually. PUR just introduced a flavor option pitcher so you dont even need to squeeze your own lemons. Purwater.com has more info.
The final in the Coaster’s exclusive three-part interview (Click here: Part 1, Part 2) with Bouvier Beale – grandson of Big Edie and Nephew of Little Edie of “Grey Gardens” – reveals how gay icon Little Edie remained inspired, prideful and dignified through various obstacles.
TBP: What should we all learn from your Aunt, Little Edie, and the little things she appreciated and enjoyed in life?
Bouvier: Edie loved the ocean…and swimming – a reason she would have loved Asbury Park, had she visited. She was full of passion and loved to dream. She was also crazy about writing. In her journal, she wrote her name and title as “celebrated poet, author and artist.”
She constantly wrote letters to friends and Presidents like Bill Clinton…she even wrote to Prince Charles. She approved of them both. Her letters were always amusing – one never knew what topic to expect.
TBP: Cellphones, iPods, environmental pollution – what would she think of the world today?
Bouvier: Edie would not use a cell phone. She rarely answered her phone and changed her phone number often since too many people were trying to contact her – she was very private. Whenever we spoke on the telephone, however, she was charming and always had something current and interesting to talk about.
She read “The New York Times” daily and kept up with what was going on in the world. She would be horrified at ocean pollution and global warming. Edie was always concerned about environmental issues.
TBP: Did she find happiness during the later years of her life?
Bouvier: She seemed to be a happy person. She may not have had all her dreams come true but she handled her life as best as she could. Sometimes I felt that Edie was living “out of this world” because she never held any real job – her first job was at Reno Sweeney singing. She lived a very privileged life and was not really prepared to live in today’s fast paced world.
TBP: Finally, Little Edie radiated a wonderful kindness and had a beautiful sense of elegance and strength – quite appropriate for this weekend here in Asbury Park.
Bouvier: Edie was an artist. She loved New York City because of all the artists and creative types living there. She would have loved Asbury Park and its diverse community. Edie had a very open mind and she always encouraged people to believe in themselves – as she did with her dancing and singing. Sometimes not everyone is going to like what one creates however Edie inspired many to do what they loved doing most, regardless of what others thought.
Both Edies were strong and their integrity and dignity was very important. They were survivors.
Perhaps that is the inspiration for today – as we face challenges, be strong and be who you are, for that is what counts in the end. Edie inspires us to be who we are and to be proud of it – all the time.
Revealing parts of the interview that did not make it into the newspaper…
TBP: Your relative, John Davis, says he witnessed Little Edie climbing a tree and then burning her hair off, after a failed romance. What is the real story about Little Edie’s hair?
Bouvier: We never heard the story about Edie’s hair burning. We understood her to have Alopecia.
TBP: How much did Jackie Kennedy Onassis really pay to save her family from eviction from Grey Gardens. I have heard a spectrum of amounts. And did she pay Little Edie’s living expenses until she died, as rumored?
Bouvier: Jackie paid $25,000 to restore the home “to code.” We never heard that she helped Little Edie with her bills. There is no evidence of that.
TBP: What do you think your Grandmother and Little Edie would make of the ultra-iconic fame status they have achieved?
Bouvier: I think they would have loved the Broadway musical and HBO Film. Fame was not a priority but they would have appreciated the tributes.
TBP: What is the most common question you are asked about “Grey Gardens” and Little Edie?
Bouvier: There are so many questions. Mostly, we are asked “What Little Edie was like?” and “Why did this all happen?” The fans often think that no one cared for Edie and her mother but that is far from the truth. Everyone in the family tried to help them but at one point they decided that they would not leave Grey Gardens under any circumstances.
This is one of the reasons my wife, Eva, published the book “Edith Bouvier Beale of Grey Gardens: A Life in Pictures” to dispel the rumors.
TBP: What’s next?
Bouvier: We have no specifics yet however the next phase will include a book of Little Edie’s diaries and journals. More to come at GreyGardensCollections.com. Little Edie was an avid scrapbook keeper. During her lifetime she filled dozens of bound books with poetry, photos, party invitations, drawings and private musings the next book will offer a peek into that part of Edie’s life.
There are still 100 copies left of the limited edition coffee table book of private photos available online.
TBP: Tell us about the Grey Gardens Collection?
Bouvier: The website has started small but with amazing items – all inspired by the lifestyle at Grey Gardens during the glory days. The logo for the collection is actually Edie’s handwriting. The jewelry featured is cast from the originals Big Edie and Little Edie wore at Grey Gardens.
So Major Summer 2009 kick-off continues with Part Two (click here for Part One) of my exclusive interview with Bouvier Beale Jr., first grandson of iconic Grey Gardens’ Big Edie and nephew of Little Edie – two women who loved the beach and sea as much as any dedicated Asbury Park-er.
This week exclusive only found here, Bouvier discusses the “real” Little Edie and her life post-documentary release in 1976 and her mom’s death the following year.
TBP: There has been so much fiction written and said about your family. What’s true that we do not know about Little Edie?
Bouvier: Mostly, people don’t realize how talented and smart she was. Her poetry, writings and drawings are amazing and her photographs of herself and the family are so important in showing everyone what she was like in her younger days while things were still divine at Grey Gardens. Little Edie is a fashion icon and that was because of her style and creativity when it came to picking that “costume of the day.”
My wife’s limited edition book “Edith Bouvier Beale of Grey Gardens, A Life in Pictures” (GreyGardensCollections.com) features many of Edie’s self-portraits and private family photos. There are less than 100 copies of the book available now.
TBP: What is misunderstood about Little Edie?
Bouvier: Many feel that Edie was forced to go and take care of her mother and sacrificed her own life. This is not truly the story, as she had no means of supporting herself. Big Edie was always very generous with Little Edie and paid all her bills while she lived in New York City. When the money was gone, Big Edie insisted that Little Edie come home out of necessity. Little Edie had no choice.
TBP: I hear the love you and your wife, Eva, have for Little Edie. In 1980, she came to your wedding in Montauk.
Bouvier: She was always at family weddings and funerals. I was recently watching movies of my wedding and loved seeing Edie having a great time and dancing with my father. She was always, always the life of the party.
She gave us two wedding gifts. The first was incredibly special – she sang a special song for us at the wedding, “Toujours L’Amour” (I’ll Fly With You). She also gave us a piece of family silver with a “B” engraved on it. We still enjoy the memory of the song and the gift of silver.
(Courtesy Beale Estate)
TBP: What was the latter part of Little Edie’s life like?
Bouvier: Few know all the places she lived after Grey Gardens – New York, Montreal and Florida and for a short period of time in California. Edie’s mother told her not to go to California because of the earthquakes, but she came in the late 1990’s and loved it. She did not experience an earth quake however she always wanted to go back to Florida. I took her back to Florida in 1997 to find an apartment. She continued to be amazing. Aunt Edie knew exactly where she wanted to be – right near the beach. I visited her in Bal Harbor frequently and took her out to “luncheon” as she called it. She was always thrilled.
TBP: By the way, how did Grey Gardens get its name? I have heard so many different stories.
Bouvier: The home was always a seaside garden and its name came from the subdued colors in the originally lush, muted-tone garden. Part of the garden – to the home’s left – was surrounded by a small brick wall to ensure seawater never got to it.
Next week, Little Edie’s connection to President Bill Clinton.
(Courtesy Beale Estate)
For more exclusive insight about two of our favorite ladies visit GreyGardensOnline.com. The site features tons of revealing interviews with other Grey Gardens “players” such as the grocery delivery teen seen in the documentary, Robert Beyer and David Lewis, who briefly served as Little Edie’s accompanist at Reno Sweeney. These are interviews not found anywhere else. The site also features amazingly detailed facts about Grey Gardens and brilliant quotes from Little Edie, such as:
“Jackie was twelve years younger than I, and although I was never jealous of her, I never liked her. You know what Jackie wanted? She wanted the house. Yes darling, that’s the truth, and she did everything she could to get it. Then Jackie sent her sister Lee, who I’ve always been absolutely terrified of- I think she’s a big criminal. Lee and her boyfriend came around and started to tear the house down with axes. Don’t go near any of these people for God’s sake, they’re all insane!”
and
“Of course the house isn’t perfectly normal. The house has to be done over. You know how hard it is to get plumbers in the autumn.”
This column is dedicated to the memory of Scott Schechter.
The premier of summer is a great opportunity to talk about my favorite documentary, “Grey Gardens” – first released in 1976 exposing the lives of aunt and first cousin of Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis, “Big Edie” and “Little Edie” respectively who lived in squalor and isolation for decades in the oceanside, formerly golden, 28-room mansion “Grey Gardens” in East Hampton.
It’s an iconic must see for your gay card and is beyond fascinating to any and everyone else.
An overlooked character in the documentary – which served as the basis for the 2006 Broadway musical and last month’s fantastic HBO Film – is the Atlantic Ocean. The ocean and beach play a strong and meaningful part in both ladies’ lives.
As we celebrate the sea, beach, summer and friends this Memorial Day Weekend, first grandson of Big Edie and cherished nephew of Little Edie, Mr. Bouvier Beale Jr., spoke with me in an exclusive and revealing interview. The Coaster and TheBPlot.com are the only outlets in the country in which you can read Bouvier’s comments about his family, right now.
Bouvier: Thank you. Talking with Jessica (Lange) and Drew (Barrymore) about my family’s life was wonderful.
TBP: Do you think the documentary and film captured the essence of your relatives well?
Bouvier: The documentary, of course, captures the personality of my grandmother but I feel it is one-sided and edited to create a certain image. HBO’s film is wonderful and captures my grandmother perfectly – presenting some of the story from the important years prior to the documentary. I hope now fans are seeing a different perspective of the “Edie’s”.
TBP: The coffee table book is just fantastic and I loved the HBO film. One of the questions the film created was regarding Big Edie’s friend and pianist George “Gould” Strong. Set the record straight, was he gay?
Bouvier: People assume he was gay. He was definitely Big Edie’s soul mate. Music and the desire for companionship drew them together. She felt her husband was always absent…working.
At one point, Little Edie’s diary actually expresses a bit of competition between her and Gould, for her mother’s attention. Later, when Gould was sick, Little Edie writes that she sent Gould a note and he replied back thanking her.
TBP: The film ends in 1977 with Little Edie performing in the New York City nightclub Reno Sweeney. What was the backstory there?
Bouvier: I have seen the contract that she had for that club. After modeling as a teen and young adult, it was one of her very first jobs (at 60 years of age) and she decided not to continue it quickly. My father and Jackie (Kennedy Onassis) did not really approve of those performances so everyone was pleased Edie’s show was short-lived. (End)
The amazing picture book is sold at GreyGardensCollections.com, along with a number of other beautiful products inspired by Little Edie and Grey Gardens, including reproductions of their famous jewelry, cast from the originals.
GREYGARDENSCOLLECTIONS.COM
Next week, Bouvier discusses Little Edie’s life after Grey Gardens and how the home got its moniker. In two weeks, secrets revealed about Little Edie and Bill Clinton and what she thought about Asbury Park.
I could only describe it as adorable when I learned the other day that the hot Russian model, with six-pack abs and just right everything else I was watching on MTV Spring Break was talking about something that could be “supersized” when he was describing his favorite American meal indulgence.
“They say it is a…umm…McRib…sandwich,” delicious model said, smiling and laughing. “I eat at McDonalds all the time. McRib has no bones.”
Hot Model Guy must have just gone on an audition for a McDonald’s commercial – his fierce beach body gave no hint of a regular diet of Mc-dining.
What’s your favorite food secret extravagance? I spoke with a few local culinary talents about what they crave when their own fare is not on the menu.
Michael Rathsmith and Bobby Johnson (25-year residents of Asbury Park) of Clementine’s in Avon:
“We will go to the Olive Garden, sit at the bar and eat breadsticks. I order the gorgonzola pasta with short ribs on top and take half home for lunch the next day. Bobby gets the stuffed chicken marsala. One other place we love is Five Guys Burgers and Fries on Route 66. We get burgers with jalapeño peppers, mayo, mustard and ketchup and regular fries. It’s so good.”
Michael also shared that he set up the restaurant’s outdoor tables last weekend featuring new Clementine-colored sun umbrellas.
“I love Thai food, especially Pad Thai. I am actually having that tonight at Teak in Red Bank. I also love spare ribs from anywhere but my ultimate comfort food is a fresh baked ham.”
Beginning May 15, Munch will be open for dinner on ArtsCAP’s Collide-A-Scope Fridays. May 15 is the first day of the Tri-City Arts Tour, too.
Jeffrey Haveson from Restaurant Plan B:
“Ice cream anywhere anytime. Does not matter what kind – Breyer’s, Dairy Queen – I just love ice cream. I’ll have a Klondike bar for lunch sometimes.”
“My favorite place to go is Vic’s in Bradley Beach – I worked their as a waitress when I was younger – and my favorite thing to order, with my husband Scott, is a white pie with broccoli, garlic and ricotta. Their garlic bread is the best and I always get the chopped antipasto salad with herb dressing.”
I’ll take all of the above, including the model.
Briefly: The Center’s 16th Annual Center a la Carte happens next Friday (May 8). It is summer’s unofficial coming out. Call for tickets.
Cheers to this year’s participating restaurants: Asbury Park Roastery, Belmonte’s, Bistro Ole, Branches Catering, Carmines, Culinary Education Center of Monmouth County, Ducky Life Tea, The Harrison, Il Pavone Gelateria, Jesse’s Café, Kessler’s Catering, Laila’s, Langosta Lounge, Lusty Lobster, The Mix Lounge and Food Bar, Moonstruck, Mumford’s Culinary Center, Munch, Perfect Perk, Plan B, Silk Catering, Starbucks, Synaxis at the Shore, Taka, Tasty Pantry by Elaine, Windmill.
Finally, this is the last weekend to attend ReVision Theatre’s “Kingdom”. Please go. My mom loved it. I loved it. You will love the songs, story and dynamic cast.
Asbury Park saw its best weather of the year, so far, last weekend – eighty-five degrees and sunny with a beautiful breeze. Spring fever was all over. I love the first days of guys in shorts after a long winter.
Saturday and Sunday were perfect days to take a walk on the boardwalk with your family – however “family” is defined for you.
I hope, however, you did not bring your dog to the boardwalk, as I saw a few misguided out-of-towners with money to spend, do.
On Sunday, as I was petting the dogs, an ever-so-gentlemanly police officer kindly explained to the couple that “no dogs are allowed on the boardwalk, ever.”
The surprised couple – again, wanting shop, eat, enjoy our boardwalk and regale their friends with great boardwalk stories about Asbury Park, got in their cars and left.
The issue of allowing pets on the boardwalk has gotten a lot of attention lately – it’s one of the hottest topics on the “Yahoo! List”, initiated a community meeting at Asbury Bark (see previous article at TheCoaster.net) and, as a result of the meeting, the city council has organized to develop a solution to the “dogs on the boardwalk” issue.
“Can you imagine Hudson River Park or the Santa Monica beach if everyone had to walk their bike or leave their dog at home?” said resident Dan Guevara. “We want to enjoy what we rightfully deserve and pay for with our taxes.”
I, and many others, agree with Dan. It seems that politicos in town are listening regarding this simple quality of life issue.
“We can come to a compromise for dog access to the boardwalk during peek hours, during peek season,” said Councilman Ed Johnson, owner of two cats and, to his credit, who I saw as the first outspoken politico on the subject. “I don’t see any reason why we can’t work together – dog owners, dog lovers, people who don’t have a preference to enable everyone to enjoy all the city has to offer.”
Since the meeting at Asbury Bark, many scenarios and suggestions have been proposed.
“I am in support of a pilot program of allowing dogs on the boardwalk possibly making it a revenue generator for the City by selling doggie badges,” said Councilwoman and owner of two dogs Sue Henderson.
The badge concept sounds like a lot of bureaucracy to me, however anything is better than what we have now.
“Even with leashed dogs there has got to be some kind of enforcement as far as controlling your animal and waste. I am not the only council member who has gotten calls to please not allow dogs on the boardwalk,” said Councilman John Loffredo who is also leaning towards some sort of compromise.
Last week, City Manager, Terry Reidy reached out to council and community members, including resident Scott Schechter, to participate in a committee – whose first meeting was on Tuesday evening – headed by Councilwoman Henderson. The results of the meeting were not known by deadline.
“This issue comes down to common sense for dog owners,” said Scott. “Naturally there are times when dogs should not be on the boardwalk – for their own safety.”
Dog lovers unite so this issue does not drag out or take up too much valuable time for our over-imposed upon politicians.
“There is a key way to help influence the resolution of this issue,” said Jim Modica, owner of Asbury Bark. “Voice your opinion to the council immediately.”
“This can and should be resolved by Memorial Day,” said Johnson.
Councilwoman Henderson and Amy Quinn, currently running for City Council – and a vocal supporter of this issue concurred.
Lets all hold them to that.
Councilman James Bruno declined to comment and the Mayor did not respond to two email inquiries.
Earth day is becoming Earth Month is becoming Earth Year.
Finally, we are seeing tons of modern “green” options for every part of your fabulous life – from fashion to grooming to items for every part of your home.
You know Jurlique is one of my favorites. This Earth Day, my Jurlique friends are going beyond beyond by encouraging you to recycle three Jurlique product containers at one of their area boutiques and be rewarded with a sample of one of their three bestsellers (until April 25).
After I recycled at Jurlique, I sought out two leading resources to provide insight into making it easier to be green, everyday.
I went to the Green Products Expo in New York City – where US companies premier the newest, latest and greatest “green” products, and I spoke with Asbury Park’s own Nancy Ehrlich, owner of Organic Style on Cookman Avenue, to learn about 21st Century responsible living.
TBP: What does “fair trade” mean and how does it impact the Earth?
Nancy: Every fair trade product has been made by a company that pays a living wage for workers to support their families in that country. Typically, workers get medical benefits and work seven to eight hour days. No children work in the factories.
Fair trade is the complete opposite of what we know as a “sweatshop.” When people purchase fair trade products they are helping families around the world create a better life for themselves and their community.
Organic Style exclusively sells products that practice fair labor – I turn away companies that don’t have supporting documentation.
TBP: What are some simple tips that everyone here can do to make a big impact on the environment and ultimately the world?
Nancy: Stop buying bottled water. Why even buy it to recycle it? There are so many canteen and reusable bottle options available now.
Another tip is to eat a meatless meal at least once a week. Factory farming is one of the worst things done to pollute our earth.
Finally, get in the habit of bringing your own reusable shopping bag wherever you go – from Cookman Avenue to the Mall. Those reusable bags are not just for the food store.
TBP: What about for men?
Nancy: Look for simple, neutral, solid colored bags. I sell a couple of different organic cotton options at Organic Style. My husband Bob uses one.
TBP: Great Nancy, bring on the shopping.
At the Green Products Expo I previewed some really cool products that you will love having in your life:
Kids Konserve: My favorite from the show was this line of waste-free lunch kits. Ultra cool looking, reusable food containers for kids for school or adults for the beach or office. I’ll be using the stainless steel stackable food carrying “bento box” – two containers in one – this summer. The company was launched by one of the first employees of Design Within Reach, so you know it blends style and function.
KIDSKONSERVE.COM
Ecover Car Wash and Wax: phosphate-free, fully degradable, low foaming, pH neutral cleanser (translation – it won’t suffocate the fish in our lakes and ocean or kill your grass among other things) uses the power of nature to clean and degrease any car or boat, for less than $5.
FlushPuppies: Dog doodie bags that are 100% biodegradable and water soluble (you can flush it), so the “package” is treated properly in a sewage treatment plant and does not add to the 210 million tons of trash in the US each year. $4.
Two weeks later, I still get goose bumps when I think about Bruce Springsteen saying to the audience “every time we get ready to go on tour, we come to Convention Hall to find out who we are now, as a band. We don’t really know who we are together until we play in this place.”
For two and a half hours Bruce and his team “found themselves” and gave it their everything at Tuesday’s show. (Additional exclusive video and images below).
I walked in to Convention Hall that night not a Bruce fanatic. Out of the twenty or so songs he sang, I probably recognized four of them. It turns out Bruce is one of those performers that you don’t need to know his entire oeuvre to appreciate him, actually I mean love him.
I seriously do have a love for him now. I walked out of Convention Hall a believer that night. I pray at the altar of Bruce Springsteen.
Throughout the show, he did not stop moving – and the audience, including myself, could not stop dancing. Normally stoic straight guys rocked their heads and mouthed the worlds to songs including “Badlands” and “Hard Times”.
It was an amazing Asbury Park moment – seeing the unofficial mayor of Asbury Park perform his brilliant new show in that architecturally brilliant and grandly intimate space…in our own backyard.
It’s a moment I have been looking forward to for years and am so thankful to finally have had the opportunity, thanks to Asbury Park resident Carolyn Curtain.
I told my friends at the Howard Stern Show all about the concert when I saw them last Thursday to tape part of a new special series about the “Best of the ‘90s.”
I joked with Executive Producer, Gary Dell’Abate that the old studios and offices at KROCK were like dumpster diving compared to what the show has now at satellite radio. I just wish the stock price reflected how fancy-pants the studios are. Ug.
A new producer from Sirius XM interviewed me for almost two hours about everything involved in my years at the show – from meeting tons of celebs (including Alec Baldwin, Pamela Anderson) to infamous guests (Mary Jo and Joey Butafucco) to memorable moments (Fred’s bachelor party and Howard’s birthdays) to life behind the scenes (arguments, book launches).
I revealed a few insane experiences I have never talked about since my time working for the show. Even Howard will be surprised when he listens to the special. Ah memories.
It was pretty darn special to see one of Howard and Bruce’s friends – Donald Trump – feature two fab Asbury Parkers on his show last week.
President of the Chamber of Commerce, Dan DiBenedetto, and Designer, Anthony Perotta celebrated their birthdays as guests on “Celebrity Apprentice’s” hotel management task.
“A friend of a friend works for the production company and invited us to be part of the show,” said Dan.
Six-foot eight-inch Dennis Rodman loved Dan and Anthony so much that he ditched his team for hours to join them for dinner at the fancy-pants Tao restaurant.
“He ordered everything from the bar and menu and then went back to the hotel right before the bill came,” said Dan, laughing.
Hottie Anthony, what’s it like to be called “honey” by Dennis Rodman while he is holding your hand?
The 7th Annual Garden State Film Festival is…rolling and it’s always great to see the hugely creative people – and their fans – running around our city brushing stray pieces of popcorn off their chest and laps.
One of the many under-praised heroes of film and theatre are the people that design and build the spectacular sets and props for your viewing pleasure.
Asbury Park resident Quinn Stone has been building film and theatre sets for almost 20 years in Chicago, New York City and Los Angeles and recently founded her own scene shop – StoneDog Studios in Neptune.
“My job is part artist, construction coordinator, sculptor, painter, costumer, electrician and architect,” said Quinn. “The set is another character in a production. I make sure that character plays its role excellently.”
Quinn also serves as the technical director for the New Jersey Repertory Company in Long Branch. Currently, she is installing the set for the upcoming premier of “Housewives of Mannheim.”
Quinn has recently built props or sets for the Two River Theatre Company, Tinton Falls Middle School, Merline Films, The Ellen DeGeneres Show and The Showroom – the first independent cinema to open in downtown Asbury Park in the past 30 years.
“I usually take the set designer’s draftings and build the actual space,” said Quinn, a graduate of the School of the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston. “My team and I figure out what needs to be done, considering the budget and time and make it happen.”
Team Quinn builds and paints the projects in her studio and then moves the pieces to the performance venue – putting the finishing touches on the work at the theatre or on location. It takes three or four weeks to construct and install the average stage set.
“If a theatre company called today and said they needed a five-foot tall television remote next week, I would say ‘What type of TV is the remote for?’” said Quinn. “We can and will make anything. And we work with any type of budget.”
I learned from my time at the Maury Povich Show that set building is its own art, morphing function with fiction (“Quick, I need a loveseat shaped like hot red lips, in velvet…that glows.”)
It’s about “smoke and mirrors,” making something look real, dynamic and believable – temporarily. I have heard nothing but praise for Quinn from the “theatre folks” around town.
For The Showroom on Cookman Avenue, Quinn was charged with creating a lobby with a “deco” feel that needed to double as office space. Her dynamic work debuts – along with the exciting new theatre – this weekend.
“Quinn is a craftsman and has produced for our theatre a functional and exquisite piece of art,” said Asbury Park resident Nancy Sabino, partner in The Showroom with her partner Michael Sodano. “She was so easy to work with and it was our good fortune to support a local, women-owned business.”
Pass the popcorn.
Briefly: Speaking of The Showroom, Nancy told me exclusively that the formal launch of the theatre will be the weekend of April 10, featuring the 2009 Oscar-nominated animated and live-action shorts. The film choices will always be “high-quality films that you may have missed or would like to see a second or third time.”
And she and Michael want to hear from you.
“We want to encourage people to suggest films to feature. We would love to have a theatre curated by its audience.”
As we embrace the first days of spring, I wanted to reveal the biggest secret that will be on the beach this summer.
A ton of those smoking-hot bodies soon to adorn the best beach on the New Jersey shore and Paradise pool are turning now to mesotherapy – a natural body contouring treatment – to achieve that ultra masculine and feminine silhouette we love to love so much in July.
“Mesotherapy is a technique where medication is injected into the mesoderm layer of fat in specific desired areas,” said Dr. Neil Rosen of Preventive Medicine of Monmouth. “The medication used is completely safe and naturally found in the body; we just use it in a very concentrated form.”
It’s vanity’s secret weapon.
Based on individual requirements, the doctor selects a mesotherapy formula that, when injected into the “problem” area slowly diffuses into the fat and breaks it down.
The number of treatments required varies depending on body type and personal aesthetic goals. For the average person, the results last for about 12 months when combined with exercise and a decent diet. Then, a patient goes for easy maintenance “touch ups.”
Mesotherapy was invented in 1952 by Dr. Michel Pistor. Today, 50,000 physicians worldwide offer mesotherapy treatments for a variety of medical issues. About 2,000 of the doctors are in the U.S.
The French Academy of Medicine recognized mesotherapy as an “inherent part of traditional medicine” in 1987. The FDA is conducting its first mesotherapy body contouring clinical trials, according to a recent statement by the American Society of Plastic Surgeons.
I know of almost 20 area men and women who have chosen mesotherapy – also called Lypolysis and Lipodissolve – instead of scary liposuction. Dr. Rosen has “hundreds of patients” in the greater Asbury Park and shore area.
“I would never let anyone cut me open unless there was no other option for my health,” said one Asbury Park male meso lover. “Liposuction should be a last resort. Mesotherapy is the perfect alternative for me.”
The treatment works best on people who have fat pockets to be eliminated around the stomach, flanks, arms, thighs, eyes, back and chin. It has been reported that Britney Spears, Demi Moore, Jennifer Aniston, Matt Damon and many other bold-faced names rely on mesotherapy treatments.
“Mesotherapy does not traumatize the body like surgery does,” said Dr. Rosen. “There is no scar tissue, residual effects or down time post-treatment.”
If figuring out what cosmetic procedures people have had was an Olympic sport, I would be on the cover of a Wheaties Box. Mesotherapy great because it is so subtle even a trained eye has difficulty telling that a person has undergone treatments.
And that makes for a great summer secret.
Call Diane at Dr. Rosen’s office for more info: 732.219.0894.
Other hot vanity products your neighbors are not telling you about:
Anything by Olay – especially the Rejuvenating Serum (cheapest at Costco) and the Pro Vital line.
Neutrogena sun protection and sunless tanning products.
Alford and Hoff men’s ultra-luxury skin care products. Everyone from Joe Theisman to Elton John depends on this line to look younger and camera-ready.
Last week, I visited an open house at a new ocean front development in Sea Bright. The house was high-end builder’s grade McMansion – high on glitz, low on character. The view, however, was extraordinary – and at $3.3 million, with almost $45,000 taxes, it should have been.
As the spring real estate market kicks off, I took a peek at the million dollar views of three properties in our area – same ocean crashing against the fab shore – minus the million dollar price tag.
$649,000, two bedrooms two baths: Ocean views really “wow” from every room in this north / south / east exposure Ocean Grove penthouse condo, with a 300 square foot terrace. The current owner’s furniture is the “gift with purchase.”
$499,000, two bedrooms, one and a half baths: This brand-spanking-new south-facing condo’s view is a duet of classic summer views – both of Fletcher Lake and the Atlantic. Built solid by the highly respected Sawbucks Construction, I especially love the pocket doors and that fab sea air floating in from the two doors leading to the archetypal Ocean Grove front porch. It’s also located where parking is rarely a horrific summer buzz-kill.
$629,000, 2 bedrooms 2 bath: It’s all about the luxe, original differentiators in this 1,700 square foot condo – centralized media system (panel on the wall controls everything from your iPod to your DVR), radiant heat, decadently huge shower stalls and indoor in-building parking.
Designed by the Asbury Park-based architecture firm Grey Watt, The Griffin has a cohesive – and non-gaudy – style theme throughout. It’s a property downtown that’s architecturally interesting and elegantly functional.
Images and property specifics supplied by realtors.
Ocean Grove, the most dog-friendly town in the area – Asbury Park City Council can you hear me – has welcomed its newest four-legged resident and you can watch the official “big reveal” go down on television Saturday (March 14), at 8 pm.
From thousands of applicants, Animal Planet’s “Underdog to Wonderdog,” on basic cable, played canine matchmaker for longtime Ocean Grove resident Kelli Chaffers helping her adopt Nellie – a beautiful, mature collie-mix.
“It’s been an incredible experience taping the show for the past few weeks,” said Kelli also parent to a son Kelsey and two cats, Miss Diva and Handsome. “I told the producers I wanted a dog that lounges, not runs and Nellie is the exact speed I want.”
I spoke with the show’s hottie-host Ryan Smith about the production.
TBP: Why did you choose Kelli for your show?
Ryan: A couple of reasons. First of all, Kelli has a vivacious and exciting personality. We love working with people and families that have a zest for life, and that’s Kelli in a nutshell. In addition, Kelli’s son is leaving home for the first time. While a beautiful dog cannot replace Kelsey, it can help ease Kelli’s family life adjustment.
Part of our job is to take relatively unadoptable dogs and match them with owners that can help them; the dog in this episode is shy, reserved and shut down as a result of its past, and it needs an amazing person like Kelli to make it’s life wonderful.
TBP: Kelli was made for TV. Part of your show is also doing a makeover on the dog and small home improvements. What did your team do to Kelli’s home?
Ryan: I can tell you this: our canine carpenter David’s objective is to build something that brings a somewhat shy dog out of her shell and put her in an environment where she can learn to become just as gregarious as Kelli.
TBP: Anything about the show that was challenging or different?
Hey, I have to save something for when you watch the show. I can reveal that the personality issues with this dog were unlike any issues that we have encountered before.
This is a great episode for people considering adopting a shelter dog without great knowledge of that dog’s past. Viewers will learn a lot about how to uncover a dog’s history in order to make it the best possible companion for its owner.
Our dog for this episode is one of the most beautiful dogs I have ever been around, and she goes on an amazing journey throughout the show. I really can’t wait for you to see it.
TBP: What did you think about our Historic Ocean Grove?
Ryan: Our team was blown away when we visited Ocean Grove – in awe of the striking architecture. We all fell in love with the serene beach community and its residents. We couldn’t have picked a more perfect place to shoot our show.
TBP: Your show takes a super-important issue – rescuing and nurturing mature dogs – and makes it engaging, fun and inspiring. Thanks Ryan.
Briefly: Save the date for “Gaylarious” a comedy show presented by Jill Potter and Aaron Coleman’s production companies, Saturday, April 4 at the WonderBar.
“Hosted by Christie Girlington, the show is a team of four cutting-edge gay and lesbian next-generation queer comics,” said Jill.
The horserace for creative business names around our city continues. I present to you the backstory for six more monikers below.
Bodega Shoppe
“I’ve lived in New York City for more than twenty years and the corner bodega is where I go for everything,” said Mike Buess, owner, of one of my favorite stores in town. “Corner markets sell a little bit of everything – similar to what I do at Bodega Shoppe which is a lifestyle store selling home furnishings, gifts and personal accessories. I added ‘shoppe’ to differentiate my store from a real bodega.”
Corazza
“It’s my maiden name,” said Kathleen Banks, owner of the fab mid-century modern home furnishing store on the Boardwalk. “It also means shield or armor. I have been wearing it proudly – and it has helped me a lot – for my entire life.”
WindMill Restaurant
“The original name for the restaurant was ‘WindMill Drive-In,’ said Rena Levine-Levy, chief operating officer of this chain that sells 12,000 fantastic hotdogs each week. “In 1964, my parents and their partners were looking for a location to open a drive-in. They found the building shaped like a wind mill – in the middle of what was a pretty empty landscape back then – and named the business after the distinctive shape of the building. Many don’t know the building came before the restaurant.”
Aww Mama Productions
“Whenever my dog Kayla did something cute my friends and I would say ‘aww mama,’” said Jill Potter, founder. “The phrase ‘aww mama’ has just become familiar lingo for me, so I incorporated it into my new business.”
Pyramid Productions
“I have always been intrigued by the mystery of the pyramids,” said Aaron Coleman, founder. “The creation of an event, to me, is like the building of a pyramid. And the actual logo is the same as my tattoo.”
Stone Pony (per its website)
In 1974, friends John “Jack” Roig and Robert “Butch” Pielka opened the doors of the Stone Pony. Jack purchased the abandoned building formerly a restaurant and leveraged the managerial and construction skills of Butch. During the building’s renovation, the club’s name simply came to Butch in a dream. The rest would be Asbury Park history.
Previous columns at TheCoaster.net reveal the genesis of other local great business’ names, such as Synaxis, Clementine’s and Munch.
Briefly: There is a grand new addition to Ocean Grove – and I am not talking about the monster building under construction on Ocean Pathway that is changing the historic skyline forever.
Thanks to Animal Planet’s “Underdog to Wonderdog” – the show that pairs stray dogs with loving homes – resident Kelli Chaffers has adopted a wonderful adult collie mix, Nellie, from a shelter. Production, which included improvements to Kelli’s home and a makeover and training for Nellie, took place during the past two weeks in the City.
Further details about the taping from the production team are more hush-hush than the Frost-Nixon interview.
Except, I know Nellie was feted Thursday in fab Asbury Park fashion at Robert DeSanto’s beautiful home with many friends and cocktails.
The show featuring Kelli and Nellie – and hottie host Ryan Smith – will air Sat. March 14, 8 pm.
Calling all Cinemafiles – all is not lost now that Oscar season is history.
Thanks to the Asbury Park Film Initiative your viewing displeasure does not have to include “Confessions of a Shopaholic” and “Paul Blart: Mall Cop II.”
Film lovers can unite compliments of Ocean Grove resident V.J. Carbone and Langosta Lounge’s Marilyn Schlossbach – co-founders of the Asbury Park Film Initiative – for fab flicks screened at an equally fab location.
“We created APFI to bring great independent films to the city,” said V.J.“Marilyn and I would like the Film Initiative to be similar to the Angelica Film Forum, in New York.”
This program is for the community by the community – which you know I love – rising from one night last summer.
“In June we screened a documentary about surfing and more than three hundred people came,” said Marilyn.“Afterwards, V.J., my husband Scott and I talked about the opportunity to bring great films to the area all year round.”
The three brainstorm each month’s film selections.Wonderful V.J. – fancy pants vice president of publicity for Focus Features (“Brokeback Mountain,” “Atonement,” “Milk”) secures the licensing.
One blustery December Sunday, I went to the screening of “White Christmas.”I also saw the compelling documentary “Man on a Wire and attended the packed-house New Jersey premier of “Milk” at Clearview’s Middlebrook Cinema, with an after party at Marilyn’s restaurant.
Showings are on the Paramount Theatre’s 60 by 40 foot screen.It’s a great space to take a mental vacation and watch a movie – for free.The grandeur of a live theatre space for the simplicity of these fine film selections is fan-tabulous.The only thing missing is decadent movie theatre popcorn.
Mondays, you are cordially invited for dinner and a movie.Price fix dinners are offered at Langosta Lounge, The Harrison, Stella Marina and Salt Water Grill.
Coming soon, film screenings on the beach on a huge inflatable screen and more exclusive New Jersey film previews.
Every month, our city has more and more wonderful things to offer – all thanks to the passion of the people.
Briefly:For me – like a lot of us – walking into a car service center is as unfamiliar and scary as walking into a shooting range.In this economy, I wanted to share with you how I – with a tip toe out of my comfort zone – avoided wasting hundreds of dollars.
Last week, I called the dealer to replace the low-beam that was out on my Acura.The service rep told me the cost would be $280 and if there was something else wrong, it may cost an additional $1,000.I was beyond upset.
A kind stranger suggested I buy the light bulb on Ebay and install it myself leveraging instructions from the internet (TSXClub.com) – not from the excessively complicated car manual.
The lightbulb cost $40 and took 15 minutes to replace – saving me the six-hundred percent dealer markup.
I also recently got my tires replaced for more than $400 less at Costco than Acura.
Bottom line: it takes a kick in the butt, but I learned that I can do this stuff and not be dependent on others for simple projects.If I can do it, anyone can.
I never quote Homer Simpson, however here I go:“They have the internet on computers now!”
It never gets old.
The next time you are on the internet, on your computer, check out some of the great Yahoo Groups – online communities custom-made for our community, by our community.
Members communicate to the group via blast emails.Databases and other resources are available on the group’s homepage.
Some have said that politicians must speak to constituents via a few of these lists to win an election.
As with any collective, there is whining and moaning about nonsense (delete, delete) balanced out by the extraordinary positive community cyber-energy.The passion is what really makes these groups great.
I spoke with the moderators of a few local groups.Read on, then log on and see what fits with your interests – guaranteed at least one will.
“Asbury Park GLH,” (founded 2002)
TBP:What is the “The List” all about?
Moderator:It caters specifically to the GLBTI residents of Asbury Park, so naturally it can only be described as “fabulous.”
The “List,” as it’s known around town, is a communication tool – created by Dane Hall – with 468 members, that caters to a community of similar interests.It was launched to provide the GLBTI community with an effective way to connect with each other, recommend contractors and other vendors and express opinions.
“Asbury Park,” (1999)
TBP:This is the longest standing Yahoo Group for the City.
Moderator:“Asbury Park” was started by a then-Philadelphia area college student (Andrew Wertz) who was interested in the city’s revival.The 470 member group is a forum for anyone who is interested in Asbury Park.
Among the many issues discussed are the ongoing challenges of the city’s school district, the Asbury Park real estate market and the effects of the upcoming local elections on the City.
“Colonial Terrace,” (2006)
TBP:Your Ocean Township-focused group is the only one with specific ties to a neighborhood association.
Moderator:It’s an extension of the Colonial Terrace Protective Association.The group is used as a vehicle to keep in touch and let neighbors know what is going on – from City Hall issues specific to Colonial Terrace to crime reports.
We also coordinate neighborhood events like a bicycle parade, “Fall Fest” and holiday caroling.
“Wanamassa GLBTI,” (2006)
(Disclosure:I founded this group and serve as the moderator).Our group is a forum for Wanamassa-based GLBTI neighbors to become more connected.
It has a few active members, however starts to buzz when a project to rally around arises such as saving Deal Lake or Ocean Township High School’s momentary ignorance cancelling “The Laramie Project”…or when a party is on deck.
Despite what you may have heard, Paradise and Georgie’s are not the only places to look for love around here. Try the Monmouth County SPCA and adopt a dog or cat.
Puppy love expert and editor of more than 100 books about cats and dogs, Andrew DePrisco, discusses this very special type of matchmaking in his book, “Woof! A Gay Man’s Guide to Dogs” (see last week’s column at TheCoaster.net).
“Most of us spend more time with our dogs than we do with our partners,” said Andrew, an Interlaken resident. “Dogs are the ultimate long-term commitment and choosing the right one deserves more attention than the shirt you’ll buy for spring.”
In honor of Valentine’s Day, I asked Andrew to comment on a few gay divas and icons, and their dogs – as he does in his book.
“Celebs love being in the book,” said Andrew. “Who wouldn’t love being placed between Orlando Bloom and Brad Pitt?”
Elton John:
“Elton has more than twenty dogs – a compound of rescue dogs. It seems she wants everything she sees, including dogs.”
Clay Aiken:
“He has a border terrier. That’s a rough dog. This silly little twink likes to be handled rough.”
Lance Bass:
“Lance is partnered with two twin Australian Beagle crosses. I think its fun that he is sleeping with twins every night.”
Orlando Bloom:
“He’s a honey. I love Orlando. He has a rescue dog mix and that’s sexy.”
George Takai:
“George and his husband have a Papillion – a small French breed with big ears that resemble a butterfly’s wings. Very smart dogs – just like George. Perfect match.”
Justin Timberlake:
“As such an ultimate straight guy, why does Justin have such a gay dog – a Yorkie? But sometimes a dog finds you rather than you finding the dog.”
President Barack Obama:
“He is such an intellectual and thoughtful guy…and athletic. My choice of dog for him would be a Boxer. Boxers, especially male Boxers, bond very closely with their owners. Given that one of his daughters is allergic to dogs, the family needs a non-shedding dog. My favorite non-shedding dog is a Spanish Water dog. They are frighteningly smart – bred to dive underwater to find gear. The breed has a very beautiful coat similar to a sheep.”
The last paragraph in Andrew’s book sums up life in this great city with our dogs perfectly.
“Once you’ve found the perfect canine companion, the whole gay world is your oyster. Sunning at the shore, sipping at the rim of an overpriced cocktail and watching the surfers come in, you and your partner can woof all day at the indescribable joys of low tide.”
Cheers to you and love this Valentine’s Day…and low tide.
Briefly: Something you may not know about me is that I love anything and everything Andy Warhol. If you share my interest, Graphic artist Billy Mecca of Elberon just sent me a great link to raw footage of Andy signing his book “America” at the Fiorucci boutique in NYC on Valentine’s Day, 1986.
February – the “month of love.” There’s not much we love absolutely more around here than our pets.
Andrew DePrisco, local writer and dog-lover, put pen to paper about his passion for puppies and received the Benjamin Franklin Award from the Independent Book Publishers Association for “Best Gay and Lesbian Book.”
Andrew’s “Woof! A Gay Man’s Guide to Dogs” (BowTie Press) is a creative, funny, interesting, energetic and really, really beautiful book about the unique bond a gay man has with his dog.
“I wanted to write a book that conveyed important information about the pets we love, in an entertaining way,” said Andrew. “Woof! is edutainment for all lovers of dogs, especially those who care about the quality of the dogs they select and the authenticity of the crystals in those same dogs’ collars.”
The irreverent tome offers prospective and current canine owners facts about selecting, naming, raising, training (both family and dog) and loving the “gay-perfect pup.”
Andrew tweaked the standard tests used by dog breeders to evaluate a puppy’s personality for members of the QKC – the Queer Kennel Club – with questions like “Are most of your shirts collarless or sleeveless?” and “Have you ever been naked in a barn?”
Just as there is a top for every pot, there is a dog for every guy.
“If gay men were as simple as young, untrained puppies, life would be so much easier,” said Andrew.
After revealing his QKC grouping, the reader learns various breeds associated with each group. Andrew – the author of 10 dog and cat books and editor of more than 100 – found there are 28 “breeds” of gay men, including All American Boy, Fashionista, Guppy, Pump Boy, Size Queen, Gaysian and Southern Belle, to name a few.
“From drag queens to butch cowboys, no one is safe in the book,” said Andrew. “Leather guys are softies that like to dress up – and there are better dogs than others to match that personality.”
Andrew spent a year researching and writing Woof!.
“I interviewed twenty-five of the best breeders in North America,” said Andrew. “If you follow my recommendations for choosing a breed, getting it from the right source, socializing and training it, you will not be unhappy with the pet you choose.”
For those of us who prefer saving a dog, rather than buying one, Andrew, FYI, is not all about breeders – in any way, shape or form.
“There is something sexy about someone who goes to a rescue and saves a dog,” said Andrew. “Rescue groups for purebreds do an amazing job of saving puppies from horrible breeders and stores.”
And despite its title, the book is not just for gay men – Joan Rivers is one of Andrew’s biggest fans.
“This book is my dog bible, and DePrisco is my new heroine,” said Joan.
That’s love.
Next week, in honor of Valentine’s Day, Andrew talks doggie dirt on Justin Timberlake, Elton John and other gay divas and icons.
Briefly: Speaking of Joan, her new book about plastic surgery, “Men are Stupid and they Like Big Boobs” is fab. My favorite quote regarding spending money on beautification in today’s environment: “It’s better to see a pretty face getting out of an ugly car, than an ugly face out of a pretty car.”
There are so many reasons to look up and smile in Asbury Park – from the compelling architecture to the sweeping “cloud art” designed by Mother Nature hanging above the ocean every day.
I also love walking around and seeing the fantastic watercolor images by Asbury Park resident Ray Sternesky on the lamppost banners around town.
Last week, I had the pleasure of spending time with Asbury Park resident Sonja O’Brien and speaking with her about the lamppost banner program she originally spearheaded in 2006 for our city, which is about to enter it’s second phase.
Sonja is so inspiring. Seriously inspiring. She can do anything with the precious spare time she has in between commuting to and from the city for work, renovating a house and loving two adorable cats yet she chooses to dedicate some of her extra time to giving back to Asbury Park.
“Everyone has different skills they can and do bring to the table to help the city,” said Sonja. “The talent pool found in our residents is so great it encouraged me. Professionally, I coordinated the production of the banners for the Goodwill Games, so this banner program is an extension of what I know – it was a natural fit to do my part for a city I love so much.”
Sunday, the artwork for the second series of banners – themed “Imagine Asbury Park” – was unveiled at a beautiful, fancy-pants Watermark Lounge party. (SEE ARTICLE PAGE XX)
“I am so excited about Phase Two of the banner program because it showcases a myriad of artists representing all facets of our community,” said Sonja. “And because it is raising funds for vital non-profit organizations.”
Sonja developed the business plan for the program and secured 13 sponsors. For a fee of $600 this is a no-brainer, cost effective, high-impact branding opportunity, with an extra-long shelf-life for local businesses.
The two installments of the initiative have raised $15,300 – with one-hundred percent of the proceeds of the first going to the Asbury Park Historical Society and the second split evenly between the Historical Society and ArtsCAP.
“Her insights and energy are ingenious and invaluable,” said Johna Karpinski, president of the Historical Society. “I can’t say enough about how wonderful she is.”
Sonja’s work has impacted many.
“Her work has been huge for ArtsCAP,” said Brett Colby, board president, ArtsCAP. “Sonja has provided us with the single-largest donation we have received to-date.”
She will also coordinate the production of the banners and installation with Asbury Park’s Director of Commerce, Tom Gilmour.
“I could not have done any of this without the support of Tom,” said Sonja.
After looking up at our city, let’s follow Sonja’s lead and look around for new ways to contribute positive energy in 2009.
Briefly: A decadent, affordable departure from the standard box-of-chocolate fare for Valentine’s Day this year is the chocolate Bouchon (“cork” in French) mix and mold set exclusively from Williams-Sonoma.
Previously, only available on the east coast at the Time Warner Center’s Bouchon Bakery in NYC, you can now make these amazing, small, rich, chocolate brownie-like treats at home. Great winter comfort dessert. Your love will “heart” them.
Oprah and Gail. Donnie and Marie. Sonny and Cher. Jill and Aaron.
Yes, Jill and Aaron – the new talent team in town is Jill Potter and Aaron Coleman. The two Asbury Park residents who have brought you some of the most creative and popular events our city has seen in the past few years are joining forces.
Jill Potter, for the past seven years has served as the Chairperson of the Asbury Park Marketing Fund and coordinator of seven Road Trips. Aaron Coleman, most recently was the events manager at Mattison Park, producing the Halloween Parade in town and The Center’s Disco Ball.
With the founding of Jill’s Aww Mama Productions and Aaron’s Pyramid Productions, both are committed to developing exciting entertainment events for you, as original as Asbury Park, all year long.
“We met during the preparations for Road Trip 7 and realized we have the same drive to make the Asbury Park area a year-round gay entertainment destination,” said Jill. “Asbury Park has to have a variety of entertainment options for the community at-large all year long – not just squeezed in to a couple of weekends during the summer.”
I hear they are working on a number of events from outdoor parties to theatre and more.
Another platform of their business is producing original and memorable private parties and corporate events, such as a “Lordy Lordy He’s Forty” themed birthday extravaganza for forty great friends. (Actually, that’s my idea for my birthday in a few years. Jill and Aaron will create something better for you.)
“Our companies are more than basic event planning,” said Aaron. “Nothing we do, either a private party or a large public event, will be run of the mill. Everything will be a specialty production – with a memorable out-of-the-box uniqueness.”
Jill and Aaron have been planning their first event – Gay Bingo on Saturday, Feb. 7 at the VFW Hall – since September and it’s certainly not standard fare.
“Christy Girlington will be the host for the Mardi Gras-themed evening of Gay Bingo and she is bringing her friends, the Bingo Verifying Divas Aaliyah Kiara Du’mure and Lady Victoria,” said Aaron. “While this is billed as a gay event, everyone is always welcome to come and have fun.”
Each guest will receive Mardi Gras accessories, 10 bingo cards and a dabber. Cocktails will be available from the Harrison-hosted bar.
For years, I went to Gay Bingo in New Hope, Pennsylvania at the Firehouse and it was a guaranteed great time. You can only imagine what happens when “O 69” is called out.
And the VFW Post 1333 is organically the perfect place for Jill and Aaron’s premier production – it has a vintage number drawing machine and illuminated call board. The room even has the right “Bingo smell,” whatever that is.
Gay Bingo is 10 great games with 10 special prizes – including a very valuable one-year subscription to this newspaper, ReVision theatre tickets and a grand jackpot of $250, a portion of the proceeds benefiting The Center in Asbury Park.
“We are ‘dragging out’ bingo in Asbury Park,” said Jill.
AwwMama.com has advanced discounted tickets and more info. Doors open at 7.45 pm.
Briefly: Another fab event for a winter evening, Gay Bowling returns Saturday (Jan. 24) at Asbury Lanes, 7 pm. Ten dollars includes shoes, bowling, pizza, prizes from local businesses, fun, friends and more. It’s seriously the best entertainment bargain in town. Hosted by the Barron of Bowling Michael Delia.
I was sorry to see the gay bar Cruisin’ close at the end of last year. It was a fun place filled with great people and wonderful, dedicated owners.
The buzz recently – both online at the Yahoo! Group and in person – from many in the gay community is that the GLBTI population is not supporting gay bars and businesses in town enough and there is a fear more gay-owned establishments will cease operation.
I want to spend my money with friends at clean establishments that have a fun atmosphere, serve great food and drinks for the price and whose bathrooms are not some kind of awful science experiment – regardless of who owns it.
I will, however, go out of my way not to patronize a business whose owner or business philosophy is built on homophobia.
In reality, most every bar in Asbury Park is a gay bar when a gay person is in it. And tons of straight men and women “tear it up” at the gay bars in town, too. Everyone is welcome to have fun and be themselves wherever they are – never is a “gay card” required.
That’s the great part of this issue. We GLBTI here define ourselves by our talents or lack thereof, not by our sexuality. Yet again, Asbury Park is a model community.
We are not a novelty here – no “token gays” in any crowd.
The GLBTI community does not need separate but equal playpens. It’s reverse discrimination to go out of our way to support a business solely because the owner is gay.
“Maybe the community would support the gay bars and restaurants more if they weren’t so overpriced,” said Garrett Giberson. “While some are reasonable, others are just ridiculous.”
Twelve dollars for a champagne cocktail that’s way more juice than bubbly or $11 for a simple produce-based appetizer that can be eaten in four bites? Almost three dollars per bite – the return on investment is just not there.
“In these times of economic hardship, adjustment is needed so that people will feel comfortable to come out to support our local businesses,” Garrett continued.
Quality and price trump gayness for many here. Possibly, it’s time for some GLBTI-owned businesses to reexamine their business plans – including renegotiating leases with landlords – and stop blaming the GLBTI community.
We should haul butts with our wallets to every and any area business that reliably shells out money to support Gay Bowling, Road Trip, Pride weekend and all the other fab events in town that skew GLBTI.
“Maybe if some of the establishments who cater to our community worked together rather than against each other these places could be even more successful,” said Garrett. “And they know who they are.”
Briefly: Happy 200th birthday to Edgar Allan Poe this week (Jan. 19). The wonderful Frank D’Allessandro and The Stephen Crane House are feting Poe Saturday (Jan. 17), at 5 pm, with a program of readings, including “The Raven” (one of my favorites), “The Tell Tale Heart” and “Annabel Lee” – and cake.
At 7 pm, there will be a screening of the 1962 film “Tales of Terror” starring Vincent Price. “The movie takes a rather droll, expansive view of Mr. Poe’s stories,” said Frank.
Donations benefit the Asbury Park Little League. Call: 732.775.5682
The Superbowl is coming up soon. No, not the Superbowl with the beefy guys (well, that one is coming up too), I’m talking about what some consider to be the “gay” Superbowl, the Miss America Pageant 2009 – Saturday, Jan. 24 (on TLC).
I spoke with Miss New Jersey, Ashley Fairfield, 22, of Egg Harbor last week about her quest to become the first Miss America from New Jersey in 25 years.
TBP: What do you do when you are not busy being Miss New Jersey?
Ashley: I am a full-time senior at Richard Stockton College, so when I am not doing five days of appearances, I am usually studying…or sleeping.
TBP: What was it like helping Ellen DeGeneres try to fulfill her long-standing goal of getting George Clooney on her show?
Ashley: Ellen is amazing. She dances through the commercials with the audience. As we were leaving, she read my sash, smiled and said, “Jerseeeeyyyy.” She is so much fun.
TBP: Ellen is the best. What is something we would have never known about Ashley Fairfield, Miss New Jersey?
Ashley: I love football and am a raging Eagles fan. I also love to golf but I am no female version of Tiger Woods. I’m not the “girly girl” stereotype associated with beauty queens.
TBP: Jazz dance is your talent and Habitat for Humanity is your platform issue. Coastal Habitat for Humanity has helped many families here, just finishing a beautiful home in Wall.
Ashley: There is nothing like seeing a child’s face when they walk into their own house, their own bedroom for the first time. I would love to come to Asbury Park and help build a house.
TBP: Everyone’s heard about Vaseline on the teeth, what are some other beauty queen beauty tips from a non-girly girl?
Ashley: One day dirty hair always styles thirty times better. Also, a lot of the girls use “butt glue” – a spray adhesive so bathing suits don’t move out of place during the competition.
TBP: What’s it like being a beauty queen in New Jersey?
Ashley: The past five years competing in pageants has been amazing. Being Miss New Jersey is a dream come true and I am enjoying every second of this experience. I am so thankful. From your state queen, I want to wish everyone a happy, healthy and joyous New Year.
Briefly: Whitney Houston is back, looking amazing and shopping like a champ. Last Monday I walked into the Mall at Short Hills right behind Whitney. As she held the door for me, I told her she “looked fabulous” and she leaned over towards me and whispered “thank you” back.
Wearing Dolce & Gabbana jeans that her stunning body pulled off perfectly, a bolero Chinchilla coat, amazing black boots, a four-thousand dollar Dior handbag and no make-up or hair extensions (her hair was under a beret-type hat), she entered Neiman-Marcus with a imperial personal presence only matched, for me, by Howard Stern or Aerosmith’s Stephen Tyler.
It was like Brad Pitt secretly walking into a gay bar – reflexively every in-the-know security guard and employee greeted Whitney with weakly controlled excitement. No one recognized her. It was her eyes, her stunning eyes that really gave her secret shopping trip away to me.
As a fan of Whitney’s since “How will I Know” and a passionate lover of her Christmas abum (one of the best ever) it was a great Christmas gift to see her doing well and looking happy and healthy.
I love the idea of looking forward to an event, moment, emotion or tried-and-true beautiful, tangible object making an appearance every December. Traditions are my favorite part about the holidays.
On Christmas Eve, at my mom’s house, we enjoy a great dinner which includes mushroom soup (dried mushrooms sent from the farm my mom grew up on, in Poland) and the custom of passing “opatek” – unleavened bread – breaking off a piece and expressing good wishes to family and friends. When I moved here four years ago, there was an opportunity to create new holiday traditions.
One new ritual of ours is to visit the restaurant Taka and delight in the extravagant, handmade gingerbread miniature holiday scene created each year. This year, co-owner Billy Kessler, with the assistance of Jason Asch, created a scene inspired by the fairy-tale Russian ballet, The Nutcracker Suite.
“I began brainstorming and sketching out ideas for the scene in October and latched on to the classic Nutcracker Suite,” said Billy. “We call it The Samurai Nutcracker because we have samurais dancing in front of the Christmas tree.”
In addition to the dancing samurais in traditional Asian dress, the two feet by three feet by two feet diorama – completely and painstakingly handmade and one-hundred percent edible – features twelve marzipan mice of varied sizes sitting on oversized marzipan gifts adorned with royal icing bows surrounding the illuminated Christmas tree, which is made of 30 gingerbread stars laid flat and topped with a white marzipan dove. Gingerbread nutcrackers line the perimeter of stage-left and right. The back panel is made of gingerbread and candy stained glass windows. Each mouse has an original expression. Every nutcracker features a marzipan soldier’s uniform with exacting detail.
The detail is spectacular, right down to the black and white fondant tile floor, graded to give the scene perspective. The Samurai Nutcracker took Billy and Jason more than 40 hours to create.
“It’s wonderful to see children stare at the scene – it makes the time investment well worth it,” said Billy. “At first, adults don’t normally recognize that the piece is completely made from edible products – gingerbread, fondant, marzipan and royal icing. Second glance you see their excitement and curiosity.”
The scene will be in the lobby of Taka until the first week of the New Year. It’s visible from the sidewalk, however you should see it up close. Amazing.
Happy holidays and the absolute best wishes in the New Year to every Jingle Belle.
Briefly: I had a Bruce moment last Thursday on the boardwalk. I was eating lunch outside Pop’s Garage with the uber-talented Bob Egan and the unofficial “mayor” of this town strolled by. He took a few steps into the restaurant, looked around, and said about the “new” boardwalk, through his billion-dollar smile, “This all is really great.” Continuing southbound down the boardwalk with a slender bald friend, we saw him peeking in the windows of other storefronts. He disappeared past Stella Maria walking towards the Carousel.
Charlotte Reed, petiquette (pet etiquette) expert and Febreze Pet Odor Eliminator spokesperson is back with a gift of holiday advice to keep every member of your family Vanderbilt-ready, should Anderson Cooper come-a-calling.
TBP: How can holiday travel with a pet be made easier?
Charlotte: Pack a special suitcase for your dog filled with comforts from home – maybe his bed, favorite toys, treats, blankets and bowl. Bringing these things makes the car ride and stay away from home, more comfortable for everyone.
TBP: Any advice once guests arrive at their destination and start celebrating?
Charlotte: The guest dog should arrive freshly bathed and brushed. Also, consider the sizes of all the dogs in the house. Set aside some time for the dogs to get comfortable with one another. If you are introducing smaller sized dogs to larger dogs, remember some dogs have “small dog syndrome” – being aggressive only when larger dogs are in their space.
When adults go to a holiday party and leave the dogs alone, dogs who have not spent a lot of time together should be gated separately. Keep the phone number of the local pet sitter on hand in case of emergencies.
TBP: What does a host do if a guest insists on feeding his dog from the table?
Charlotte: Before guests come to my home I give them the “Doggie 411.” I emphasize that there is no feeding the dogs because if they get off their schedule, the pooches always have a “mishap” in the guest room – ha ha. They get the point.
TBP: How can Barack and Michelle Obama, or anyone else planning on getting a family dog in 2009, successfully introduce a new pet into the family?
Charlotte: Plan ahead. Take time to select the best dog for your lifestyle and budget. For those who suffer from allergies, like Barack’s daughter Malia, parents should consider a low-shedding breed like a Cairn Terrier.
I don’t advise getting a dog during the holidays or when you are moving into a new home such as The White House. With all of the hub-bub, it will be very hard to get your new pooch on a schedule and to devote the proper amount of time to him.
TBP: How do you choose a gift that will make both the pet and owner happy?
Charlotte: Consider the recipient of the gift. Is he a puppy or senior dog? For puppies, small rope toys are great. Large dogs like hard chew toys. Choose something soft, plush and light for a senior dog.
For owners, Febreze candles are a great gift or my book Miss Fido Manners.
TBP: It’s a fantastic book and the Febreze “winter evening” candle’s scent is similar to a $35 candle I have – I was very impressed.
Additional columns featuring Charlotte’s insights at TheCoaster.net.
Briefly: Asbury Bark is offering Day no. 2 of pet holiday photos with or without Santa, Saturday (Dec. 13), noon to 4.30 pm. Proceeds benefit the Monmouth county SPCA and Greyhound Rescue. Reservations suggested: 732.775.4801.
And, the Asbury Park Film Initiative screening of “Milk,” starring Sean Penn, brought out 130 locals last Thursday, on a beautiful winter night. The soon-to-be Oscar nominated film is playing now at Clearview Cinema in Red Bank. Thanks to V.J. and Marilyn for a great evening.
7. California Baby all-natural, safe and fun baby products with therapeutic natural oils. Endorsed emphatically by my nine-month old godson, Drew: $6 to $18 (Organic Style)
8. Jack Black men’s superior grooming products for the perfect shave: $5 to $14 (Style Rocket)
9. Paul Frank’s “Department of Forestry” boxer briefs: $20 (Style Rocket)
10. Sexy T-shirts printed using the Gyotaku process: $20 (Lightly Salted)
11. Middle Kingdom mini porcelain vases in linen wrapped boxes: $15 (Shelter Home)
12. Hot enamel tea kettle in various vibrant colors: $19.95 (Flying Saucers)
13. Vintage home accessories: $.10 to $10 (ReStore thrift store)
14. Gift baskets for dogs featuring freshly baked treats and a holiday toy: $18.99 (Asbury Bark)
15. Hand-crafted wood ornaments featuring various dog breeds: $17.99 (Asbury Bark)
16. One-of-a-kind edible chocolate boxes created by owner, Donna Harrison: $7.50 (Wish You Were Here)
17. “The Story of Asbury Park: The Record of Progress and Achievement 1916 to 1931” – a reprint of a rare book published in 1931: $10 (Asbury Park Historical Society)
18. “Postcard History Series” – 200 postcards recount the history of our city: $19.99 (Historical Society)
19. 2009 Friends of Deal Lake desk calendar featuring images by Wanamassa photographer Bob Jaroszewski. Benefits FODL: $10 (Organic Style)
20. 401 varieties of the best candy around $1 to $14.99 (Candyteria)
Briefly: Continue your sparkly holiday spirit with Marj Conn’s Provincetown Fringe Festival at the Stephen Crane House Saturday and Sunday (Dec. 6 and 7), “Holiday Lights and Sips of Cheer,” featuring material written by Eleanor Roosevelt, Truman Capote and a first-hand account of the World War I Christmas Truce, the meaning of Kwanzaa candles and a humorous Chanukah story.
If you have never been to the wonderful Stephen Crane House, Marj’s production is a great introduction. Proceeds benefit Greyhound Rescue. Show times and reservations: 732.807.4052.
Under the loving guidance and dedication of Frank D’Allesandro, Stephen Crane’s home is your respite for thought-provoking, dynamic and fun, culturally significant events – from cinema to plays. I always leave feeling better because I went.
Walking into the home you feel as if you are visiting your favorite relative’s home. The intimate setting is comfortable, the people welcoming and the conversation engaging.
NOTE: THIS INTERVIEW WAS CONDUCTED VIA EMAIL. ONE OF RACHAEL’S PUBLICISTS DID NOT LIKE THE WAY THE PIECE TURNED OUT BECAUSE OF MY EDITING. BELOW THE COLUMN FIND THE ORIGINAL ANSWERS TO MY BULLETED QUESTIONS. ALSO, FIND THE EMAIL OUTLINING THE PUBLICIST’S ISSUES WITH THE PIECE. WE ARE ALL ABOUT TRANSPARENCY HERE - YOU DECIDE…AND COMMENT.
Keep the glam this holiday but loose the slam from the credit card companies in January. Tracey Seaman, director of Every Day with Rachael Ray’s test kitchen, shared exclusive tips, for her Asbury Park friends, to keeping the sizzle in holiday meal prep this year.
TBP: What’s going on in Rachael’s kitchen during this leaner holiday entertaining season? How do you switch out more costly ingredients for cheaper ones in?
Tracey: Hosts in Asbury Park who are accustomed to enjoying extravagances probably already know what they are willing to live without. Trying to find a cheap substitute for recipes doesn’t work all the time. For me, attempting to find a replacement for foie gras, is like hiring an escort instead of going on a date with my boyfriend – why bother? I will settle with having it rarely.
TBP: So when you want to “wow” your man’s parents with a great meal, what do you do?
Tracey: You can always have a great party without going crazy. Be on the look-out for sales on beloved lavish items.
Let what you find at a good price dictate your menu instead of being bent on impressing with a bunch of must-haves.
TBP: What if someone is hooked on a tradition of having specific fancy foods like lobster or duck for the holidays?
Tracey: Invite fewer guests or tread carefully and serve those items in smaller amounts.
If you have a hankering for lobster, instead of serving whole lobsters as a main course, make a gorgeous lobster hors d’oeuvre – which could be quite exciting.
TBP: I love that idea. Rachael must be so proud. What do you think she is gifting you with this holiday? A Pitt Bull? She and I share the love of the Pitt Bull. Back to you – where do you and other pros, shop when you are not in Rachael’s colorific kitchen?
Tracey: I am a big fan of the warehouse stores. Aside from being a great place to buy mango juice and peeled and de-veined shrimp at about half the price, Costco has a reputation for treating their employees well.
TBP: Is there a secret to finding great items at a warehouse store?
Tracey: I often buy whole fillet mignons there, although I admit, they used to be less expensive. I have enjoyed many a boneless rib roast too, but buyer, beware – look for a slab of meat with ample marbling.
TBP: One of my most favorite recipes from you, err, Rachael is for Beef Wellington – we make it every year for Christmas. What about cocktail suggestions?
Tracey: Prosecco instead of champagne is popular these days – it’s festive and can be reasonably priced. Dress up a modest bottle of bubbly with a splash of nectar or rich, fruity syrup.
Most importantly, when entertaining, take care to pay attention to the little things. Serve excellent bread and wonderful coffee.
TBP: Fab, Tracey. If you do get that dog from Rachael this holiday, check out Asbury Bark in town.
Briefly: “If you don’t believe in same-sex marriage then don’t marry someone of the same sex.” So says one of the best comics around – named one of Entertainment Weekly’s Funniest People in America – Emmy winner and newly “out” Wanda Sykes.
I know a lot of you love her as much as I do, so FYI, she will be at the Count Basie Theatre in Red Bank, March 20. Tickets are on sale now for the person on your holiday gift list with a great sense of humor.
POST-PUBLICATION EMAIL FROM PUBLICIST #1:
Good Evening Richard-
I just saw The B Plot article featuring your interview with Tracey Seaman, and it looks fabulous! Thanks so much for your interest Richard and I look forward to working with you again in the near future.
Best- A
ORIGINAL REPLY TO MY QUESTIONS – UNEDITED – FROM PUBLICIST #1:
To: Richard Virgilio
From: Tracey Seaman
Re Switching out for the Holidays
People who are accustomed to enjoying extravagances probably already know what they are willing to live without. Trying to find a cheap substitute for things doesn’t work all the time. For me, attempting to find a replacement for foie gras, is like hiring an escort instead of going on a date with my boyfriend—why bother? I will settle with having it rarely.
One can have a great party without going crazy. First, look for sales on those beloved lavish items. Let what you find at a good price dictate your menu to some degree instead of being bent on impressing with a bunch of must-haves.
If you want to serve special ingredients you can’t get a break on, invite fewer guests or tread carefully and serve those items in smaller amounts. For example, if you have a hankering for lobster, instead of serving whole lobsters as a main course, you could make a gorgeous lobster hors d’oeuvre, which could be quite exciting and impressive.
Macadamia nuts are great for snacking on, but they are awful for cooking and baking because they are easily over powered by anything else you might pair with them. You could substitute cashews for snacking; they have a similar creamy texture, but for baking, pecans and especially hazelnuts are preferable for the holiday.
Although nuts are not always a bargain, you can get two-pound bags of them reasonably at your local wholesale superstore. I am a big fan of my Costco. Aside from being a great place to buy baby spinach, mango juice, haricots verts, and peeled and deveined shrimp at about half the price, Costco has a reputation for treating their employees well. I often buy whole fillet mignons there, although I admit, they used to be less expensive. Their choice grade steaks have hearty flavor and toothsome texture. I have enjoyed many a boneless rib roast from Costco—but buyer, beware to look for a slab of meat with ample marbling.
For value and flavor, I often choose boneless sirloin. It costs so much less than fillet, porterhouse and rib-eye steaks and needs only a simple seasoning of salt and pepper. I should mention that personally I would not buy meat merely because it’s a bargain.
In the wine department, buy something you like by the case at a discount. Take the sales person’s suggestion for a great vintage at a good value. Prosecco is popular these days, is festive and can be reasonable, and a modest bottle of bubbly can be dressed up with a splash of nectar or rich, fruity syrup.
Most importantly when entertaining, take care to pay attention to the little things—don’t forget to serve excellent bread and wonderful coffee.
(PUBLICIST NAME)
Coburn Communication
EMAIL FROM PUBLICIST #2, POST-PUBLICATION. WE TOLD HER WE WOULD PUBLISH ANY FURTHER EMAIL TO US, TO LET THE READER DECIDE. ITS NOT EITHER PUBLICIST’S FAULT. THERE IS SOME BOSS MAKING ALL THIS HAPPEN AND THESE TWO WOMEN WERE THE MESSENGERS. ACTUALLY, BOTH GREAT AND SMART LADIES IN A BUSINESS BUILT ON TORTURE:
Hi Richard,
I really appreciate your time tonight. Thanks.
I spoke with you earlier in regards to your Q & A with Tracey Seaman of Every Day with Rachael Ray magazine. Thank you. As I mentioned on the phone, could you kindly revise the following in your Hot Plates article:
Please remove the question “So when you want to ‘wow’ your man’s parents with a great meal, what do you do?” This is not a question that was asked in the email interview and puts Tracey’s words out of context.
Please also remove Tracey’s answer, “Be on the look-out for sales on beloved lavish items.” I appreciate you trying to enhance the quotation – but its not in context.
Lastly, please bracket [Hosts in Asbury Park] in Tracey’s first answer. This is standard journalist practice.
Tracey’s comments were paired with questions that were not asked of her. She may have answered differently – that said, without giving her this option – we appreciate you working with us on the revisions. We really enjoyed working with you on this article and hope we can work together again.
“The government is broke. We are deep deep deep in debt – broke. We are M.C. Hammer broke.” Comic Wanda Sykes
The news is pretty dismal right now however we don’t focus on the negative here. So, I spoke with four innovators in our community and learned what they do to become re-energized and inspired.
Marilyn Schlossbach, Langosta Lounge:
I am influenced by my travels. I immerse myself in the culture of a place and its people and learn from individuals who carry the customs and history of a region with them.
Asbury Park’s vibrant community and personalities inspire me everyday. To give back and immerse myself in positive actions locally, keeps me going through the ups and downs in life. As my mother said, “Be kind, everything else will find its place.”
Father David Stout, Trinity Church:
Hands down, it is in the people with whom I minister in my congregation. I see people who choose to focus on the good, on the blessings. I see the way they rally around one another when in need. I see the times they choose to forgive instead of hold a grudge and the times they seek forgiveness instead of holding on to pride.
I am not only a better Priest because of them, I am a better Christian. They teach me what it means to strive to be faithful in being the person God knows I can be.
Dennis Carroll, photographer:
Inspiration comes from observing the world around me. No matter what the subject is: a landscape, a portrait, a scene on stage, I am primarily interested in the space and its relationship among the forms themselves and the interplay of light and shadow.
In Asbury Park, my inspiration is the beach, the ocean and the sky and the way they are broken up or framed by the historic buildings.
Nancy Ehrlich, Organic Style:
I get my inspiration from like-minded people and organizations who share my concerns for the environment and animals.
The people of Farm Sanctuary – a farm animal rescue and sanctuary – recently saved dozens of pigs that were drowning and stranded because of floods in the Midwest. People who do things like this inspire me. Each life is worth saving.
Locally, I get inspired from my wonderful customers and the stories they tell me about what they are doing are doing to help the environment.
Cheers to everyone whose inspiration and drive continues to move our community forward.
Briefly: How about being inspired to visit the beautiful country of Poland with a bunch of your friends from Asbury Park? The Asbury Park Historical Society, in conjunction with Seton Hall University is sponsoring a tour of Poland next year, May 13 to 23.
A fun group of Asbury Park residents – from every corner of the community – are already on board for the trip, which will include stays in the most beautiful, interesting, culturally full, architecturally opulent, spiritually dynamic, historically rich cities in Poland.
If you ever wanted to visit Poland, the organizers – one who has authored scholarly books about the country – have created a first-class travel package. Years ago, I went to Poland with my mom and it was an amazing trip that I will always remember.
The sun rises tomorrow (Friday, Nov. 14) on the town’s next destination restaurant – Marilyn Schlossbach’s Langosta Lounge, at the Boardwalk.
Marilyn – founder of the Labrador Lounge in Normandy Beach, New Jersey and Market in the Middle on Cookman Avenue – is dedicated to ensuring her new endeavor is a 21st Century business built on a foundation of morphing benevolence and commerce into its success criteria.
“If you make your living from the environment, you must give back and take care of the environment,” said Marilyn.
Community compassion is not an afterthought or cute public relations initiative with Marilyn and Langosta’s other owners, her husband Scott Szegeski and brother Richard Schlossbach.
“Local kids need to be inspired and aspire and I want to do what I can,” said Marilyn. “We will use what we have here, which includes a large commercial kitchen, to help kids see and try out new opportunities they might not otherwise be exposed to.”
Langosta Lounge will be a boardwalk anchor business serving original, seasonal cuisine and cocktails while offering diners a relaxed, escapism experience.
“We serve ‘vacation cuisine’ here,” said Marilyn. “Everything on the menu is influenced by Scott and my travels to places like Hawaii, Spain, Brazil and Thailand and the people we meet along the way.”
Fall 2008 menu items – priced primarily from $15 to $25 – include: tilapia with a coconut milk green curry sauce, paella in a “not so traditional cilantro broth,” short ribs braised in chestnuts and red wine and Marilyn’s famous lobster macaroni and cheese.
She is also bringing back the classic Pu Pu Platter as an appetizer with a “fun and kitschy assortment” of items such as coconut shrimp and chipotle turkey meatballs.
For dessert, the chocolate jalapeno banana cake is spectacular – and vegan.
Many of the menu items are vegetarian and organic.
The restaurant’s space is equally as compelling, featuring dynamic views of the ocean from many of its tables – some of which are made from reclaimed teak bleachers – and barstools.
This is the place to watch storms roll in. It’s an all-season meeting place at the beach.
Two of the nature-inspired art pieces in Langosta Lounge – “langosta” means “lobster” in Spanish, BTW – are the spectacular 25 foot reclaimed glass and wood “wave” providing a energetic backdrop for the bar and the colorful cement floor mural inspired by Marilyn’s trip to the Galapagos islands.
“I wanted this place to have a history and story from the beginning,” said Marilyn. “And to be groovy and suave.”
For the moment, Langosta Lounge is BYOB. The beautiful 35 foot bar will be serving, shortly, a recession-friendly priced, quality wine list.
A restaurant that makes the sunset as exciting as the sunrise in Asbury Park…fabulosa!
Briefly: Ocean Township High School’s West Park Players are back with Arthur Miller’s “A View from the Bridge,” directed by the wonderful Bob Angelini, Thursday Nov. 20 to Saturday Nov. 22. Call: 732.531.5650.
And, do you know someone local who selflessly is giving back to the community? Tell me.
Remember when you were a child and there was that “must-go-to” house in the neighborhood on Halloween – either because the decorations were amazing or the homeowners gave out great candy? For some of us, there was also the lure of getting a rare peek inside fabulously designed homes.
Since 2000, Jill Potter’s Sunset Avenue home has been the “it” house for this generation of Asbury Park trick-or-treaters. Each year, Jill and her friends – also chairperson of the Asbury Park Marketing Fund – go all-out to build the hugest, most fantastic and interactive Halloween experience.
“I do this for one reason – the kids in Asbury Park and their families,” said Jill. “I love Halloween and it’s my way of giving back to a town that has given me so much.”
This year’s theme was “killer klowns.”
“We met and planned and texted and emailed,” said Jill. “We worked for weeks on costumes, designs, props, scenes and lighting.”
As dusk turned into Halloween night last Friday, more than three-hundred trick-or-treaters lined up in front of the huge tent on Jill’s front lawn to attend the Killer Klown Carnival.
The kids entered the big top greeted by a concession clown selling “Bloody Mary’s,” “popcorn eyes” and “French fingers.”
Squealing through the maze of scary scenes, trick-or-treaters were spooked by a “really bad knife thrower looking for a new assistant,” then a room where they each donned 3-D glasses and gazed at a neon galaxy while dodging crazed Ninjas.
Next was the “march of the identicals” – a scene where the children walked in between two rows of four look-alike clowns never knowing which clown was going to lunge at them from the slithering fog, followed by the “crazed cotton candy maker” looking for “special” costumed-kid ingredients for the next batch of cotton candy.
Cautiously moving towards the finale – clutching friends or guardians – the children were handed their fortune in the form of a candy bar by Zoltar.
“It was really, really, really cool and scary,” said trick-or-treating Pillsbury Dough Girl, Katie Scullay, 11.
Jill Potter and her 27 volunteers – in addition to Asbury Park’s Citizens on Patrol – radiated excitement, over the excitement of their ghostly guests. It was just wonderful to see.
“I saw kids transformed from toughies to playful twelve or thirteen year-olds,” said Jill. “I get such a kick out of watching how much they really enjoy the Halloween experience we created.”
Another spirited Halloween in town.
Briefly: “Free to Be…You and Me” (Running Press) by Marlo Thomas and Friends – is commemorating its 35th Anniversary with an updated edition featuring new stories and a CD.
The New York Times bestseller – which encourages everyone to “move the world to a better place” - brilliantly celebrates diversity; dispels stereotypes and myths about gender and race; and challenges expectations that often inhibit people’s freedoms to be who they want to be.
And, huge hugs to Taka and company for a fantastic birthday celebration at his restaurant last Saturday night. That place is a consistent party pleaser – literally – with a great-looking crowd.
Would you shave the hair off your head for a donation of $10,000 to your favorite charity?
A few months ago I spent some time with nine well-coifed ladies in their late-20’s and asked them that scruples question.
After shrieks of horror worthy of the best Halloween movie, only two of the nine ladies said they would shave their heads for the monetary donation.
In a world of Paris, Britney and Lindsay magazine covers, I understood where the seven dissenters were coming from.
I forgot about my conversation with those ladies until I spoke with Melinda Maggio of Frank’s Deli.
While I ate the best egg salad sandwich around, she told me about her plans to snip off 13 inches of her gorgeous, thick, light brown hair for the non-profit Locks of Love – an organization that provides custom hair prosthetics to children suffering from long-term medical hair loss.
“I wanted to do this in honor of the fourth anniversary of my mom passing away from cancer,” said Melinda Maggio, 27. “It’s just a ponytail to me, but during my mom’s chemo I learned how important hair becomes when someone is without. I am happy to do this to help – my hair will grow back.”
Last Thursday, Melinda’s stylist cut off the 13 inch ponytail and donated it to Locks of Love, leaving Melinda with a Victoria Beckham-short hot bob.
“It was emotional for many reasons when my hair was cut,” said Melinda. “I love the way everything turned out though – both my new haircut and the benefit a child will get from my ponytail.”
She looks great and has the radiant glow of someone who has done something selfless.
“We truly appreciate what Melinda is doing for our organization and the children we serve,” said Lauren Kukkamaa, spokesperson for Locks of Love. “Any time a donor does this, we are so thankful.”
Because of people like Melinda, Locks of Love has provided more than two thousand hair prosthetics for children around the country since 1997.
“It takes between six and ten donors for each custom prosthetic,” said Karen.
Each prosthetic is created from an individual mold of the child’s scalp – ensuring every child can swim, play sports and live just like their friends.
“Anyone questioning whether they should cut so much of their hair off all at once and donate it should spend five minutes with someone who is loosing or has lost their hair,” said Melinda. “Their minds would change immediately and realize how lucky they are to have the hair to give.”
Melinda rocks – demonstrating that giving of one’s self really is the most gorgeous thing anyone can do.
Briefly: I looove Halloween. It’s one of my very favorite nights in our City – all energized and costumed. Handing out almost 15 pounds of candy, we look forward to knocks on the door from every adorable ghost, especially friends Charlie, Miriam and Alessandra and Katie. Can’t wait to see the costumes.
And, Madonna and Guy – if these two beautiful kids can’t make it, who can? I used to be insane for Madonna. Now, she’s just embarrassing. Ug.
Lastly, a few of you have been asking me how to find previous columns written about area businesses and other topics. Search “The B Plot” or “Virgilio” at TheCoaster.net for most of the past 20 months of this column.
I am seeing escapisim in your future…I am seeing a business…a fun business…in…in…no, on Cookman Avenue. The store is inviting you…it’s telling me to invite you to explore something new and original in our City this Halloween.
Paranormal Books and Curiosities is packed with so many things to see and do this Halloween, it’s sure to excite and ignite any weary spirit.
Whether you are interested in an evening of searching for ghosts, investigating spirit-infused location tours in Asbury Park, learning your future or buying an unusual book about Halloween, ghosts or the macabre – Paranormal Books can be your haunted home base.
“I created this space to be comfortable and homey,” said Kathy Kelly, the store’s owner. “People are welcome to sit by the fire and talk about their experiences.”
Kathy’s bookstore features the interesting and uncommon, including: Encyclopedia of New Jersey, True Crimes, Love Charms and, her best-seller, Ghosts.
Her current calendar of creepiness events is welcoming, too – compelling enough for passionate believers and light enough for anyone looking for an Asbury Park Halloween adventure.
The ninety-minute ghost and folklore tours of Asbury Park are a hot ticket. Last Saturday night, I saw Kathy leading a walking tour of at least 15.
“Many believe in the paranormal to some degree,” said Kathy. “Doctors, plumbers, rabbis – most people have a story about the paranormal. It’s about being able to ask the questions here and having fun.”
A Bradley Beach resident, Kathy launched this “space,” as she calls it, in June, after shifting gears from a career in sports content development for television.
“I wanted to delve more into the paranormal,” said Kathy. “This space represents years of research I wanted to share.”
While investigating, Kelly began collecting interesting items, which are on display in her space.
“One of my favorites is an original newspaper advertisement from 1693, announcing the Salem Witch Trial Report, by Harvard College,” said Kathy.
It’s all so fun you’ll get chills – and never scarier than last-call at any bar in town.
Briefly: How many demented drag versions of the Sarah Palin costume – think Sarah with a dinosaur, Sarah with a beauty queen sash and crown, Sarah with a map of Russia – are we going to see at the first annual Asbury Park Halloween Block Party on Mattison Avenue, Halloween night (Friday, Oct. 31), beginning at 6 p.m.?
“This will be the hottest Halloween block party in New Jersey,” said event host, Felipe Rose of the original Village People.
More than $5,000 in cash and prizes will be awarded to the greatest costumes in a variety of categories.
And, loosen your belt another notch – the Culinary Education Center of Monmouth County’s dining room is ready to wow you with another fantastic season of top tier four-course price-fix meals for around $22. The restaurant – an Asbury Park Best Kept Secret (see TheCoaster.net) – is open for dinner Monday through Thursday.
Weekdays, the dining room is open for lunch. The bakery is open too. Call for the schedule: 732.988.3299.
My heart beat a little faster for Martha Stewart recently when she announced, on her daytime talk show, that the WindMill hot dog was one of the “best in the country.”
Standing majestically in the costliest studio for daytime talk ever – an assortment of superior hot dogs meticulously arranged on her thick, perfectly veined, Carrera marble countertop – Martha named the WindMill one of her “fourteen favorite hot dogs” in the entire country.
“I can’t pick just one,” said Martha, with an elegant, giddy smile. “Out of all the hot dogs we tasted, these fourteen each are very special and very delicious.”
A relaxed and jovial Martha dedicated the entire one-hour show, peppered with surprisingly (for Martha) naughty double-entendre, to the hot dog.
“The hot dog is this country’s most famous food,” said Martha.
While Martha effusively described her love for the WindMill hot dog, topped with Gulden’s mustard and proprietary WindMill sauerkraut – a photo of the restaurant’s landmark wind mill-shaped Long Branch location flashing on the television screen – Steve Levine, chief operating officer and self-proclaimed “hot dog guy,” sat in the front row of the studio audience.
“It was very exciting to be part of the live broadcast of Martha’s show,” said Steve, son of WindMill’s co-founders. “I know that my parents, co-founders of the restaurant, were proud to see our hot dog on stage with Martha and her friends.”
The extensive search for the best-in-show dogs began weeks ago.
“We were invited in August by one of Martha’s producers to participate in the contest,” said Steve.
Some vendors dropped off hot dogs for Martha to sample, however Steve’s passion for quality impressed Martha. He was one of the chefs invited to prepare his hot dogs in Martha’s fully-stacked studio kitchen, for the broadcast.
“I told the producer that if I couldn’t be in charge of cooking the hot dogs, we couldn’t participate,” said Steve. “I set up a WindMill workstation in Martha’s kitchen.”
Martha’s new discovery is not news to many locals. Since 1964, the WindMill has been serving up the same classic, slow-cooked-on-a-griddle-until-they-crack dogs with fresh-daily rolls.
“I love these hot dogs,” said Maureen Hintelmann of Red Bank, who visits WindMill with her grandchildren every week. “And everyone is so pleasant.”
Today, there are 10 WindMill locations – including one on Main Street in Ocean Grove – that serve more than 12,000 hot dogs each week.
As the economy continues to crumble, I bet simple, classic, affordable comforts like the WindMill will become even more popular.
Briefly: The October issue of Martha’s magazine has a number of gorgeous craft ideas for Halloween. Simple one: arrange Vaseline glass together and shine a black light on it. She explains “there is a harmless amount of uranium in the glass – which gives it its green tint, and makes it fluoresce under black light.”
And, Gay Bowling is back – Saturday, Oct. 18. Barron of Bowling, Michael Delia is your host for another striking season at Asbury Lanes. Blackberry the full schedule now: Nov. 22, Dec. 20, Jan. 24, Feb. 28, Mar. 28, April 18, May 23, June 20. Gay card not required.
We all need a great laugh and some levity right now. Let’s laugh together this weekend at comedienne Maureen Langan’s performance at Cry Baby Gallery during the 7th Annual Women’s Arts Festival.
Named one of the “Ten Standout Stand-ups Worth Watching” by Backstage Magazine, Maureen is taking a break from opening for Joy Behar, stealing the show with her sharp news satire from MSNBC’s hottie Dan Abrams and touring – a regular at Caroline’s in New York City – to help us forget the country’s troubles and get happy.
The B Plot: Where did you come from and where have you been hiding?
Maureen: I haven’t been hiding. It’s just that to get national exposure these days – especially if you’re a gal from Jersey - it seems you have to have sex with a governor from New York.
TBP: Who is the most famous person in your cell phone?
Maureen: Joy Behar.
TBP: Love Joy. I hear Elizabeth Hasselbeck is not long for that seat next to her. Back to you – what’s the most important number in your cell phone?
Maureen: My local wine shop.
TBP: What’s the funniest word?
Maureen: I like some bad words that I can’t say here, but I say on-stage. “Godspeed” cracks me up, because I have no idea what it really means.
TBP: You were a host for years on Bloomberg Radio – positively the most entertaining part of that network. What did you learn about all those money people?
Maureen: You can’t buy soul.
TBP: Thoughts on the economy?
Maureen: As a comic, I’ve been living as if the stock market crashed for years.
TBP: Your satire of current events is brilliant. The Daily Show’s John Stewart has got to want you. Politics aside, who will make a more entertaining next four years, Obama or McCain?
Maureen: McCain and Palin would be funnier. I can make jokes about the darkest things – I’m just hoping I won’t have to.
TBP: Amen. Every time Sarah opens her mouth, it’s a joke. Want to make a shout out to your fans in Asbury Park?
Maureen: I love my Jersey people and places. So many people who live outside New Jersey have no idea how great it is. Too bad for them – I’ll keep you all to myself. I met my husband at the Jersey shore. To me, it’s an extra special Jersey place.
Oh, and I want to give a big shout out to my friends Nancy and Bill Graf, owners of the Bradley Beach Inn. They are amazing people.
TBP: John Stewart can you hear me? Godspeed Maureen.
Full schedule for Maureen and the Women’s Arts Festival at BlackBoxAP.org.
Briefly: Producer and actor, Marj Conn has a talent for choosing the historically interesting, intensely researching the subjects and bringing them to dynamic life on stage.
For two weekends, beginning Friday, Oct. 10, Marj’s Provincetown Fringe Festival presents “Women Behaving Badly and Madly” at the Stephen Crane House (very special venue if you have never been) – featuring monologues about Lizzie Borden and Aileen Wuornos or Eleanora Duse. You will be entertained and learn something – a great duet for both sides of your brain. Call: 732.807.4052.
When anyone talks about kind, smart, energetic, engaged, beautiful people in town, one person I think of immediately is Donna Forcier, owner of Uptown Tile and Stone Gallery.
Donna is a blonde bolt of seriously positive energy running around town and Uptown Tile is the area’s go-to store for the most fabulous tile and stone.
Looking at samples in the store makes me want to take a jackhammer to the renovation I did to my house four years ago and start over. Ug.
“We are like a bakery here,” said Donna. “We get fresh selections every week – from traditional to modern. Sometimes our inventory is more than half-off the prices of other stores.”
Donna has been serving up the best in the world of flooring, walling (is that a word?), backsplashes and whatever else can sit still long enough to slap a little Thinset on, for more than 20 years.
She began her business in 1986, with her husband, creating and developing the flooring upgrade programs developers such as K. Hovnanian, Toll Brothers and Kara Homes offered customers.
Thank you Donna for putting an end to horrifically generic four inch by four inch beige and white tile in new construction. Amen.
Nothing about Asbury Park is builder’s-grade. The properties here can’t be either.
As Asbury Park grew over the years, so did Donna’s retail business. In 2004, Donna, armed with a new personal vision, re-launched the store as Uptown Tile and Stone Gallery – creating a comfortable boutique environment, bathed in natural light, for homeowners to review flooring options in, while continuing to keep the construction-types happy too, with quick turnarounds on orders and innovative products.
“This is not work for me,” said Donna. “I love helping homeowners and pulling ideas together. The team here has more than fifty years combined experience so there is a huge satisfaction in guiding customers with their renovations.”
I never thought it was possible get excited about flooring until I walked around Donna’s store: basketweave carrera and onyx, pillow-edged porcelain subway tile, limestone that’s smoother than butter in any size or shape, spa-like tumbled river stone, sleek stainless steel, elegant glass and marble hybrid and whatever else your imagination or aesthetic demands. Recession-friendly pricing included.
“Trends in tile are mixing textures such as glass with natural stone, pebbles on shower floors and randomly mixing sizes of small tiles,” Donna continued.
Great, now where is that jackhammer?
Briefly: Congrats to the Gay Pride Business Network (see March 26 column at TheCoaster.net), celebrating its Third Anniversary on Tuesday, September 24. Join the party at Moonstruck – 6 pm.
And, Check out Lance and Debbie’s Wonder Bar (Wonder “Car” in the ads) in the background of the Dillard’s ads in September’s Vanity Fair and W Magazine. Very fun.
One more – see you at the Deal Lake Regatta benefit this Saturday evening. Boat parade and fundraisers begin at 5 pm.
When was the last time you had a night that you knew you would remember for a long time – and be happy about it?
If it’s been a while, a gift is waiting for you this Saturday at Asbury Lanes – the Yard Dogs.
“The Yard Dogs are a rounded and authentic traveling vaudeville show right out of the late 1800’s,” stated Jenn of Asbury Lanes. “They are one of the only real-deal troops with everything a show like this should be – dancing, singing, sword-swallowing, fire-eating, belly-dancing, poetry and magic.”
The group is returning to Asbury Lanes for the third year and each year Asbury Lanes sells out. Their show here is one of only three in the Northeast in 2008.
“It’s the best show I have seen in my life and that is saying a lot,” Jenn stated. “This is a one-of-a-kind experience. People email me months in advance to find out when Yard Dogs is returning.”
Out of everything I have seen people do with and to their bodies at Howard Stern and Maury Povich – and a lot of it made me want to spoon my eyeballs out afterwards – I have never witnessed a person swallow a sword or eat fire.
I hear after Tobias, the sword swallower, does his thing, he then swallows a Light Saber… and turns it on…and glows. OMG.
I am totally into this. I can’t wait for Saturday and I hope you join me.
“The demographic for this show is all over the board,” stated Jenn. “Everyone you can think of comes, including people you would never expect.”
The Yard Dogs have been stunning audiences since 2000, and spent the summer touring across the country in a bus.
“In an historical sense we are a family-run show,” stated Eddy Jo Cotton, founding member, Yard Dogs and author of “Hobo.” “We endeavor to operate a values-based business that sustains itself on democracy and creative collaboration. We are a naturally occurring phenomenon – an unsullied entertainment experience.”
Jenn and her team at Asbury Lanes work tirelessly to bring original entertainment to the area and help the City garner positive exposure.
“Everything we do at Asbury Lanes, we try to create an edge to it,” continued Jenn.
Kids, don’t try this at home.
Yard Dogs at Asbury Lanes, Saturday the 20th. 18 and older. Doors open at 8 pm, show at 10 pm. $20 advance / $25 door. AsburyLanes.com.
Briefly: On last Tuesday’s Oprah Show, did you hear Celine Dion tell Oprah that it was good to see her in Nice, France this summer and Celine was happy Oprah “has someone special” – followed by an abrupt edit and then commercial? There’s more to that story.
And tomorrow, Friday the 19th, is the fifth anniversary of what is known as “gay day” at Great Adventure. Officially called Out @ Night, and produced by Mark Nelson, the park is open exclusively to GLBTI and their friends and family. Last year more than 8,000 people attended. 6 pm start. $60 at the gate.
And so you know, Gary and Charlie Maffei were married in Los Angeles on Labor Day weekend. Cheers.
I saw a few of the “Save Deal Lake” signs floating in Deal Lake this summer. The irony was Debbie Downer worthy.
I am beyond thrilled with the dialogue that has begun regarding the lack of action being taken to address the sorry state of the lake, thanks to Dane Hall’s recent column in the other weekly newspaper.
“I wanted to throw some fireballs,” Dane told me recently. “Where is the outrage?”
Deal Lake is sad. And I love the lake. I would love for Truman to be able to swim in the lake. It could be the second most spectacular body of water in our area.
“I hear stories about when residents water-skied on the lake and gazed into it and saw painted turtles swimming,” stated Brian Mullins, interim president, Friends of Deal Lake. “With help from the community, the lake can get back to its original grandeur.”
The moment property values of homes on the lake are negatively impacted – which will be very shortly – because no one wants to live near the lake, we will see outrage. Action will be taken by the most lazy, passive and jaded. But we can’t let it get to that.
“Deal Lake is a color green you can’t even find in an expanded box of crayons, stated Dane. “If Deal Lake was a public park, and all the trees and grass were brown and dying, you can bet people would be pissed at the park’s commissioners.”
What’s especially egregious is the choice of inaction Asbury Park officials have taken.
“Asbury Park has not paid dues to the commission in two years despite having storm drains which flow directly into the lake,” stated Brian Mullins, interim president, Friends of Deal Lake. “Asbury Park is holding the lake hostage. They could move this along faster.”
Asbury Park politicos seem too busy alienating visitors with horrid parking meters.
“When I asked Terry why the City has not paid, he basically started questioning everything (the Commission) was doing,” Brian continued.
There is some – some – positive news. And it’s up to us to help.
“Senator Kean wants to appropriate $470,000 for Deal Lake,” stated Brian. “He needs the community’s support.”
And Saturday, September 27, Wanamassa residents, Mark Fleming and Eileen Chapman, are organizing a decorated watercraft competition and parade and benefit for everyone to attend, to help fund aerating fountains for Deal Lake.
“The fountains will help prevent weed growth,” stated Brian. “It’s great to see more people getting involved. We need more.”
Please email Mark Fleming for more info about the boat parade: DealLakeEvents@Yahoo.com. Reach out to Senator Kean to express your support of our lake. And become a friend: FriendsofDealLake.com.
If you don’t help, don’t complain. Lets make this happen.
Briefly: See you at the legendary Trinity Church Thrift Sale preview party this Friday evening. The ‘80’s themed event gives you first chance at everything. Collector Kevin Kelly tells me he and others are selling items previously featured at flootie-tootie stores on Cookman Avenue for “pennies on the dollar.” Party on: 7 pm to 9 pm. Public sale: Saturday, 8 am to noon.
And cheers to Billy and Patsy Resnick for another fantastic annual Labor Day event. The synchronized swimming performance by the Dishettes was fantastic.
“Bill and Patsy open their home and their hearts to so many,” stated Dishette, Gary Kilmer. “To make them feel appreciated, the Dishettes’ performance is worth every hot-glued rhinestone.”
Part 2 (Part 1 at TheCoaster.net) of my conversation with fabulous petiquette – pet etiquette – expert and Febreeze Pet Products spokesperson, Charlotte Reed, we discussed love and other loving issues.
The B Plot: What’s the protocol for someone looking for love on the Asbury Park dog beach?
Charlotte: Even if the guy or girl is cute, you want to make sure the pet is friendly. You can usually tell a friendly dog the same way as a person. Look for a dog’s tail to be wagging side to side. If the tail is straight up and moving like a metronome, the dog is scared or angry.
Take off your hat and sunglasses because dogs can’t see your face and they cant get a sense of the person. And hang up your cell phone.
Don’t be a doggie stereotyper. Judge every dog individually.
TBP: Great, so your advice worked, bubbly red hearts are popping above both people’s heads and now the couple wants to spend their first full weekend together. What’s a couple to do with their dogs?
Charlotte: Before the dogs even meet the couple should make sure their rules and expectations are in synch. If there is no sleeping on the couch for one dog, it has to be for both dogs that weekend.
Have the dogs meet on “neutral” ground outside the house prior to playing inside. When inside, make sure puppy gates are on-hand.
TBP: What do they do if one dog learned some bad tricks and can’t stop loving the pillow on the floor, while the couple is loving on the couch?
Charlotte: Take the pillow away and give the dog a chew toy. Always make sure there are lots of toys available to avoid that situation.
TBP: And the new “future ex” loves people who love the environment. How does the other person make her pet carbon neutral?
Charlotte: There are many options to green up a pet’s life. Put a filter on the faucet or fridge instead of giving the pet bottles of water that take centuries to decompose. Use ‘green’ collars and leashes. Also, some pet beds are made with fabric that resists dirt and smells – cutting down on water and energy usage. Always use recycled bags for waste.
TBP: Thanks Charlotte. Loving your book, Miss Fido Manners. Can’t wait to get your thoughts on petiquette for the holidays in November.
Briefly: Asbury Park resident, Jack Bradshaw, holds one of the keys to your pet’s long-term health with a new line of human-grade dog and cat food.
“Sierra Natural is made with the highest quality ingredients – including vitamins and trace minerals – to create a food that maximizes the health and well-being of your pet,” stated Jack.
This is the only food – and I have tried at least four “premium” brands in the past year – that has controlled Truman’s digestive issues.
“Our industry-unique home delivery program provides exclusive food freshness, for about ten percent less than the most comparable food at a pet store,” Jack continued.
Dog-grade dog food is not good enough for your baby. Call Jack for samples: 201.248.7742.
Cheers to the fab Asbury Bark doggy fashions debuted recently at Wonder Bar’s benefit for the Monmouth County SPCA.
Now, what about some petiquette – pet etiquette – to go along with your pooch’s Cookman Avenue wardrobe?
I spoke with the foremost petiquette expert, Charlotte Reed, author of Miss Fido Manners, spokesperson for Febreeze Pet Odor Eliminator products and friend of Asbury Park about doggy protocol that would do any Rockefeller proud.
The B Plot: Lots of Labor Day barbeques planned this weekend. When is it okay to bring your dog?
Charlotte: When the host invites your pet, specifically. A guest should always wait to have their pet invited. Hosts should be politely proactive in saying the barbecue is pet-friendly or not.
TBP: Once you get to the party, what do you do if your hosts are oblivious to how ill-behaved their own dogs are?
Charlotte: Hosts should always be aware of their pet’s behavior. If the dogs are not playing nice with others, the dogs should be gated off in a comfortable room until the party is over. Just like at the doggie park – if the dog doesn’t behave, he has to leave. If the hosts are not doing anything to help the situation, take your dog and leave or politely say something to the host about his dog’s behavior.
Pet etiquette is two things: taking a dog’s training and combining those skills with the owner’s consideration and respect for others. Petiquette is about being a respectful human being.
TBP: Your book has a ton more detail. How do you introduce a new dog to everyone at the dog beach?
Charlotte: First meet and greets are very important. The new dog should be sitting on a leash when he is introduced, with his owner kneeling down beside the dog. Other dog owners should not let their pet come looming in. And no jumping – pets and their owners.
TBP: How do you tell your friend his dog stinks – as in smells?
Charlotte: On the next occasion – barbeque, birthday – give dog shampoo along with a pet toy as a gift. Hopefully he will get the message. Some breeds are more prone to odor, such as Bassets – who have very oily skin.
A guest should never be able to smell a dog before seeing it.
TBP: That’s where the Febreeze comes in.
Next week, Charlotte tackles breed bias, dogs and dating and how to make your pet carbon neutral.
Briefly: Save the date to Save Deal Lake: Saturday, September 27. A great afternoon and evening of fun – boat parades, parties and more – is being planned by a passionate grass-roots team of Wanamassa, Asbury Park and Interlaken residents, spearheaded by Mark Fleming and Eileen Chapman. Everyone from everywhere is invited to decorate watercraft and join in the boat parade. Prizes will be awarded. Plan to attend one or more of the benefit events to cheer on the bedazzled floatillas.
Monies raised will be specifically allocated for a special project with Friends of Deal Lake. Lakefront residents are encouraged to reach out for more party details. Everyone: for more info, to pre-register a boat or benefit event or volunteer – DealLakeEvents@Yahoo.com or 732.361.3823.
Go Team USA. Every four years I am blown away by the strength, elegance, stamina, dedication and spirit of our Olympians. I am fascinated by the excellence and perfection these boys and girls – from 16 to 48 years old, or whatever, can achieve with their bodies and minds, as a team and individually.
The record-obliterating Michael Phelps (and his bathing suit) definitely is a stand-out to everyone. I hear he devours 12,000 calories every day to ensure top performances. I also hear Italian food is his favorite – literally eating at least four pounds of pasta daily.
No doubt he would be thrilled with the Italian specialties available at gift-from-the-taste-bud-gods, Market Danieli on Main Street.
Market Danieli has quick become the deli and Italian specialty market of choice for anyone craving original, casual, uber-fresh Italian food.
“I wanted to create a unique shop that combines homemade Italian delicacies with a welcoming city flair,” stated Frank Danieli, owner. “This store reflects who I am as a person and my love for our City by the Sea.”
Prior to moving to Asbury Park, Frank launched and operated a hugely successful restaurant, Danieli’s, in Montclair, New Jersey.
Today, Frank works ninety hours each week to serve amazing meals that our Olympic team would be ecstatic to devour.
Since hottie Michael Phelps was busy setting records, I spoke with some of Market Danieli’s more local fans.
On specialty sandwiches:
“Fantastic, fresh bread and good meats,” stated Ken Tyburski of Asbury Park. “Bread always makes the difference in a great sandwich.”
On pasta salad:
“The Venitian Salad is fresh and flavorful without being overpowering or oozing mayonnaise,” stated Dan Tanzilli of New York City. “The only thing wrong is that there is not more of it.”
On potato salad:
“It’s just so good,” Francoise Rothert of Asbury Park. “We come back all the time.”
On rice balls:
“Take these rice balls to the beach and Danieli is like Palermo on the Jersey Shore,” continued Ken.
Prepared food specialties Frank tells me he can’t keep “in the house” – even for catering – include his rice balls – an outrageous blend of beef, peas Pecorino cheese and rice; Artichoke Oreganato; fried eggplant – with special Italian seasoning; chicken cutlets – made from scratch using the secret Danieli recipe; daily pasta specials and chocolate covered Cannolis – filled to order.
In addition to the home made meals at Danieli, the market is the exclusive distributor of two refreshing beverages: Manhattan Special Espresso Soda – a great carbonated espresso served chilled and Pelligrino’s Aranciata – orange juice and carbonated spring water.
Market Danieli is your hungry stomach solution worthy of a Great Wall of gold medals.
Briefly: Cheers to Gloss salon, on Lake Avenue, on its recent expansion – now offering a full-service nail salon including luxe mani’s and pedi’s for guys.
In New York City the GLBTI Community Services Center has been a hugely important resource and cultural hub for more than 25 years.
Today, thanks to the efforts of many dedicated locals, the greater Asbury Park area has its own GLBTI community center – the Jersey Shore Q Spot, which, in years to come, will prove as invaluable to people here, as the Center is in New York.
“We are here to support, provide programs and social activities for, youth, seniors and everyone in between in Monmouth and Ocean Counties,” stated Mary Ann Buchanan, chairperson of Q Spot. “A virtual network is great, but being regularly shoulder to shoulder with people who support one another is still important.”
The Q Spot, run by volunteers and donations, is comprised of four main initiatives: youth, senior, health and family.
“We developed four initiatives after reviewing the results of a needs assessment survey, which resulted in more than four-hundred responses from GLBTI in two counties,” Mary Ann stated.
In addition to the confidential, casual group socials held every Monday evening at the Visiting Nurse Association building on Main Street in Asbury Park, the Q Spot organizes “Quesdays” – informative educational seminars held the first Tuesday evening of every month.
“Our weekly Monday socials are a friendly place for adults to meet and hang out,” Mary Ann stated. “Quesday seminars are geared towards issues that impact the GLBTI community’s lives every day, like finance, health and relationships.”
I attended the Monday meeting recently and met a kind, welcoming group of people – most strangers to one another. By the end of the evening, everyone was exchanging phone numbers.
“Beyond our regular meetings and Quesdays, the most exciting initiative we have right now is a support group for the youth in our area – from Red Bank to Long Branch to Toms River,” Mary Ann continued.
My Q Space – brilliantly named by the 13 to 19 year old members of the group – offers a safe environment where GLBTI youth, including those questioning their sexual orientation, can meet to engage in peer support activities.
“As adults, it’s our responsibility to provide youth with a place to start,” stated Mary Ann. “Q Spot is the only group of its kind for teens in the area.”
Last week, My Q Space members played miniature golf on the Boardwalk. Seeing the spirit in each teen’s eyes was inspiring.
A similar type of group in Northern New Jersey proved immensely helpful to me in understanding that I was not alone in my gayness, when I was way younger. It takes a village.
The Q Spot also offers programs such as a book club – the Book Q LUB – at the Point Pleasant Library and a Family Initiative at Father David Stout’s Trinity Church.
Go Q Spot.
For meeting calendar, or to donate to the youth initiative: JSQSpot.com.
Briefly: Forget man-scaping, Hair is back! No grooming needed for ReVision Theatre’s production of the rock musical Hair at the Carousel House on the Boardwalk. The show premiers tomorrow and runs through Labor Day weekend. Cheers to producers David, Thomas and Stephen. Limited seating. ReVisionTheatre.org for tickets.
I met Dr. Geena Buono four years ago, through my realtors Carl and Bill, while I was looking for a home here. I was drawn to her the second all six-feet-something-with-heels of her walked into the room.
I told her if she let me manage her “transition” story with the media (Dateline NBC for the video diary, Howard Stern for her band Dragster and Maury for the family angle), I could pay for the renovation of my house and she could get the Rolls Royce of all new “equipment.” She wisely decided to stick with being a chiropractor.
It worked out because today, she is the newest member of Work Out World’s chiropractic office in Ocean. Go Work Out World. Go Dr. Geena.
In celebration of her new position – in life and career, I spoke with her and found a more focused and strong, Dr. Geena.
The B Plot: A lot of people know you as a singer or musician or killer volleyball player, how long have you been a chiropractor?
Dr. Geena: Eighteen years. I have been in Asbury Park since 2002.
TBP: For those of us who don’t know, what is the benefit of going to a chiropractor?
Dr. Geena: Everyone’s body is totally dependent on the brain and spinal cord’s ability to conduct and coordinate every bodily function. When your spinal bone is misaligned it puts pressure on a nerve and interferes with the nerves function. This eventually interferes with bodily functions.
TBP: What do you say to people who are unsure about chiropractic medicine?
Dr. Geena: Today, most people understand that chiropractic is not faith-based or a placebo. If applied correctly, chiropractic works every time – whether a person believes or not.
TBP: What about people who think that once they begin with a chiropractor, there is no end.
Dr. Geena: That’s totally a myth. Last month, a young woman came to me with severe back pain. After her adjustment, she reported to me that she no longer needed her asthma inhaler. I wasn’t treating her for asthma, however, as in other cases I have seen, the body restores itself back to health in many ways following a spine adjustment.
TBP: Wow. That’s so wonderful. When did you join the Work Out World team?
Dr. Geena: Thanks to Drs. Arthur Levine and Phillip Grivas, I started in June. I maintain office hours in Ocean on Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Saturday. You don’t have to be a member of the gym to come to the chiropractic office. Ask for me when you walk in or call me anytime at 732-618-1191.
TBP: You told me you are “happier and more settled than ever.” What should we know about Dr. Geena?
Dr. Geena: The most important job I have is being the parent to three wonderful and talented kids – ages 17, 12 and 10.
My unique perspective on life has become a gift that helps me connect with all kinds of people and help in many ways, most specifically in my practice. I am a spirit having a human experience but still connected to every form of life in the entire universe. No different than anyone else.
TBP: Cheers lady. I am so excited for you.
Briefly: Interesting observation from receiving press releases from both the Obama and McCain campaigns – McCain’s people send out, on average five press releases (even if the release is two paragraphs) to Obama’s one release. Also, press releases from McCain are way more pointed and aggressive.
One night only…one night only…comedienne Judy Gold – tonight.
This Judy event is produced by Bob Egan Entertainment. Bob is the kind, dynamic and ultra-talented pianist – and Asbury Park resident – you love to sing with at Moonstruck every month or so. He is expanding his entertainment empire to our city.
Bob hooked me up with Judy to talk about the summer and get a little more insight into what makes Judy, golden.
TBP: What are you reading this summer?
Judy: My audiences.
The B Plot: And we love every second of it. When a lesbian mother BBQ’s does she prefer gas or charcoal?
Judy: Gas – less work and not as dirty.
TBP: What’s new in your iPod?
Judy: My Bose “in the ear” headset.
TBP: As the host of HBO’s “At the Multiplex with Judy Gold,” what is your all-time favorite summer film?
Judy: Jaws.
TBP: America’s Got Talent or American Idol?
Judy: Anderson Cooper 360
TBP: I love me my Anderson and I hear he loves our City. For a lot of us here, our pets are our children. Do you have any pets?
Judy: A psychotic cat Nathan.
TBP: More and more gays with beautiful children are popping up on our beaches and in town. Any tips for keeping ankle-biters happy and occupied at the beach?
Judy: Benadryl and a nanny.
TBP: Asbury Park is famous for its summertime backyard evening cocktail parties. What should we have on hand when you stop by?
Judy: Frozen Pina Coladas.
TBP: I’ll stock up on the rum and coconuts. We love you huge here in Asbury Park. Want to make a shout out?
Judy: My family settled in Perth Amboy in the late 1800’s and spent lots of time in Asbury Park through the mid – 1900’s. I have a soft spot for Asbury that’s even softer now that it’s gay, gay, gay.
TBP: McCain or Obama?
Judy: You can’t be serious.
TBP: Just checking. So, what about some gossip on fellow fabulous comediennes Kathy Griffin or Sarah Silverman?
Judy: Isn’t this interview about me?
Yes, and we can’t wait to see you work your magic tonight before the beach fireworks. Thank you always, Ms. Judy Gold. Come back soon.
Judy Gold at the Supper Club, Boardwalk at Fifth Avenue, tonight, 8.30 pm. Reservations suggested: 732.774.1400.
Briefly: Cheers to one of the most fabulous, fun and funny people in town – David Napp – for opening his fierce furniture and home accessory store, Motif, in the Grande Arcade. Formerly on Cookman Avenue, Motif has mega style at recession-friendly prices. Stop in and talk with him about design, celebutards or racecars – he is a star-tatooed talent speeding around our City.
I heard somewhere that it takes three days for fat cells to expand from calories. If you time it right, you can enjoy these obsession inspiring, one-of-a-kind, party-in-your-mouth summertime comfort foods and still keep your swagger around the beach. They are worth every extra minute on a Newberry Fitness treadmill.
Bread Pudding
All I can say is “OMG.” The Bread Pudding at Clementine’s in Avon (owned by Michael and Bobby, 35-year Asbury Park residents) is a-maz-ing. I am not the hugest fan of bread pudding; however Chef Bobby’s Grandmother’s hush-hush recipe definitely takes me to the other side.
The bread pudding, smothered in a beyond delicious rum, pecan and raisin sauce, looks marvelous too – it’s served warm on Bobby’s Grandmother’s depression-era amber glass plates and topped with the perfect amount of fresh whipped cream.
Sorbet
If you are into experimentation – and who isn’t – try the Yuzu sorbet at Taka.
“Yuzu is an East Asian citrus fruit believed to be a hybrid of sour mandarin and Ichang Padeda – a refreshing lemony taste,” stated Taka, owner. “Ciao Bella, one of Oprah’s favorites, makes this sorbet for us exclusively. It’s ours alone. Customers tell me the sorbet is like nothing they have ever had before.”
Milkshake
You will thank me after you try a milkshake from Wish You Were Here on Cookman Avenue. My friend Johnnie turned me on to these mmmmshakes. Kathy Ragauckas, owner, crafts this treat – a nightmare for the stomach stapled – with gelato not ice cream.
“I have been making the shakes for almost three years from a secret recipe,” Kathy stated. “We make every one on request.”
Coconut Cake
Jeffrey Haveson, owner, Restaurant Plan B, makes a wonderful not-too-sweet Coconut Cake with his own hands.
At first glance it resembles a summer snowball. At first bite, it’s a moist, rich, personal size coconut cake wrapped in the perfect amount of a proprietary cream cheese-buttercream icing, adorned with coconut flakes. The combination of textures – hot.
“It’s a special seasonal dessert that we created to celebrate the summer,” Jeffrey stated.
Crème Brulee
Take a one-hour vacation and sit on the porch at Moonstruck savoring the Chocolate Crème Brulee.
“The Crème Brulee from Moonstruck is fantastic,” stated Janet Manni, James J. Pentz Realtors. “There is melted chocolate on the bottom and vanilla on top with perfect caramelized sugar. It makes you moan as you eat it.”
As my dear Britney says, “Gimme more, gimme more, gimme more more more.”
Briefly: Cheers to everyone involved in Road Trip 7 last weekend. I was and always has been my favorite weekend of the summer in my favorite City. “Attendance for Road Trip 7 was record-setting,” stated Jill Potter, chairperson, Asbury Park Marketing Fund, the organizer of Road Trip. “More than 3,000 enjoyed our city and all it had to offer.”
Last week Jill Potter gave us a first and exclusive preview of the complete itinerary for Road Trip 7 (check it at TheCoaster.net), which begins tomorrow evening.
Today, exclusive Number 2 – the details about Sand Blast “Asbury Park’s dance party on the beach.”
Produced by Brad Hurtado – who, with David Norris has organized Friday night’s amazing Kick-off Party for the past seven years – Sand Blast is promised to deliver like anything you’ve seen in Miami or Fire Island. If you are into circuit-type parties, Sand Blast is calling you.
The B Plot: You have created a buzz around Sand Blast. What’s the deal?
Brad: This Saturday from noon to six, the Fifth Avenue Beach and the Beach Bar will be its own world. I am making this a sexy, sweaty, fun, one-day dance event that you will talk about for the rest of the summer. It will be like nothing Asbury Park has ever seen before – six hours of spectacular fun and sun on the Fifth Avenue Beach.
TBP: Wow. You are expecting at least 500 guests. What can they expect?
Brad: Something very special. Sand Blast is a new way to celebrate the summer, Asbury Park, pride and friendships.
Eddy Trotter, creator of some of the sexiest lounges in New York City is designing an environment around the ocean waves.
There will be an unbelievable fifty by seventy-foot “laughing” orange and “cheerful” yellow dance floor planted right on the beach, reined over by hot New York DJ Eddie Baez and sexy go-go boys and girls. Guests will have an exclusive party at the Beach Bar and a refreshment tent from Whole Foods. There will also be an unbelievable special performance above, yes, above, the dance floor.
TBP: During Fourth of July weekend – a beyond super spectacular weekend here – I heard many are planning on coming from far and wide.
Brad: We are expecting first-time visitors to Asbury from Philadelphia, New York, D.C. and beyond, in part, because of our promotional partners – the top circuit party organizers, including the Winter Party and the Black & Blue Ball.
TBP: And it won’t only be a blast, it will help our community.
Brad: When guests purchase tickets ($45) through our website and use the promo code “Center,” ten dollars of every ticket will be proudly donated to The Center in Asbury Park. And, guests under twenty-five years old pay their age at the entrance.
TBP: Something new and original, set to fabulous music on the beach? Loving it. Don’t forget to play my Rihanna, Brad. Thanks for your hours of hard work to make this happen.
More info at SandBlastonline.com.
Briefly: Take a moment and take your friends this weekend to say “hey” to Leona at the boardwalk’s mini-golf hut. I had the best time there last weekend. Red is the lucky golf ball.
And, okay, so after all your dancing around town this weekend you’ll need something to ensure you look bright and sparkly at work on Monday. I found the serious secret: Smooth & Go from 24.7 Skincare at CVS. It seriously eliminates dark circles instantly. Boys – it’s not make-up, it’s a mineral-based lotion, with some voo-doo magic, I think. Party on.
As you enjoy our great area businesses with your family and friends this summer, here’s Chapter 2 (the first, published last Fall, see TheCoaster.net) in the story of how some businesses got their names.
Laila’sLatin Infused Cuisine
“I was working for a big corporation when I learned my daughter was pregnant,” sated Wanda Lamboy, co-owner with her partner Diane Contreras. “At that time, I wanted two things: to be able to have lots of time with my grand daughter and own a restaurant. I quit my job and in May, 2007 we bought the restaurant and my granddaughter Laila, was born. We named the restaurant after my beautiful grand daughter who was the inspiration for me to follow my dream and leave the corporate world.”
Clementine’s in Avon
“Bobby and I wanted a name for our restaurant that had a southern feel, since his cooking is a mixture of Creole, New Orleans and southern,” stated Michael Rathsmith, co-owner and 35 year resident of Asbury Park. “The original name, ‘Clementine’s Café and Collectables’ sounded great and it summed up the restaurant and the vintage items we sell in the restaurant, too. Now, we love, the shorter, ‘Clementine’s’.”
I love elegant southern food and Bobby and Michael do it in an amazing, uber-special way. Fried oysters, Cajun Ribeye, and Bobby’s grandmother’s secret recipe for bread pudding are some of the most popular dishes. I seriously love everything they serve.
D&L Bar-B-Que
“Our passion for food is very personal,” stated Lisa Devon, co-owner, with Devon McLean. “To demonstrate how personal our business is to us, we used the initials of our first names for the name of our restaurant. We stand behind using the freshest ingredients and offering great service. Our name represents our dedication to our customers.”
The only way to describe the ribs at D&L is “insanely outrageously good.” They celebrate their first anniversary serving amazing ribs next month.
Munch
“I wanted a name that was fun, playful, memorable, just like the food I serve,” stated Ken Le. “I also wanted it to be visual. I went through at least 50 names before choosing ‘Munch’.”
Synaxis at the Shore
“The name had to capture my vision of what I wanted the restaurant and bar to be,” stated Savas Tsivicos, owner. “I wanted it to be a destination at the shore – an additional reason to come to Asbury Park. A place where friends could come together. I was in church one day and there was a celebration of the Synaxis of the Apostles. Synaxis comes from the Greek word ‘synago,’ meaning ‘gathering, assembly or big reunion.’ When I saw the joyous celebration at my church, at that moment, I realized Synaxis was the right name.”
Stellar names, stellar businesses.
Briefly: The reviews are in for ReVision Theatre’s production of Hello, Dolly! “A great New York theatre experience in our backyard” – Billy Mecca. The raving buzz went on and on and on. Cheers to David, Thomas, Stephen, Richard and the entire ReVision team. We want more.
Prediction – Rihanna’s new single, Disturbia, will become the Anthem of Summer 2008. The lyrics were made for our City: “Throw on your break lights…we are in a city of wonder.” Can’t wait to see you dance to Shep’s remix at Paradise.
Between contractors not finishing on time, the economy, property values, the redevelopment of the boardwalk, the election and other more personal tribulations, many of us are crazed and rarely take enough time to breathe, relax and enjoy the fabulousness of our town and friends.
Inhale stress, exhale love, as my friend Lory Torgerson says.
I recently discovered a great new way in town to take a moment and relax.
Every Saturday morning, area resident Arthur Fama facilitates an extraordinary meditation program for a diverse group of men and women on the best beach around.
“We work together on calming the mind in both seated position and through walking meditation and explore together ways to bring this practice into everyday life,” stated Arthur, who has been studying meditation for years. “By observing the mind in meditation, we come to know our true selves – what pushes our buttons, how we habitually react and what we can do to learn to be with our feelings and to just let things pass rather than getting all knotted up.”
The “knotted boys and girls around here” list I started was longer than Mr. Big from Sex in the City. See you guys on Saturday.
“Although I draw from Eastern traditions in my approach with the Group, I make sure the practice is accessible to everyone – regardless of religious, philosophical or spiritual background,” continued Arthur.
My mom, a regular morning walker of the “boards,” always says that early after sunrise is the most beautiful time of day at the beach.
“No prior meditation experience is necessary,” stated Arthur. “Everyone is welcome to come with simply good intentions and an open heart. If you try it and find that it’s just not for you, no problem.”
What an amazing new way to enjoy our beach thanks to another turbo-talented local.
Meditation with Arthur Fama: Every sunny Saturday at 8.30 am (arrive early), Asbury Park beach, between Sunset Avenue and Sixth Avenue. Rainy Saturdays at Trinity Church. Bring a large towel to sit on. More info: arthurfama@yahoo.com.
Briefly: Show off your tan at Gay Bowling this Saturday, 7 pm, in Asbury Lanes, Fourth Avenue. Gay card not required. Hosted by Barron of Bowling, Michael Delia. The next Gay Bowling is in September.
Also, huge kudos to Brett Colby, chairperson of ArtsCAP, for the amazing work he and his team did on the Tri-City Arts Tour. The streets being filled with visitors, in spite of the 95 degree-in-the-evening temperature, was a testament to his dedication to the promotion of the arts in our community.
And, check out PBS’s fascinating “Anyone and Everyone.” It’s a documentary about how parents from every imaginable background – rich, poor, black, white, cowboy, Mormon, Jew, Catholic, and Hindu – managed when they learned their child was gay. “I wanted to document a variety of stories to create understanding and compassion,” stated Filmmaker Susan Polis Schultz.
Everyone in Asbury Park resembles a character from Sex in the City. For Sex in Our City, which character are you? I think I channel Miranda most often.
Some friends believe I most resemble the character Charlotte. This, partially because Truman is the baby I adopted from Asbury Park Animal Control. Kind of similar, I guess, to when Charlotte adopted a child from China.
This Father’s Day, Truman celebrates his second year as my adopted baby. He is definitely a Virgilio family member – making me crazy and love him concurrently.
I received the results of my baby’s Wisdom Panel doggy DNA test. The eight-pages of customized results were surprising and the information that accompanied the results was cooler than I ever imagined.
A few weeks ago I told you Truman and I went to the Oakhurst Veterinary Hospital and visited with Asbury Park resident Dr. Danielle Rawlins D.V.M. Dr. Danielle graciously and patiently explained the test, its implications and extracted a teeny vial of blood from him.
Two weeks later I received the results.
The most surprising revelation was that Truman has zero of the Boxer breed in him. You and I – judging from the emails you sent me – really would have put money on the fact that he was partially Boxer.
Truman is comprised of five different breeds of dogs, demonstrating – when I think about it – noticeable traits from all of them: Irish Terrier, Border Terrier, Mastiff, Bulldog, Bullmastiff and Staffordshire Terrier.
There’s tons more amazing detail in the “results package” however I refuse to become one of “those people” who drone on about how perfectly, dynamically genetically interesting their baby or grandchild is.
The results of this, the most extensive canine DNA test around (detecting 134 AKC recognized breeds), will prove invaluable for the long and short term – immediately to explain some of his personality and more; for years to come, to help determine potential health risks and how to avoid these risks, as Truman ages.
The info empowers his veterinarian and I – actually saving me money by eliminating the need for some potential future health screenings.
Doesn’t it just blow your mind that there is a DNA test for dogs? I know Carrie Bradshaw would be impressed.
Wisdom Panel DNA test: $124.95 (online) plus vet fees, which should simply be for a standard exam. More info at: WisdomPanel.com.
Briefly: See you this Saturday, 8 pm, at ReVision Theatre’s debut one-night performance of Richard Skipper as Carol Channing in Hello, Dolly!, at the Paramount Theatre.
Also, I am loving David Sedaris’ just-launched tome “When You Are Engulfed in Flames.” David is totally one of my favorite writers. Great gift for Dad – it’s what my dad is getting. Great beach read, too.
Take a “staycation” this year and stay at home during your summer vacation. Enjoy our beach and all the town has to offer. Asbury Park’s beach was voted the sixth top beach in New Jersey, in a new poll of beachgoers conducted by the Marine Sciences Consortium.
For those behind the eight-ball, here are some instant gratification ways to get on the Fifth Avenue beach fashionably and happily:
Suiting Up
Bob Reuter, owner of Etc. on Cookman Avenue offers tips to help you find a bathing suit that hides your muffin top and gets you attention like paparazzi to a Britney Spears Starbucks run:
1. Don’t be afraid to look in the mirror and realize what is hot on you.
2. Wear a bathing suit that makes you smile inside and others smile outside.
3. Take a risk. And wear it confidently.
Check out Bob’s great selection of bathing suits from Frivole, Priape Wear and Ruf Skin, along with a fab assortment of beach bags, housewares, underwear and more.
Beach Body
Speaking of bathing suits, I have a buddy in town that was dreading – as many of us were – getting into a bathing suit this summer.
He did the Jenny Craig program and was so pleased and happy with the results, I had to tell you about it. It was inspiring and exciting to see him energized.
Every diet he tried in the past he hated or did not work effectively for his life. Jenny worked for him.
I was impressed with how great the food was. I sampled some of the meals and they were not the least bit like eating chemicals or a block of salt. The meals and snacks were so good, I would buy it just for the appropriate portions and convenience.
What’s even better is that Jenny has a section of her website dedicated to her gays – the “Rainbow Support Group.” A ton of members live in our area.
Jenny may be right for you, too.
Protection
Being as red as a Sunday morning Bloody Mary is not sexy. Clinique has a great variety of quality suncreens and post-sun skincare products – that won’t irritate your skin. My skin is ultra-sensitive and Clinique always does me proud.
Cocktail:
The new, fun summertime cocktail is the Asbury Fluffer – Ginger Ale with Peach Schnapps. Garnish with a peach slice.
Briefly: Last weekend you observed the mating rituals of the gays at the GLBTI Pride Festival, this Saturday evening check out the mating rituals of the Horseshoe Crabs. A Wanamassa resident, who heads the Marine Sciences Consortium, coordinates this annual event (the first full moon in June) in Sandy Hook, which details the unique connection horseshoe crabs have to the moon. It’s genuinely great fun for adults and kids, like the best of the National Geographic Network – live and a testament to the spectacular wonders of Mother Nature. Happiness is a Horseshoe Crab: children’s crafts, brief lecture and twilight walk begin at 6.30 pm. Dress warmly. Call: 732.872.1300 ext. 22, NJMSC.org.
The 17th annual GLBTI Pride Celebration will happen in full rainbow Technicolor this weekend, with festivities all over town culminating with Sunday’s parade and festival. Here’s the scoop:
For the early birds the first annual Ride with Pride cycling event begins at Convention Hall, Saturday morning. Fifty cyclists will ride 14 miles to and from Asbury Park to Pier Village and back. Breakfast will be served in front of Brielle Cyclery (near Convention Hall), upon return. The ride takes place rain or shine.
Ride with Pride: pre-register online or day-of at 7.30 am. Ride begins at 8 am. $10 per rider.
Saturday afternoon’s main event is the Foreplay Block Party. Billed as a “block party for the leather and bear communities and their friends,” the afternoon will feature outdoor events, food, drinks, vendors, games, prizes and surprises.
The people-watching here – priceless.
Foreplay Block Party: 1 pm to 7 pm Saturday. Second Avenue at Kingsley Street.
The Pride Prom, organized by the Jersey Shore Qspot, Saturday evening is a “GLBTI night of glamour and glitz,” stated Maryann Buchanan, chairperson, Jersey Shore Qspot, a non-profit organization offering health, senior, family and youth programs and services to the local GLBTI neighborhood. “Everyone in the community is invited to come with friends, partners or by ones’ self. Singles, couples – all are welcome.”
And you don’t need to rent a tuxedo or buy a fabulous gown.
“Guests are not required to wear formal attire,” continued Maryann. “Our idea is that you just dress to impress. However you interpret that is how you should select your attire for the evening.”
Pride Prom: 8 pm to midnight Saturday at the Bradley Beach Firehouse Banquet Hall. Call 732.688.2032; register online JSQspot.org or buy tickets at the door. Advance registration suggested. This sounds like a great time and, by speaking with Maryann, I know her team is working hard to make this a great event.
Sunday is the big day, beginning with the Pride Parade at noon. The short parade ends at Bradley Field, kicking off the GLBTI Pride Festival.
This year, the Festival’s headliner is the incomparable Martha Wash, the diva of dance music, whose hits include Gonna Make You Sweat. If you have ever been to a gay bar or listened to WKTU-FM for an hour, you know the rest of her resume in your sleep. Sharing the main stage with Martha are nine other performers. If I remember correctly, the Festival’s headliner usually performs around 5 pm.
Parade and Pride Celebration, noon to 7 pm, Bradley Field.
Additionally, tons of the businesses in Asbury Park are getting in on the rainbow action by offering sales, specials and extended hours. Spend some time on Cookman Avenue. Jeffrey, owner of the great Plan B restaurant, tells me he has something extra special planned.
The entire weekend, wrapped in a rainbow, is a one-of-a-kind scene. Energy and vibe – amazing. Costumes – awe inspiring. Spirit and energy – uplifting.
Tons more info about all these events at JerseyPride.org.
Look for the best and most photos and coverage of Pride in upcoming issues of this newspaper.
When Oprah calls – jump on a plane to Chicago. When 60 Minutes calls – hide.
During my time at Maury Povich, we joked that getting a call from 60 Minutes is worse than a call from the IRS. Mike Wallace doesn’t want to talk to you about your secret to a flawless tan. More likely, hold on to your hat sexy, one of your skeletons is flying out of the closet on Sunday evening. Call your mom and significant other and start repenting.
Recently, Thomas Beatie, a.k.a. “the Pregnant Man” got the call from Oprah and jumped on a plane with his wife, bumping the economic crisis we are being devastated by, off the front pages of every major newspaper and magazine around the world for a day, with his baby bump.
Yes, the Pregnant Man is confusing at first blush.
No, this is nothing more than two people – a family – having a baby girl they hope to raise the best way they possibly can.
I hear around town, “But what about the child? We can’t imagine the struggles she will face.”
Who hasn’t experienced some tough times growing up?
I cheer Thomas, Nancy and their baby. I send them all good energy, the best wishes possible and a bag of biodegradable diapers from Organic Style. (Plastic diapers take 400 years to biodegrade and make up 1.7 percent of all landfill, per Yahoo! Green Living).
There are way too many people that should not have a plant, let alone a child. Thomas and Nancy do not fall into this category.
The 360 degree responsibility view of raising a child is lost on so many when a baby can be made in three minutes (if she’s lucky).
The last sentence in Thomas’ article published in The Advocate is, “Our situation will ultimately will ask everyone to embrace the gamut of human possibility and to define for themselves what is normal.”
Every day in Asbury Park we embrace possibility and new concepts. A man giving birth will happen here one day and this community will, and should, embrace the couple and look forward to playing with their gift of a child on the Fifth Avenue Beach on one of those perfect July beach days.
In 25 years, this type of news will be so common it won’t even be worthy of a column in The Coaster.
Briefly: Gay Bowling rocks Juicy Jenn’s unparalleled Asbury Lanes on Saturday 7 p.m. to 10 p.m. $10 gets you pizza, shoe rental, retro movies, prizes (including a subscription to your favorite weekly newspaper), super people watching and brilliant fun – thanks to Michael Delia, the event’s dedicated organizer. It’s an Asbury Park Classic and recently been experiencing record-breaking attendance numbers. Gay “card” and bowling acumen not required.
OMG do you have spring fever like I do? How fun is it to see boys in shorts? How great does Bradley Park’s green makeover look?
The only part of spring I am not loving is the yard work. If all it took was boxtops and enthusiasm, I’d have the best yard on the block.
They can put a man on the moon, but no one can make grass I can grow in the shade, in sandy soil or a hose that doesn’t constantly knot up. The duplex at Wesley Grove looks better and better and better.
Spring and summer are the seasons our City shines the brightest – from tanned bodies to big events. Here is a peek at what’s in store.
The Jersey Shore Qspot is back with meetings the first Tuesday of each month at the Community Health Center on Main Street. First meeting, May 6, is “Ask the Nutrition Doctor,” June 3 is “Ask the Lawyer.” JSQSpot.com has all the details.
Coastal Habitat for Humanity’s thrift store the ReStore begins extended summer hours (open until 6 pm) on Friday evenings, Memorial Day weekend. The ReStore has developed a cult-like following of community members seeking out great “finds” of furniture, appliances, home accessories and more. Buy vintage items and collectables before the dealers do. Also, as you move through your spring cleaning, donate your lightly used, clean items to the ReStore. “Donations reduce landfill and go directly to helping our local community,” stated Asbury Park resident Gary Kilmer, the store’s manager and program director.
I took a first look at the detailed plans for The Deck – the every-season cocktail lounge currently being built on the second floor of the First Avenue Pavilion. The minds of Russell Lewis (Baker Boys), Paul Connolly and Andrew Hacking, bring a new top-tier environment to our City including: sumptuous earth tone interior, floor to ceiling windows offering 270 degree ocean views, 7,000 square foot deck, fireplace, elegant food and sumptuous sound system. This, in addition to entertainment such as a trapeze artist hanging from the ceiling and The Deck’s signature cocktail – Lollypop Mojito. Nice.
Road Trip 7 will be here before you know it. Check out the just-posted by Chairperson Brad Hurtado, first video of Road Trips past on YouTube. Search: “Road Trip Asbury Park.” Leverage the clip to invite your friends to the festivities at Road Trip 7 – July 18 to 20.
I hear David Beckham’s insanely hot spring and summer underwear ad campaign for Armani has created a new frenzy, for guys at waxing salons in the area – including Gloss Salon on Lake Avenue – the Boyzilian. Figure out where the wax goes and what comes off. And guys, please stop waxing your eyebrows.
Briefly: I am waiting for the results of Truman’s Wisdom Panel doggy DNA test to determine his exact genetic makeup. It’s obvious he is partially Pitt Bull – umm, I mean Staffordshire Terrier. I think he has some Boxer in him and one or two other breeds. Care to chime in with what breeds Truman is made of? Email me with your thoughts and I will send the winner my favorite Neutrogena sunscreen products for the beach. Photo of Truman at TheBPlot.com.
Every day is Earth Day at Organic Style in the Shoppes at the Arcade, Asbury Park.
Founder of Organic Style, Nancy Ehrlich dedicates 20 hours every month to find the best, hard-to-unearth, planet-friendly products for you and your home.
I am not talking Birkenstocks, granola and unkempt underarms. I am talking reasonably priced, useful, quality products designed for the 21st Century, which make a difference in your house, health and Earth.
“I always want to share and learn and teach what I learn about being environmentally aware,” stated Nancy, a Wanamassa resident. “My store enables me to do this and hopefully enables my customers to easily find products that help them positively impact the environment in their everyday lives.”
Some of the many great products that would make the King of Coaster “green” columns, Tom Pivinski, happy include:
Kiss My Face
A fabulously huge line of natural and organic products for your body including: lotions, lip balms, sun care, hair care, shave cream, cosmetics, toothpaste and super soaps made of 86% olive oil – with zero foamers and artificial colors. “Mediterranean Olive oil has been used for centuries to naturally moisturize the skin,” Nancy continued.
My favorite is the Liquid Rock deodorant. Founders Bob and Steve were the first to liquefy crystal deodorant stones for personal use 20 years ago.
Earth Friendly Products
A variety of plant-based, all-natural, essential oil cleaning products – pet care, detergents, soaps and more. Pet Dander-Out got the Day’s stank off of my Truman, naturally. They tell me that they are the only formaldehyde-free green cleaners made in the USA.
BioKleen Cleaning Products
“Every cleaning choice you make affects the health of your family and the planet,” stated Nancy. BioKleen’s products for your laundry, home and pet are Ozone safe and release no phosphates or hazardous materials.
Glee Gum
If you know me, you know I love me my bubble gum and this is my new favorite. Glee Gum is the only chewing gum around that is made with chicle – sap of the Sapodilla tree and the original main ingredient in gum – a renewable resource from the rainforests in Central America.
Nancy’s stock does not stop there. You’ll also find baby clothes, lady’s accessories and cosmetics.
Even the gorgeous sales counter and shelves in her store are green. The counter is made of oak floorboards and the shelves are treads from old stairs, salvaged from a 200 year old Pennsylvania farm.
More bargains on the products I mention are available at Nancy’s Earth Day celebration this Saturday from 1 pm to 5 pm. She’ll also have food samples and educational presentations, including the conversion of a camping trailer into a biodiesel vehicle (way cool).
Briefly: Cheers to Alex and Ramon, new owners of the completely renovated and re-launched Fisher’s Chat & Nibble, which celebrates its grand opening throughout April and May. You’ll find the same yummy fare with new additions and the incomparable Raphael. For those fresh to the area, Chat & Nibble is a local landmark and was the original “center of the universe” for everyone participating in our City’s rebirth.
The sleek blonde you see running around Asbury Park faster than a lesbian to a U-Haul is Aaron Coleman, events coordinator at Mattison Park and brilliant guy packed with the talent and creativity to rock this town.
For more than one year Aaron has been organizing some of the best, inspired and grand events in our City. Aaron knows how to throw a party New York-style and make everyone feel welcome.
“My goal is to get the fun, glamorous feeling that Asbury Park had years ago, back,” stated Aaron. “I want everyone to feel great and that they are part of something special when they come to have fun in town.”
Prior to moving full-time to Ocean Grove last year, with his partner Nicholas, Aaron spent the previous 10 years in New York City developing his event and marketing expertise by working directly with one of the top hair stylists in the U.S.
You and I both know a number of people in town that are all smoke and mirrors, trying to be a big fish in a small Sunset Lake. Aaron is the real deal – quality, originality, taste and substance with the background and energy to hold it all up.
He’s got a pulse on what’s great and special, translating a familiar cosmopolitan atmosphere to a new demographic in our one-of-a-kind City by the Sea.
At 32 years old, he is one of the ones to watch in our City. At 42, I predict he will have played a huge part in our City’s nightlife and entertainment successes. He is the new Shep Pettibone.
And I am just one of a sea of people who see a star in Aaron. Last week, Starline Films chose Aaron and Mattison Park to coordinate their Film Festival party for 50 VIPs and bold-faced names including: Danny Aiello, Vinny Pestore, Montel Williams, Randy Jones, Kwame Jackson and Chris Noth.
In seven days, Aaron rallied the troops, secured sponsors, developed a theme and seamlessly executed the Starline Party, complete with red carpet, velvet ropes and sky tracker lights for the entrance – leaving the best, first-class impression of Asbury Park on genuinely influential people.
“Having an interesting, diverse group of people and a great location are the major components to a great party,” stated Aaron. “Asbury Park and Mattison Park have this component built right in.”
Mattison Park, located in the former First Merchant’s National Bank building – renovated last year to the tune of $800,000 by owner Kris Karcich – celebrated its one year anniversary last month.
Aaron gave me a preview of the upcoming events he is planning at Mattison Park, and you should Blackberry:
Dinner and a Movie, Sundays in April. Continuing the Film Festival theme, every Sunday in April at 7 pm, the main room will be transformed into an intimate lounge theatre screening the movies Rent, Across the Universe and Moulin Rouge.
Tuesdays in May, starting the 13th, see Viva Vagina (yup, I said it) directed by Marjorie Conn of Ocean Grove. Similar to the Vagina Monologues, ladies offer poignant performances about their most feminine of areas. Special guests each week include Dr. Geena and Susan Pelligrini.
First weekend in June, Mattison Park sponsors the Gay Pride Festival and a parade float celebrating our City’s diversity.
The sleek blonde you see running around Asbury Park faster than a lesbian to a U-Haul is Aaron Coleman, events coordinator at Mattison Park and brilliant guy packed with the talent and creativity to rock this town.
For more than one year Aaron has been organizing some of the best, inspired and grand events in our City. Aaron knows how to throw a party New York-style and make everyone feel welcome.
“My goal is to get the fun, glamorous feeling that Asbury Park had years ago, back,” stated Aaron. “I want everyone to feel great and that they are part of something special when they come to have fun in town.”
Prior to moving full-time to Ocean Grove last year, with his partner Nicholas, Aaron spent the previous 10 years in New York City developing his event and marketing expertise by working directly with one of the top hair stylists in the U.S.
You and I both know a number of people in town that are all smoke and mirrors, trying to be a big fish in a small Sunset Lake. Aaron is the real deal – quality, originality, taste and substance with the background and energy to hold it all up.
He’s got a pulse on what’s great and special, translating a familiar cosmopolitan atmosphere to a new demographic in our one-of-a-kind City by the Sea.
At 32 years old, he is one of the ones to watch in our City. At 42, I predict he will have played a huge part in our City’s nightlife and entertainment successes. He is the new Shep Pettibone.
And I am just one of a sea of people who see a star in Aaron. Last week, Starline Films chose Aaron and Mattison Park to coordinate their Film Festival party for 50 VIPs and bold-faced names including: Danny Aiello, Vinny Pestore, Montel Williams, Randy Jones, Kwame Jackson and Chris Noth.
In seven days, Aaron rallied the troops, secured sponsors, developed a theme and seamlessly executed the Starline Party, complete with red carpet, velvet ropes and sky tracker lights for the entrance – leaving the best, first-class impression of Asbury Park on genuinely influential people.
“Having an interesting, diverse group of people and a great location are the major components to a great party,” stated Aaron. “Asbury Park and Mattison Park have this component built right in.”
Mattison Park, located in the former First Merchant’s National Bank building – renovated last year to the tune of $800,000 by owner Kris Karcich – celebrated its one year anniversary last month.
Aaron gave me a preview of the upcoming events he is planning at Mattison Park, and you should Blackberry:
Dinner and a Movie, Sundays in April. Continuing the Film Festival theme, every Sunday in April at 7 pm, the main room will be transformed into an intimate lounge theatre screening the movies Rent, Across the Universe and Moulin Rouge.
Tuesdays in May, starting the 13th, see Viva Vagina (yup, I said it) directed by Marjorie Conn of Ocean Grove. Similar to the Vagina Monologues, ladies offer poignant performances about their most feminine of areas. Special guests each week include Dr. Geena and Susan Pelligrini.
First weekend in June, Mattison Park sponsors the Gay Pride Festival and a parade float celebrating our City’s diversity.
There is a place for everyone in our City. Every type of personality can find a home here and originality is encouraged.
Even Sopranos’ star James Gandolfini – a huge fan of our City – spent the past three months looking for a second home in the ‘greater’ area. In the end, he decided on a $2.1 million gorgeous country home on 15 acres in Far Hills, New Jersey, built in the late 1800’s completely renovated in the late 1900’s. I’ve been in the house and it’s a completely different choice than what he was finding around here for his family.
For the second in this three part series (first column at TheCoaster.net) regarding the 2008 real estate market in our City, I asked a bunch of our great realtors where they would place some of our favorite bold faced names, should they come a-knocking on Asbury Park’s door.
Simon Cowell
“Wanamassa Point, on the lake – ‘The Point’ is as one of a kind as he is,” Janet Manni, newly crowned broker, James J. Pentz Realtors.
“Penthouse at The Griffin. It’s grand enough for his grander ego.” Susan McCarthy, realtor, John C. Conover Agency.
“Near Georgie’s so he is close to Wednesday’s Karaoke night,” Jim Kesling, realtor, Prudential Zack Shore.
Pee-Wee Herman
“A tent in Ocean Grove,” Janet.
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt
“Stunning 602 Sixth Avenue – seven bedrooms, two fireplaces, and a stunning backyard including a heated pool to keep all the kids and their friends happy,” Susan.
“A penthouse in the Santander. Funky, old-world, classic and elegant charm, (kinda like France),” Janet.
“At my house,” Carl Chesna, newly certified EcoBroker (one of a handful in all of New Jersey), Prudential Zack Shore.
Andy Warhol
“The Marilyn Building on Monroe,” Jim.
Ellen DeGeneres
“Main Avenue in Ocean Grove. She has to dance her way over to Baker Boys for a cupcake when ever she feels it,” Carl.
“Mary Fallon’s house on First Avenue – it’s close to The Empress and Circuit when Ellen feels like dancing,” Susan.
George Clooney
“The spare room at my house,” Janet.
“Penthouse at The Griffin – ultra sophisticated and hot, just like him,” Susan.
Britney Spears
“I would send her to my friend Geena who has a great apartment on Cookman Avenue for the adjustment of a lifetime – or maybe a life adjustment just in time,” Carl.
“The nun retreat house in Ocean Grove. If the sisters can’t help this twisted sister…” Janet.
Dolly Parton
“I’d take her to a small farm in Farmingdale (Where Charlie Ingalls came from) so she could go back to her roots,” Carl Chesna.
The final real estate chapter next week, with housing for Rosie O’Donnell, Rachael Ray our President and more.
“Save the Date” gear shift: Kathleen Banks of Trillium tells me exclusively that, with the great help of Madison Marquette, she is planning a spectacular antique show at Convention Hall for Mother’s Day weekend – May 10 and 11 – that’s “bigger and better than ever.” She says there will be two full floors of dealers selling unique items all weekend and on Sunday, the show will culminate with a giveaway of hundreds of potted violets to our wonderful and amazing moms. Take her to the show and then to brunch at one of the fab restaurants in town. Dealers – call Kathleen for details at 732.988.8585. Shoppers – more to come.
The 2008 real estate market officially kicks off on Saturday.
I am letting you know before anyone that there is an area record-breaking deal, brokered by Susan McCarthy of John Conover Realtor, under contract right now. Final details are just being worked out on the sale of my friends Dennis and Patrick’s house.
The home is absolutely spectacular all around – a genuine one-of-a-kind designer’s showcase, including: unparalleled 180 degree views of Deal Lake, ultra top tier renovation, at least 100 feet of lake frontage, guest house, Oprah-worthy kitchen, exclusive, quiet and secluded location and tons more. We are talking way more than $1 million for a single family home here guys – and well worth every penny.
Money is attracted to quality and top quality is selling at record-breaking prices in our area.
For the first in a three part series of columns focusing on the local real estate market, I spoke with some of the best and the brightest realtors. Here is the scoop:
The B Plot: What is your overall perspective regarding the real estate climate in our area?
Carl Chesna, broker, Prudential Zach Shore: I’ve done more business in the past six weeks than in the past six months. Home prices have stabilized, interest rates have come down even more and consumer confidence and real estate is beginning to take a turn positive again. I believe we’ve bottomed out in the valley of the dolls, and are beginning our broke climb back up the real estate mountain!
TBP: What, in 2008, is the typical buyer looking for in a home here?
Janet Manni, broker and associate, James J. Pentz Realtors: Clients want more bathrooms. Older houses typically didn’t have master baths or even more than one bathroom.
Carl: I see more buyers, than four years ago, wanting homes that are renovated, so they can just move right in. It’s impossible for a seller to overspend on a luxury kitchen or bathroom renovation. I also see more and more people looking for energy efficient homes and renewable resources – things like on-demand hot water and bamboo flooring.
TBP: Gotcha – forget the Home Depot renovations. What can sellers do, for $500, to make their homes more desirable to buyers?
Carl: Hire a good cleaning lady and landscaper to make the entire property neat and tidy. What is clean to you may not be what’s clean to a buyer. And keep it neat until the house is sold.
Anthony Gonzalez, realtor, Weichert in Ocean Township: Get rid of the terrible wallpaper – you love it however the future buyer of your home may not.
TBP: What can sellers do for no cost?
Anthony: Air out the house and clean out the basement and garage – very important. A buyer’s opinion of a home is made in the first 35 seconds of entering it.
Janet: Put away the kid’s toys and make sure the cat’s litter box is always clean.
TBP: What advice do you have for sellers in this market?
Carl: Don’t beat yourself up about not having sold when the market was at its highest. The fact is that right now we’re going into the spring market – so if you need to sell this year – now is the time to list your home. Being on the shore, we have a serious seasonal cycle of buyers (more in the spring and summer). Don’t forget to look at the little picture!
TBP: Ever walk into a home and see something crazy?
Janet: Most surprising was a very naked, comfortably napping tenant.
Carl: I’ve seen everything! Absolutely nothing surprises me. One time it was tons of nude photos of the homeowner all around the house.
Next week, where our real estate stars would put Hollywood stars like Simon Cowell, Andy Warhol, Hanna Montana and Pee Wee Herman, in town.
Did you receive a ‘message gift’ this holiday – a present that says more about how the giver feels about you than could ever be put into words? The message can be positive (a vacation says, “I care for you and want to spend more time with you”) or negative (a hair buzzer or toaster says, well, you got it). I know people in town who got both those gifts. Hmmm.
Naturally, negative message gifts never come from the great stores in our town, however cool, innovative business names do. I was curious about the genesis of some of the names and reached out to Asbury Park’s store owners.
Pereaux
“We opened our first store in Mendham, New Jersey in 1977,” stated Dennis Fishbach, founder. “The preparation for the opening had been going on for months and months. After another long day of arranging the store, my partner and I sat down for cocktails with our graphic designer, his sister. I asked her what the prettiest letters in the alphabet were. After that, it became a drunken Scrabble game to come up with something that made sense for the name of our store. The name and its font have withstood the test of time. Pereaux worked out so well, we named our real estate arm Pereaux Deux.”
Not that you asked, but Dennis gets my vote as absolutely the most warm, engaging man in this town. He has the gift to be able to talk with anyone and make the person feel comfortable.
Trillium Antiques
“The name Trillium represents the flower and my life,” explained Kathleen Banks, owner. “It has nothing to do with Battlestar Galactica, as some people think. We lived in Vermont in the 1980’s and our yard had Trillium all over. It’s my favorite flower and represents the luckiest and most perfect number – the number three. The flower itself has three leaves and three petals. When we moved back here I had to name my business Trillium Antiques.”
Restaurant Plan B
“When Luis and I were thinking about starting a new business, we knew we wanted to be in Asbury Park,” stated Jeffrey, owner. “I first wanted to open a bed and breakfast. We decided to open a restaurant, we were at a bar-b-que and everyone kept telling us what we should name the restaurant, but all the names were so basic or boring. Friends said ‘call it Jeffrey,’ or ‘call it my daughter’s name.’ Finally, I thought that since the restaurant was my second plan for Asbury Park, I would call it Restaurant Plan B.”
Moonstruck
“I love Cher and when we saw the movie Moonstruck for the first time I thought it would be a great name for a restaurant some day,” stated Luke Magliaro, owner with Howard Raczkiewicz. “Moonstruck was great for three reasons – it represented a combination of Italian American, just like our restaurant; the name had a city feel and, most importantly, it was romantic. When we moved to Asbury Park, the name was even more appropriate because you can sit on the balcony and see the moon sometimes.”
FYI, Moonstruck reopens on February 13 – just in time for a fabulous Valentine’s Day. Take your love of the moment early because Luke does not take reservations.
Esphera
“Loosely translated Esphera means ‘what goes around comes around’ in Spanish,” stated Ryan Sabatos, founder. “That philosophy is one which I live my life by and founded my business on.”
ReVision Theatre Company
“Tom, David and I brainstormed names for our theatre company for about one month,” stated Stephen Bishop Seely. “We came up with about 375 possible names, which included: Bad Neighbors Theatre Company, The Theatre Factory, The Good Fortune Company, Angels in Hell, Three’s Company and Above the Water Theatre. Because we were transforming our theatre company in New York City to a new theatre company in Asbury Park, we all agreed on ReVision. And the rest, as they say, is history.”
Cry Baby Art Gallery
“I am the type of girl that cries at anything,” stated Jennifer Graef, owner. “Good, bad, happy, sad – I cry. My tears come alive by artwork, too. If I like the artwork I cry. Mid-2006, we were driving from an art opening in New York City. We were so excited that we were going to be opening our own gallery soon and began brainstorming gallery names. After tossing out a ton of names, we decided on Cry Baby because each piece in our gallery has such emotion.”
Veteran’s Day is Monday. I thought I would acknowledge our Veterans (thank you, big time) and some other men and women in town who put their life on the line for us every day, selflessly, without hesitation, for the good of every one of us. Their strength and fortitude is humbling considering the huge spectrum of exacting work that is expected.
So, a huge shout out to our police officers and firefighters. They keep the peace, tame the flames and look good doing it. What more can you ask?
The Fire Department’s web site details that they have a “yearly run of 5,900 to 6,400 per year” which makes them the “busiest department, per capita in New Jersey.” If you have seen them in action, I know you are in awe of them.
September 20, I saw our police officers and fire workers in action, firsthand, managing the blaze on the fourteenth floor of Monroe Tower and the accompanying confusion.
As the Tired City News was figuring out who to complain about; as the cranky Asbury Park Pallid reporter was wondering what floor the fire was on; as Snooze 12 New Jersey was still setting up their cameras; as WNBC and CNN were phoning in what was already reported locally; as the Faded Star-Ledger waited patiently for the press conference, your intrepid Coaster team had the story and photos on TheCoaster.net. The Coaster already had the answers and I had time to watch in amazement, Asbury’s Finest at their best. And objectify a number of them.
It was an 85-degree Thursday and the fire workers were dressed in layer upon layer of gear that weighed countless pounds. Then, they climbed 14 stories wearing all that stuff and carrying a big hose. I would have given up after two floors – or honestly, as soon as I saw the outfit. These men and women have the fierce fortitude to walk towards a situation with an uncountable number of potentially deadly variables.
I stood on a corner watching outrageously terrifying flames and thick black smoke bulge out of the sliding glass door of the apartment on fire. Then, smoke and fire billowed out of the door and windows. Minutes later we saw the blaze starting to come out of the apartments on the fifteenth floor. It was horrible, frightening and dramatic.
On the ground tons of people gathered. As time passed, the black smoke started to turn dark grey and six firefighters appeared on the apartment balcony, drenched from hosing down the flames in ungodly temperatures. It was amazing. Then, we saw more firefighters, dressed in black and orange, with reflective accents peering out the side broken window.
As they moved closer to the edge of the balcony and fresher air, I saw each of them remove their mask to reveal a face that wore expressions of seriousness, exhaustion, focus and relief. Their calm movements spoke loudly, “just another day on the job.”
That’s more than most people I know could ever do in a day, on any job.
These fire workers and police officers are top tier – nothing builder’s grade about them. Give them their props. We truly can’t make anything happen in this town without them.
One of my favorite Asbury Park memories this year was sliding down the historic 30 foot long, brass fire pole at the firehouse. So much history around that pole and a very exclusive club of heroes has slid down it – I was honored and exhilarated to have done that in 2009. 
TPB: What’s a clip that has not made it in the show but is memorable?
Answers to the most common questions asked about “You Say Who” – the area’s only gossip column…
It seems like there are more Halloween events around town than there are mini pumpkins and gourds in a gay man’s Autumn exteriorscape. Pet parades, séances and a huge Ball are all in the works to make the holiday terrifyingly fabulous. 
“I can’t wait to see the over the top costumes,” said Aaron. “This is a party for everyone. I know of one group coming here instead of going to Salem (Mass.)”
A new season of Gay Bowling at Asbury Lanes (Fourth Avenue at Kingsley) kicks off next month. In anticipation of more great fun at the Lanes, I spoke with Asbury Park-resident Michael Delia – Gay Bowling’s organizer.
Rarely is there feel-goodness, pure joy and wonderful frivolity set to song the way six guys from New York City – one with a home in Asbury Park – did here Sunday of Labor Day weekend.
As written by David Willis in the 
LAST month, Howard Roche and Luke Magliaro [photo left], owners of the iconic Moonstruck restaurant, quietly celebrated two decades of palate pleasing. In an exclusive Coaster and TheBPlot interview, they discussed the evolution of their business, partnership and passion for putting the customer first…
Every customer I spoke with echoed Carolyn’s sentiments, however Luke and Howard don’t rest on praise, working with an ever-evolving menu.
Century 21 Coastal Realtors, who has known Luke and Howard for decades. 
Lately, I have been so amazed at the gorgeous, fun products created for our companion animals. 
The curtain rises next Thursday (August 12) on 
Sunday, Page Six tried to break the news that Whitney Houston [left] will not be performing live on Good Morning America (
As Whitney Houston continues her strategically choreographed “listening tour” – stops have included Beverly Hills and London - to begin the drum beat for the release of her new album “I Look to You” on September 1, I spoke with two friends of Asbury Park and attendees of last Tuesday’s party in New York’s Time-Warner building. Over cocktails on Watermark’s new and gorgeous 2500 sq. foot cedar deck, our friends gave me the exciting first-hand scoop: 
“Clive talked about the four year journey to produce this album in front of an amazing group of guests, including: Martha Stewart, Diane Sawyer, Alicia Keys (who wrote one of the tracks), Gayle King, Vivica Fox and tons of the most powerful music and radio industry executives. 
TBP: What’s your fave Asbury Park moment?
Mayor: My message to everyone is very simple – be who you are. I really never concentrate on the fact that I am Black or Native American or gay or a man or an educator. All of these things are the parts that make up the much larger person that I am. 
Avenue. Produced by the super-talented 
music by DJ Rico. 
Amanda: I love Asbury Park. Growing up in New Jersey, I have always loved the beach. I think I got lost on the Asbury Park boardwalk as a kid. 
The Tides is also throwing no cover charge pool parties Saturday and Sunday afternoon. I love that place to relax with a cocktail on their original Frank Gehry-designed outdoor furniture, surrounded by lush foliage, art, people and architecture. It’s a vacation in our backyard.
Suzanne Westenhoefer – the very first openly gay comic, in the early 1990’s – rules the stage of the Stone Pony next 
Covering the circus that was the Liza Minnelli – David Gest wedding in 2002 for Howard Stern, I watched a number of celebrities pass through the side “VIP Entrance” of the stunning Marble Collegiate Church. 
A vacation or your mouth is within reach with the new hand-crafted chocolate and caramel extravagances made fresh in Asbury Park by Jack Petronella, owner, Manhattan Jack Confections.
TBP: What is misunderstood about Little Edie?
by Richard Virgilio
by Richard Virgilio
